Tell me what's weird about where you're staying: Tgiving '18 Edition

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Oh god- I'm so sorry I'm not the only one:

Air Mattress in the basement, b/c DH old bedroom is too full of stuff for us to stay there.

Brown carpet in my FIL's bathroom, which is the only bathroom with a shower.

Said shower has two temperatures- scalding or arctic.

And FIL has a bad habit of coming in to use the bathroom without knocking, occasionally catching me in the shower. (and, when he flushes, I get scalded).

Therefore, I avoid bathing at their house. Unfortunately, it's unavoidable at Christmas, so we've developed a complicated scheme of getting my FIL to run an errand, so I can shower in peace.

MIL stores food outside- either in an old cooler or directly on the picnic table, b/c the fridge is full.

And some of the food in the cabinets expired last century. Literally.

On the bright side, the air mattress is always nicely made with sheets and blankets when we arrive. And my MIL won't let anyone go hungry. And they are really lovely people, who just aren't used to sharing their space anymore.

[Anonymous]

All of the outlets only have two prongs, so I have to bring "ground lift" adapters to plug in my laptop. It's minor but REALLY annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh god- I'm so sorry I'm not the only one:

Air Mattress in the basement, b/c DH old bedroom is too full of stuff for us to stay there.

Brown carpet in my FIL's bathroom, which is the only bathroom with a shower.

Said shower has two temperatures- scalding or arctic.

And FIL has a bad habit of coming in to use the bathroom without knocking, occasionally catching me in the shower. (and, when he flushes, I get scalded).

Therefore, I avoid bathing at their house. Unfortunately, it's unavoidable at Christmas, so we've developed a complicated scheme of getting my FIL to run an errand, so I can shower in peace.

MIL stores food outside- either in an old cooler or directly on the picnic table, b/c the fridge is full.

And some of the food in the cabinets expired last century. Literally.

On the bright side, the air mattress is always nicely made with sheets and blankets when we arrive. And my MIL won't let anyone go hungry. And they are really lovely people, who just aren't used to sharing their space anymore.

Your FIL is a gross man. At the very least, your dh should be standing guard outside that bathroom while you take a shower in peace. Honestly, I would get aa hotel room or go home early!

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Anonymous wrote:Oh god- I'm so sorry I'm not the only one:

Air Mattress in the basement, b/c DH old bedroom is too full of stuff for us to stay there.

Brown carpet in my FIL's bathroom, which is the only bathroom with a shower.

Said shower has two temperatures- scalding or arctic.

And FIL has a bad habit of coming in to use the bathroom without knocking, occasionally catching me in the shower. (and, when he flushes, I get scalded).

Therefore, I avoid bathing at their house. Unfortunately, it's unavoidable at Christmas, so we've developed a complicated scheme of getting my FIL to run an errand, so I can shower in peace.

MIL stores food outside- either in an old cooler or directly on the picnic table, b/c the fridge is full.

And some of the food in the cabinets expired last century. Literally.

On the bright side, the air mattress is always nicely made with sheets and blankets when we arrive. And my MIL won't let anyone go hungry. And they are really lovely people, who just aren't used to sharing their space anymore.

Your FIL is a gross man. At the very least, your dh should be standing guard outside that bathroom while you take a shower in peace. Honestly, I would get aa hotel room or go home early!

He's really not- he's just old and when he has to pee, he has to pee. He heads to his bathroom like usual, and the doorknob lock is ineffective- you just have to jiggle the doorknob and it pops open. I don't think he can really hear the shower going, or maybe he thinks it's DH in the shower. He's very apologetic when he realizes what happened (and there is a solid shower curtain- it's not like he can see anything), he just can't wait any longer.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh god- I'm so sorry I'm not the only one:

Air Mattress in the basement, b/c DH old bedroom is too full of stuff for us to stay there.

Brown carpet in my FIL's bathroom, which is the only bathroom with a shower.

Said shower has two temperatures- scalding or arctic.

