Neighbor mad I didn’t answer the door. Was I wrong?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lost a neighbor friend a while back because he suggested a door to door Vivent rep talk to me without telling me. The rep knock on my door and I never answered. Then he kept coming back and knocking like crazy for couple of days. I almost called the cops but got so mad one day that I just opened the door and said, "What is it?". The rep explains that the neighbor referred me and so I let him in to give his pitch and bought nothing. Never talked to that neighbor again...

Did you confirm that he really referred him? This is a tactic that sales people use, "your neighbor referred you!"

BTW, I don't answer my door. In fact I use my Ring doorbell to answer and I send the sales people away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I lost a neighbor friend a while back because he suggested a door to door Vivent rep talk to me without telling me. The rep knock on my door and I never answered. Then he kept coming back and knocking like crazy for couple of days. I almost called the cops but got so mad one day that I just opened the door and said, "What is it?". The rep explains that the neighbor referred me and so I let him in to give his pitch and bought nothing. Never talked to that neighbor again...

Did you confirm that he really referred him? This is a tactic that sales people use, "your neighbor referred you!"

BTW, I don't answer my door. In fact I use my Ring doorbell to answer and I send the sales people away.

The neighbor is several houses down so there is no way he would know we were friends. He showed me a picture of them and said several things that only that neighbor would know...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

Regardless, OP’s neighbors are jerks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

I don’t need or want gifts from neighbors or to give money to anyone who comes to my door.

And like the PPs, I couldn’t care less that you think I’m antisocial. I think you’re boring and desperate, that you have nothing better to do than be interrupted all day by salesmen. Some of us have lives.

[Anonymous]

Omg I’m a sahm with a lot of older activist type neighbors who are always knocking on the door with a petition or wanting to talk about this or that. I hate the implication that I must answer the door just because I’m home and I get really ticked off when I’m elbows deep in dishes or in the middle of changing a diaper or is naptime and they wake the kids. I feel you OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

NP. That’s fine, you do you. I don’t open my door. And the back door is locked, I think that’s how they got in to the Harvey home. One person knocked in front while others went around back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

I don’t need or want gifts from neighbors or to give money to anyone who comes to my door.

And like the PPs, I couldn’t care less that you think I’m antisocial. I think you’re boring and desperate, that you have nothing better to do than be interrupted all day by salesmen. Some of us have lives.

Apparently you don't have a life. You have a bubble.

If I was one handshake away from the Harveys, I'd be weary too. However, with that logic and a personal incident at an OB/GYN, I'd never see a doctor either. It is unreasonable for your neighbors to expect you to answer the door without an appointment, but expecting everything to happen according to your plan is ridiculous. Wait until you're old. Human F2F contact can't be replaced completely with electronic communication. And frankly, it is more important to have personal interactions with the people physically located in your immediate area so you know who you can trust.

[Anonymous]

I live in an apartment. I don’t know my neighbors, they don’t know me, and I think we all prefer it that way!

If one of them knocked on my door unannounced I probably wouldn’t answer either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in an apartment. I don’t know my neighbors, they don’t know me, and I think we all prefer it that way!

If one of them knocked on my door unannounced I probably wouldn’t answer either.

Preach the gospel of the peace that resides with this approach. And I shall say, Amen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

I don’t need or want gifts from neighbors or to give money to anyone who comes to my door.

And like the PPs, I couldn’t care less that you think I’m antisocial. I think you’re boring and desperate, that you have nothing better to do than be interrupted all day by salesmen. Some of us have lives.

Ok Grandpa Simpson. I get it. That Matlock isn't going to watch itself!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would reply "I am home with the flu and was asleep."

No apology needed at all for not answering your door. The assumption that you should be at their beck and call is RUDE AS HELL. In an emergency, they should dial 911.

I agree. If I was well, and not expecting her, I wouldn’t have answered the door anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were friends with the Harvey family (who were murdered in Richmond when someone knocked and entered their home via the unlocked front door on NY day in 2007). I NEVER answer the door if I don’t feel like it or if I’m not expecting someone. I don’t even answer it for Instacart (they just leave it on my porch). I am probably a bit extreme but you should never feel bad for not answering your door. These neighbors are ridiculous. OP no guilt. I would just ignore them.

If OP doesn’t respond to neighbor’s text and later runs into them somewhere and those wacko neighbors mention it, I would say “Really Susan, I thought you were kidding over being upset about my not answering the door. Ok then”

WEll you do know that not responding might make them think the home is empty so they might try to break in. It is stunning the amount of fear in which people live. You do know that driving your car anywhere is more dangerous than answering your door.

Do you know anything about the Harvey case? They weren’t looking to break into an unoccupied home. I don’t care if you find my fear stunning, I am still not answering the door. Leave your judgment somewhere else Susan.

Yes I know about that case and the door was unlocked so I don't know how not getting off your butt to see who is it puts you at any greater risk if you just lock your door. It is weird, irrational and antisocial to sit locked in your house, turning away anyone who doesn't text first. God forbid the Boy Scouts are doing a food drive, or the Volunteer firemen are trying to raise money or your neighbor has a gift for you - Karen is too scared to come to the door because one time in a country of 350 million people some people that some people she knew told her they knew people who were killed by a guy who walked into their unlocked house 2.5 hours from here. 33,000 people are killed every year in car accidents but I bet you drive every day, even put your kid in your car. If you are gonna freak out, put your energies into something that might be statistically likely.

I don’t need or want gifts from neighbors or to give money to anyone who comes to my door.

And like the PPs, I couldn’t care less that you think I’m antisocial. I think you’re boring and desperate, that you have nothing better to do than be interrupted all day by salesmen. Some of us have lives.

Apparently you don't have a life. You have a bubble.

If I was one handshake away from the Harveys, I'd be weary too. However, with that logic and a personal incident at an OB/GYN, I'd never see a doctor either. It is unreasonable for your neighbors to expect you to answer the door without an appointment, but expecting everything to happen according to your plan is ridiculous. Wait until you're old. Human F2F contact can't be replaced completely with electronic communication. And frankly, it is more important to have personal interactions with the people physically located in your immediate area so you know who you can trust.

I’m the PP you’re responding to, and this was my first post. I think it’s crazy entitled for someone to expect me to be at their beck and call so they can stop by my house and interrupt me whenever they feel like it... even without the added safety concerns that the PPs raised. Very valid concerns.

Marge and Wilma will need to find someone else to interrupt to break up the monotony of their days with stories of whatever it is that boring people want to discuss with their neighbors these days. I honestly don’t have time for it.