Should my sibling inherit equally after no years of contact/eldercare?

[Anonymous]

My estranged sibling was completely cut out. It was 16 years of zero relationship and two children (hers). My mom tried reaching out lots of times. She ignored everything. If you think someone like that should get half, you’re insane. I mean, so what you want with your money but I’d you can’t see this is a different reasonable choice, then so be it. My sister and her kids were cut out. My mom didn’t know them at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My estranged sibling was completely cut out. It was 16 years of zero relationship and two children (hers). My mom tried reaching out lots of times. She ignored everything. If you think someone like that should get half, you’re insane. I mean, so what you want with your money but I’d you can’t see this is a different reasonable choice, then so be it. My sister and her kids were cut out. My mom didn’t know them at all.

That’s awful. There has to be a lot of background to this story.

[Anonymous]

I recently had it out with my sister, who said she felt dad looked at us while sunbathing at our pool. We are not far apart in age and look so much alike people think we're twins. I never experienced this and neither did several of our mutual friends who were at the pool daily in summers and who were crazy about our dad.
I think my sister has made this up so she can join the sorority of "victims" she hangs out with these days, who seem to also be present here.
By the way, our mom was in a similar situation with her parents and was the caregiver. Her sister took everything she could get her hands on for years, including money. Mom got almost nothing because there was nothing left after years of nursing home bills. She has trouble going to sister's home as it's filled with silver, furniture, oil paintings "etc." that were "gifts" from their mom. Her sister is older and her kids were educated with help from grandparents before they became infirm and needed the $ left for their own care.
There are a lot of greedy people here who want to be treated as equals in inheritance, regardless of their behavior, and who find reasons to shame those who are doing the right thing. Your children will learn from your examples. Count on it.

[Anonymous]

I like the idea of a set amount to compensate for caregiving and the remainder split 50/50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently had it out with my sister, who said she felt dad looked at us while sunbathing at our pool. We are not far apart in age and look so much alike people think we're twins. I never experienced this and neither did several of our mutual friends who were at the pool daily in summers and who were crazy about our dad.
I think my sister has made this up so she can join the sorority of "victims" she hangs out with these days, who seem to also be present here.
By the way, our mom was in a similar situation with her parents and was the caregiver. Her sister took everything she could get her hands on for years, including money. Mom got almost nothing because there was nothing left after years of nursing home bills. She has trouble going to sister's home as it's filled with silver, furniture, oil paintings "etc." that were "gifts" from their mom. Her sister is older and her kids were educated with help from grandparents before they became infirm and needed the $ left for their own care.
There are a lot of greedy people here who want to be treated as equals in inheritance, regardless of their behavior, and who find reasons to shame those who are doing the right thing. Your children will learn from your examples. Count on it.

If your mom didn’t really choose to give those things to your sister, then your sister is a thief.

But that’s a different situation.

How is inheritance is handled is up to the giver, and many choose to give money equally to each of their children, without regard to behavior. Life is complicated; wanting to give the world to each of your children is not.

Finally, some of us find it “greedy” to think that caretaking is given with the expectation of monetary reward...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently had it out with my sister, who said she felt dad looked at us while sunbathing at our pool. We are not far apart in age and look so much alike people think we're twins. I never experienced this and neither did several of our mutual friends who were at the pool daily in summers and who were crazy about our dad.
I think my sister has made this up so she can join the sorority of "victims" she hangs out with these days, who seem to also be present here.
By the way, our mom was in a similar situation with her parents and was the caregiver. Her sister took everything she could get her hands on for years, including money. Mom got almost nothing because there was nothing left after years of nursing home bills. She has trouble going to sister's home as it's filled with silver, furniture, oil paintings "etc." that were "gifts" from their mom. Her sister is older and her kids were educated with help from grandparents before they became infirm and needed the $ left for their own care.
There are a lot of greedy people here who want to be treated as equals in inheritance, regardless of their behavior, and who find reasons to shame those who are doing the right thing. Your children will learn from your examples. Count on it.

Please seek therapy.

[Anonymous]

Well, that settles it, I'm leaving every red cent to charity.