And FIL has a bad habit of coming in to use the bathroom without knocking, occasionally catching me in the shower. (and, when he flushes, I get scalded).

Therefore, I avoid bathing at their house. Unfortunately, it's unavoidable at Christmas, so we've developed a complicated scheme of getting my FIL to run an errand, so I can shower in peace.

MIL stores food outside- either in an old cooler or directly on the picnic table, b/c the fridge is full.

And some of the food in the cabinets expired last century. Literally.

On the bright side, the air mattress is always nicely made with sheets and blankets when we arrive. And my MIL won't let anyone go hungry. And they are really lovely people, who just aren't used to sharing their space anymore.

Your FIL is a gross man. At the very least, your dh should be standing guard outside that bathroom while you take a shower in peace. Honestly, I would get aa hotel room or go home early!

He's really not- he's just old and when he has to pee, he has to pee. He heads to his bathroom like usual, and the doorknob lock is ineffective- you just have to jiggle the doorknob and it pops open. I don't think he can really hear the shower going, or maybe he thinks it's DH in the shower. He's very apologetic when he realizes what happened (and there is a solid shower curtain- it's not like he can see anything), he just can't wait any longer.

Is there only one bathroom in the house?

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Anonymous wrote:Not allowed to go in the kitchen between meals. My 10 year old went in and was rummaging around looking for a snack and the host threw a fit.

Wow. You allowed your child to rummage through your host's kitchen w/o express permission from the host to do so? That's pretty bad .

+1. That is a HUGE no-no. Even if it is your own parents or siblings (or DH equivalent), but especially if it is anyone more removed than that.

NP. The child should ask for more if he’s hungry, but please don’t host if you don’t intend to feed your guests enough. My ILs don’t fix nearly enough food, and we’re all left starving after each meal.

No one said the child was wrong for being hungry, or the parent was wrong for meeting that need. BUT ASK FIRST, duh. Common courtesy. Literally Being a Good Guest 101.

What part of the above post did you not comprehend? The PP said the child should ask, and you’ve added nothing to the conversation except snark. Read and try to understand before you post.

You clarified a point no one muddied. NO ONE said hosts shouldn't provide food.

LOL. Given that the child was scrounging for food and hungry, it was a valid point. And it was also valid for a poster to share an experience of stingy in laws who weren’t offering enough food. Sharing such things is the point of the thread.

Yeah, so anyway, all guests should ASK before rummaging around in anyone's kitchen. Point blank period. If you don't think your hosts provide enough food:

1) ASK for some
2) If it's repeated, STAY IN A HOTEL (fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice...)
3) Or if you don't want resulting hotel drama, bring some of your own food

Again, please refer to the original message. NOBODY said the kid shouldn't ask...in fact, everyone has agreed that nobody should be rummaging through kitchens without permission. And I suppose everyone's story here could be shut down by "STAY IN A HOTEL, DUH" but the point of this thread is to share anecdotes to blow off steam. It sounds like you're really taking it personally because you're one of those stingy food hosts. There are entire threads about you on DCUM!!! Since we're handing out advice now: If you don't want someone in your home, and if you can't be a gracious host to them, then don't offer. If you're just going to be passive aggressive and controlling by offering them nothing to eat, and then get angry and offended because they went out for pizza, or if you declare your kitchen off-limits because you think nobody should eat lunch in your home, you are not the kind of person that should have guests. "Point blank period."

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Anonymous wrote:Oh god- I'm so sorry I'm not the only one:

Air Mattress in the basement, b/c DH old bedroom is too full of stuff for us to stay there.

Brown carpet in my FIL's bathroom, which is the only bathroom with a shower.

Said shower has two temperatures- scalding or arctic.

And FIL has a bad habit of coming in to use the bathroom without knocking, occasionally catching me in the shower. (and, when he flushes, I get scalded).

Therefore, I avoid bathing at their house. Unfortunately, it's unavoidable at Christmas, so we've developed a complicated scheme of getting my FIL to run an errand, so I can shower in peace.

