Neighbor mad I didn’t answer the door. Was I wrong?

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Anonymous wrote:Walk over and apologize that you didn’t open the door shake hands and hug. Then say you have the flu.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

I don’t need or want gifts from neighbors or to give money to anyone who comes to my door.

And like the PPs, I couldn’t care less that you think I’m antisocial. I think you’re boring and desperate, that you have nothing better to do than be interrupted all day by salesmen. Some of us have lives.

Apparently you don't have a life. You have a bubble.

If I was one handshake away from the Harveys, I'd be weary too. However, with that logic and a personal incident at an OB/GYN, I'd never see a doctor either. It is unreasonable for your neighbors to expect you to answer the door without an appointment, but expecting everything to happen according to your plan is ridiculous. Wait until you're old. Human F2F contact can't be replaced completely with electronic communication. And frankly, it is more important to have personal interactions with the people physically located in your immediate area so you know who you can trust.

Are you a door to door salesman or something? Why are you so insistent that people answer their door when it’s not convenient for them and they aren’t expecting anyone??

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

I do not answer if I am not expecting someone. Too bad.
Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

I don’t need or want gifts from neighbors or to give money to anyone who comes to my door.

And like the PPs, I couldn’t care less that you think I’m antisocial. I think you’re boring and desperate, that you have nothing better to do than be interrupted all day by salesmen. Some of us have lives.

Apparently you don't have a life. You have a bubble.

If I was one handshake away from the Harveys, I'd be weary too. However, with that logic and a personal incident at an OB/GYN, I'd never see a doctor either. It is unreasonable for your neighbors to expect you to answer the door without an appointment, but expecting everything to happen according to your plan is ridiculous. Wait until you're old. Human F2F contact can't be replaced completely with electronic communication. And frankly, it is more important to have personal interactions with the people physically located in your immediate area so you know who you can trust.

I’m the PP you’re responding to, and this was my first post. I think it’s crazy entitled for someone to expect me to be at their beck and call so they can stop by my house and interrupt me whenever they feel like it... even without the added safety concerns that the PPs raised. Very valid concerns.

Marge and Wilma will need to find someone else to interrupt to break up the monotony of their days with stories of whatever it is that boring people want to discuss with their neighbors these days. I honestly don’t have time for it.

LMAO. You do you, Bubble Woman. You're a peach!

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

I don’t need or want gifts from neighbors or to give money to anyone who comes to my door.

And like the PPs, I couldn’t care less that you think I’m antisocial. I think you’re boring and desperate, that you have nothing better to do than be interrupted all day by salesmen. Some of us have lives.

Apparently you don't have a life. You have a bubble.

If I was one handshake away from the Harveys, I'd be weary too. However, with that logic and a personal incident at an OB/GYN, I'd never see a doctor either. It is unreasonable for your neighbors to expect you to answer the door without an appointment, but expecting everything to happen according to your plan is ridiculous. Wait until you're old. Human F2F contact can't be replaced completely with electronic communication. And frankly, it is more important to have personal interactions with the people physically located in your immediate area so you know who you can trust.

Are you a door to door salesman or something? Why are you so insistent that people answer their door when it’s not convenient for them and they aren’t expecting anyone??

I'm not saying drop everything every time the doorbell rings. I don't. And someon popping over every day unannounced is annoying.

However, no one's so busy or so important that they can't be socialable once in awhile. I know, I know. DCUM just can't wait for everyone over 50 to die, so they can take their jobs, homes, land, whatever, so they can live in peace and control their children's every move until ... the kids move away and see their grandchild only via Portal on a pre-established day every month.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg I’m a sahm with a lot of older activist type neighbors who are always knocking on the door with a petition or wanting to talk about this or that. I hate the implication that I must answer the door just because I’m home and I get really ticked off when I’m elbows deep in dishes or in the middle of changing a diaper or is naptime and they wake the kids. I feel you OP.

Get a cute sign from Etsy that says do not ring the bell or knock on the door. Hang it over your doorbell. Works like a charm.

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Anonymous wrote:"Sorry, I had diarrhea and was stuck on the toilet when she knocked."

Text her a picture of that.
Crazy neighbors you have!

