Men : do you care about a woman’s job/career?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never cared about a womans job, unless it was something interesting. I make decent enough money that I never expected a woman or anyone else to help supplement my lifestyle.

What if she had a high paying intense job and expected you to follow her when she relocated and take a back seat at your job so that you could be available when she was available, and do the work of running the house and raising children?

My experience is that men say that they don’t care what you do for a living AS LONG as it doesn’t get in the way of anything they want to do.

You'd have to be stupid to marry a woman like that, because she won't respect you and will eventually dump you for some high-earner, high-status guy she meets at work.

"I don't care what you do so long as it doesn't affect me negatively" is a real no-duh conclusion.

So, why do men keep saying that what a woman does for a living doesn’t matter as long as she is hot? Clearly it DOES matter. Why lie?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well from my experience most men do care.

Maybe it was the men I dated but they indeed cared,
So more than others but yes they cared

My hubby is successful and wanted to make sure I had my
Own ambitions and he’s seen that I do. This doesn’t mean I can’t stay at home. I’m actually staying at home (expecting our first). He just wanted someone who have drive -it wasnt about a career as much as I wasn’t going to hang on to his success to make me feel better and I wouldn’t want to.

Well what is your job now and how much do you make? It does not seems like you are ambition and career minded by your post.

[Anonymous]

(Most) men just aren't wired to expect women to support them financially, so it's more about what the job says about a woman's personal qualities. Professions that don't pay well but require nice personalities, like teaching or nursing are highly attractive.

I think this is a big factor in why women tend to make less. There just isn't as much of an upside for them to get into some grinding career for the money and status like there is with men. It's better to find something that is personally more fulfilling and offers more flexibility, which usually means less pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, why do men keep saying that what a woman does for a living doesn’t matter as long as she is hot? Clearly it DOES matter. Why lie?

It's not a lie. You are just too dumb to understand men. The woman needs to meet a certain basic level of hotness. If she doesn't, then her career doesn't matter because no matter how great it is, he won't want to marry her. If she does, then her career is irrelevant to him unless it impacts him negatively - an assumption that really shouldn't need stating. Women operate under the same assumption, and apply it even more ruthlessly - the instant your career affects them negatively, you lose utility to them and they will kick you to the kerb.

[Anonymous]

I mean how many successful women do you know who also have success in love and marriage.

Being successful didn't help Huma Abedin land a good man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean how many successful women do you know who also have success in love and marriage.

Being successful didn't help Huma Abedin land a good man.

For a woman who is obviously attracted to power, he probably seemed like a catch. If he wasn't an out of control sex creep, he'd be a congressman by now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

I met my DW at her workplace. She was successful. When we found out she was pregnant it wasn’t even a question of her quitting, I asked why she waited so long to quit. Because yeah I wanted a trophy wife, a sophisticated one. My wife is total package, gorgeous, smart, sophisticated, domestic goddess. And she doesn’t have to pay a mortgage with a quarter of her pay check. We were smart and don’t have a mortgage. Getting laid was/is a priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

I met my DW at her workplace. She was successful. When we found out she was pregnant it wasn’t even a question of her quitting, I asked why she waited so long to quit. Because yeah I wanted a trophy wife, a sophisticated one. My wife is total package, gorgeous, smart, sophisticated, domestic goddess. And she doesn’t have to pay a mortgage with a quarter of her pay check. We were smart and don’t have a mortgage. Getting laid was/is a priority.

Yes. This is what men want: a woman who has a successful career, but will drop it in order to support him and his career. Close second is the “stealth career” where she has a job, but still functions as a sahm.
I don’t know what to tell my little girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. You women are over thinking things. The only thing men care about is getting laid. Everything else is secondary.

Clearly not my DH who is very pleased he has a wife who pays the whole mortgage with 1/4 of my paycheck.

I met my DW at her workplace. She was successful. When we found out she was pregnant it wasn’t even a question of her quitting, I asked why she waited so long to quit. Because yeah I wanted a trophy wife, a sophisticated one. My wife is total package, gorgeous, smart, sophisticated, domestic goddess. And she doesn’t have to pay a mortgage with a quarter of her pay check. We were smart and don’t have a mortgage. Getting laid was/is a priority.

Yes. This is what men want: a woman who has a successful career, but will drop it in order to support him and his career. Close second is the “stealth career” where she has a job, but still functions as a sahm.
I don’t know what to tell my little girls.

+1. Makes me really sad. I remind myself that my fathers and brothers are better men than this.

[Anonymous]

Intelligence and well educated definitely. If she is going to have my kids it matters a lot and an Ivy legacy doesn’t hurt.

[Anonymous]

This thread is depressing and horrible to consider if you have daughters. I make 7 figures, love my career, am fit and definitely above average in the looks department. My husband makes more than I do now but for many years he did not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is depressing and horrible to consider if you have daughters. I make 7 figures, love my career, am fit and definitely above average in the looks department. My husband makes more than I do now but for many years he did not.

+1. I’m going to tell my girls to do work they are passionate about. Not sure why we even need to ask this question about what men care about. Who cares? Not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is depressing and horrible to consider if you have daughters. I make 7 figures, love my career, am fit and definitely above average in the looks department. My husband makes more than I do now but for many years he did not.

+1. I’m going to tell my girls to do work they are passionate about. Not sure why we even need to ask this question about what men care about. Who cares? Not me.

Women are actually better off. They can have careers in something fulfilling without having to really worry about being bread winners like men typically do.

[Anonymous]

I’m going to tell my girls to do work they are passionate about.

Um, ok. Is anyone arguing against that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I’m going to tell my girls to do work they are passionate about.

Um, ok. Is anyone arguing against that?

Yes. Every man on this thread who expects women's passion to be them.