MIL stores food outside- either in an old cooler or directly on the picnic table, b/c the fridge is full.

And some of the food in the cabinets expired last century. Literally.

On the bright side, the air mattress is always nicely made with sheets and blankets when we arrive. And my MIL won't let anyone go hungry. And they are really lovely people, who just aren't used to sharing their space anymore.

Your FIL is a gross man. At the very least, your dh should be standing guard outside that bathroom while you take a shower in peace. Honestly, I would get aa hotel room or go home early!

He's really not- he's just old and when he has to pee, he has to pee. He heads to his bathroom like usual, and the doorknob lock is ineffective- you just have to jiggle the doorknob and it pops open. I don't think he can really hear the shower going, or maybe he thinks it's DH in the shower. He's very apologetic when he realizes what happened (and there is a solid shower curtain- it's not like he can see anything), he just can't wait any longer.

Complete bullshit.

Just put a SIGN ON THE DOOR. And if he ignores that, you have a control freak or a creep-o on your hands. It IS avoidable to stay with them for Christmas: avoid it by NOT STAYING THERE.

"Dad, even with a sign on the door and being reminded, you invade Jane's privacy when she is in the shower. So we won't be staying here again. What's that? You promise it will never happen again? OK, we'll give it one more try, but if you come in while Jane is showering, we will never be staying here again."

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Anonymous wrote:Not allowed to go in the kitchen between meals. My 10 year old went in and was rummaging around looking for a snack and the host threw a fit.

Wow. You allowed your child to rummage through your host's kitchen w/o express permission from the host to do so? That's pretty bad .

+1. That is a HUGE no-no. Even if it is your own parents or siblings (or DH equivalent), but especially if it is anyone more removed than that.

NP. The child should ask for more if he’s hungry, but please don’t host if you don’t intend to feed your guests enough. My ILs don’t fix nearly enough food, and we’re all left starving after each meal.

No one said the child was wrong for being hungry, or the parent was wrong for meeting that need. BUT ASK FIRST, duh. Common courtesy. Literally Being a Good Guest 101.

What part of the above post did you not comprehend? The PP said the child should ask, and you’ve added nothing to the conversation except snark. Read and try to understand before you post.

You clarified a point no one muddied. NO ONE said hosts shouldn't provide food.

LOL. Given that the child was scrounging for food and hungry, it was a valid point. And it was also valid for a poster to share an experience of stingy in laws who weren’t offering enough food. Sharing such things is the point of the thread.

Yeah, so anyway, all guests should ASK before rummaging around in anyone's kitchen. Point blank period. If you don't think your hosts provide enough food:

1) ASK for some
2) If it's repeated, STAY IN A HOTEL (fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice...)
3) Or if you don't want resulting hotel drama, bring some of your own food

Again, please refer to the original message. NOBODY said the kid shouldn't ask...in fact, everyone has agreed that nobody should be rummaging through kitchens without permission. And I suppose everyone's story here could be shut down by "STAY IN A HOTEL, DUH" but the point of this thread is to share anecdotes to blow off steam. It sounds like you're really taking it personally because you're one of those stingy food hosts. There are entire threads about you on DCUM!!! Since we're handing out advice now: If you don't want someone in your home, and if you can't be a gracious host to them, then don't offer. If you're just going to be passive aggressive and controlling by offering them nothing to eat, and then get angry and offended because they went out for pizza, or if you declare your kitchen off-limits because you think nobody should eat lunch in your home, you are not the kind of person that should have guests. "Point blank period."

Nope, sorry. Not only do I offer my guests plenty of food--for meals and for snacks--but they know they are welcome in the kitchen any time. I put labels on anything that needs to be saved for a particular time.

I'm just a big fan of not whining about your own decision. And if you've stayed in any home *more than once* and knowingly realize that you are walking into a "stingy food" situation, and you do nothing to address it, you are CHOOSING that, and thus you lose your right to complain. Don't like it? Address it, bring your own food, go get some food, or stay elsewhere. It really is that simple.