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Anonymous wrote:Omg I’m a sahm with a lot of older activist type neighbors who are always knocking on the door with a petition or wanting to talk about this or that. I hate the implication that I must answer the door just because I’m home and I get really ticked off when I’m elbows deep in dishes or in the middle of changing a diaper or is naptime and they wake the kids. I feel you OP.

Get a cute sign from Etsy that says do not ring the bell or knock on the door. Hang it over your doorbell. Works like a charm.

Famously easy trick - lock your screen door. You can’t hear any knocking.
And disconnect your doorbell.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg I’m a sahm with a lot of older activist type neighbors who are always knocking on the door with a petition or wanting to talk about this or that. I hate the implication that I must answer the door just because I’m home and I get really ticked off when I’m elbows deep in dishes or in the middle of changing a diaper or is naptime and they wake the kids. I feel you OP.

Get a cute sign from Etsy that says do not ring the bell or knock on the door. Hang it over your doorbell. Works like a charm.

Famously easy trick - lock your screen door. You can’t hear any knocking.
And disconnect your doorbell.

I don’t have a screen door. I have a ring doorbell as of recently. Did not have a doorbell at all before so they would always knock.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

I don’t need or want gifts from neighbors or to give money to anyone who comes to my door.

And like the PPs, I couldn’t care less that you think I’m antisocial. I think you’re boring and desperate, that you have nothing better to do than be interrupted all day by salesmen. Some of us have lives.

Apparently you don't have a life. You have a bubble.

If I was one handshake away from the Harveys, I'd be weary too. However, with that logic and a personal incident at an OB/GYN, I'd never see a doctor either. It is unreasonable for your neighbors to expect you to answer the door without an appointment, but expecting everything to happen according to your plan is ridiculous. Wait until you're old. Human F2F contact can't be replaced completely with electronic communication. And frankly, it is more important to have personal interactions with the people physically located in your immediate area so you know who you can trust.

Are you a door to door salesman or something? Why are you so insistent that people answer their door when it’s not convenient for them and they aren’t expecting anyone??

I'm not saying drop everything every time the doorbell rings. I don't. And someon popping over every day unannounced is annoying.

However, no one's so busy or so important that they can't be socialable once in awhile. I know, I know. DCUM just can't wait for everyone over 50 to die, so they can take their jobs, homes, land, whatever, so they can live in peace and control their children's every move until ... the kids move away and see their grandchild only via Portal on a pre-established day every month.

I'm not "too important". 9 out of 10 times, the knock is from a solicitor, and I used to get at least one an evening when I lived in Fed Hill in Baltimore. They were always BGE imposters, or selling meat/knives/whatever (magazine subscriptions was a big one for a while), or wanting my signature on some sort of petition, or God knows what. Honestly, it's dark out at 5pm sometimes, and I'm usually in the middle of cooking dinner or dealing with a crying kid, and I'm not going to listen to your sales pitch. It feels more polite to not answer than to answer and immediately shut the door with a "sorry, not interested". My neighbors would text me if they needed to borrow an egg or recieved my package by mistake or something.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg I’m a sahm with a lot of older activist type neighbors who are always knocking on the door with a petition or wanting to talk about this or that. I hate the implication that I must answer the door just because I’m home and I get really ticked off when I’m elbows deep in dishes or in the middle of changing a diaper or is naptime and they wake the kids. I feel you OP.

Get a cute sign from Etsy that says do not ring the bell or knock on the door. Hang it over your doorbell. Works like a charm.

And get a Knock Nanny (on Amazon)

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg I’m a sahm with a lot of older activist type neighbors who are always knocking on the door with a petition or wanting to talk about this or that. I hate the implication that I must answer the door just because I’m home and I get really ticked off when I’m elbows deep in dishes or in the middle of changing a diaper or is naptime and they wake the kids. I feel you OP.

Get a cute sign from Etsy that says do not ring the bell or knock on the door. Hang it over your doorbell. Works like a charm.

Famously easy trick - lock your screen door. You can’t hear any knocking.
And disconnect your doorbell.

I don’t have a screen door. I have a ring doorbell as of recently. Did not have a doorbell at all before so they would always knock.

Screen doors are wonderful things.