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Anonymous wrote:Not allowed to go in the kitchen between meals. My 10 year old went in and was rummaging around looking for a snack and the host threw a fit.

Wow. You allowed your child to rummage through your host's kitchen w/o express permission from the host to do so? That's pretty bad .

+1. That is a HUGE no-no. Even if it is your own parents or siblings (or DH equivalent), but especially if it is anyone more removed than that.

NP. The child should ask for more if he’s hungry, but please don’t host if you don’t intend to feed your guests enough. My ILs don’t fix nearly enough food, and we’re all left starving after each meal.

No one said the child was wrong for being hungry, or the parent was wrong for meeting that need. BUT ASK FIRST, duh. Common courtesy. Literally Being a Good Guest 101.

What part of the above post did you not comprehend? The PP said the child should ask, and you’ve added nothing to the conversation except snark. Read and try to understand before you post.

You clarified a point no one muddied. NO ONE said hosts shouldn't provide food.

LOL. Given that the child was scrounging for food and hungry, it was a valid point. And it was also valid for a poster to share an experience of stingy in laws who weren’t offering enough food. Sharing such things is the point of the thread.

Yeah, so anyway, all guests should ASK before rummaging around in anyone's kitchen. Point blank period. If you don't think your hosts provide enough food:

1) ASK for some
2) If it's repeated, STAY IN A HOTEL (fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice...)
3) Or if you don't want resulting hotel drama, bring some of your own food

Guests are welcome to anything they would like in my kitchen. Scrounging encouraged. My adult kids and their spouses treat my home as home and I'm so thankful. I cannot imagine closing the kitchen. One of my favorite things is walking downstairs at 2am and seeing my kids deep in discussion around the kitchen table. With Christmas treats, of course.

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Anonymous wrote:Not allowed to go in the kitchen between meals. My 10 year old went in and was rummaging around looking for a snack and the host threw a fit.

Wow. You allowed your child to rummage through your host's kitchen w/o express permission from the host to do so? That's pretty bad .

+1. That is a HUGE no-no. Even if it is your own parents or siblings (or DH equivalent), but especially if it is anyone more removed than that.

NP. The child should ask for more if he’s hungry, but please don’t host if you don’t intend to feed your guests enough. My ILs don’t fix nearly enough food, and we’re all left starving after each meal.

No one said the child was wrong for being hungry, or the parent was wrong for meeting that need. BUT ASK FIRST, duh. Common courtesy. Literally Being a Good Guest 101.

What part of the above post did you not comprehend? The PP said the child should ask, and you’ve added nothing to the conversation except snark. Read and try to understand before you post.

You clarified a point no one muddied. NO ONE said hosts shouldn't provide food.

LOL. Given that the child was scrounging for food and hungry, it was a valid point. And it was also valid for a poster to share an experience of stingy in laws who weren’t offering enough food. Sharing such things is the point of the thread.

Yeah, so anyway, all guests should ASK before rummaging around in anyone's kitchen. Point blank period. If you don't think your hosts provide enough food:

1) ASK for some
2) If it's repeated, STAY IN A HOTEL (fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice...)
3) Or if you don't want resulting hotel drama, bring some of your own food

Guests are welcome to anything they would like in my kitchen. Scrounging encouraged. My adult kids and their spouses treat my home as home and I'm so thankful. I cannot imagine closing the kitchen. One of my favorite things is walking downstairs at 2am and seeing my kids deep in discussion around the kitchen table. With Christmas treats, of course.

Me, too, absolutely. But I've definitely taught my children that people are different, and thus run their households in different way. Asking for something you want or need before taking it is probably the most fundamental guideline of being a good guest.

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Anonymous wrote:Not allowed to go in the kitchen between meals. My 10 year old went in and was rummaging around looking for a snack and the host threw a fit.

Wow. You allowed your child to rummage through your host's kitchen w/o express permission from the host to do so? That's pretty bad .

+1. That is a HUGE no-no. Even if it is your own parents or siblings (or DH equivalent), but especially if it is anyone more removed than that.

NP. The child should ask for more if he’s hungry, but please don’t host if you don’t intend to feed your guests enough. My ILs don’t fix nearly enough food, and we’re all left starving after each meal.

No one said the child was wrong for being hungry, or the parent was wrong for meeting that need. BUT ASK FIRST, duh. Common courtesy. Literally Being a Good Guest 101.

What part of the above post did you not comprehend? The PP said the child should ask, and you’ve added nothing to the conversation except snark. Read and try to understand before you post.

You clarified a point no one muddied. NO ONE said hosts shouldn't provide food.

LOL. Given that the child was scrounging for food and hungry, it was a valid point. And it was also valid for a poster to share an experience of stingy in laws who weren’t offering enough food. Sharing such things is the point of the thread.

Yeah, so anyway, all guests should ASK before rummaging around in anyone's kitchen. Point blank period. If you don't think your hosts provide enough food:

1) ASK for some
2) If it's repeated, STAY IN A HOTEL (fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice...)
3) Or if you don't want resulting hotel drama, bring some of your own food

Again, please refer to the original message. NOBODY said the kid shouldn't ask...in fact, everyone has agreed that nobody should be rummaging through kitchens without permission. And I suppose everyone's story here could be shut down by "STAY IN A HOTEL, DUH" but the point of this thread is to share anecdotes to blow off steam. It sounds like you're really taking it personally because you're one of those stingy food hosts. There are entire threads about you on DCUM!!! Since we're handing out advice now: If you don't want someone in your home, and if you can't be a gracious host to them, then don't offer. If you're just going to be passive aggressive and controlling by offering them nothing to eat, and then get angry and offended because they went out for pizza, or if you declare your kitchen off-limits because you think nobody should eat lunch in your home, you are not the kind of person that should have guests. "Point blank period."

Agree to all this. The only people who would have a problem with this is people who shouldn't be hosting.

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Anonymous wrote:Not allowed to go in the kitchen between meals. My 10 year old went in and was rummaging around looking for a snack and the host threw a fit.

Wow. You allowed your child to rummage through your host's kitchen w/o express permission from the host to do so? That's pretty bad .

+1. That is a HUGE no-no. Even if it is your own parents or siblings (or DH equivalent), but especially if it is anyone more removed than that.

NP. The child should ask for more if he’s hungry, but please don’t host if you don’t intend to feed your guests enough. My ILs don’t fix nearly enough food, and we’re all left starving after each meal.

No one said the child was wrong for being hungry, or the parent was wrong for meeting that need. BUT ASK FIRST, duh. Common courtesy. Literally Being a Good Guest 101.

What part of the above post did you not comprehend? The PP said the child should ask, and you’ve added nothing to the conversation except snark. Read and try to understand before you post.

You clarified a point no one muddied. NO ONE said hosts shouldn't provide food.

LOL. Given that the child was scrounging for food and hungry, it was a valid point. And it was also valid for a poster to share an experience of stingy in laws who weren’t offering enough food. Sharing such things is the point of the thread.

Yeah, so anyway, all guests should ASK before rummaging around in anyone's kitchen. Point blank period. If you don't think your hosts provide enough food:

1) ASK for some
2) If it's repeated, STAY IN A HOTEL (fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice...)
3) Or if you don't want resulting hotel drama, bring some of your own food

Again, please refer to the original message. NOBODY said the kid shouldn't ask...in fact, everyone has agreed that nobody should be rummaging through kitchens without permission. And I suppose everyone's story here could be shut down by "STAY IN A HOTEL, DUH" but the point of this thread is to share anecdotes to blow off steam. It sounds like you're really taking it personally because you're one of those stingy food hosts. There are entire threads about you on DCUM!!! Since we're handing out advice now: If you don't want someone in your home, and if you can't be a gracious host to them, then don't offer. If you're just going to be passive aggressive and controlling by offering them nothing to eat, and then get angry and offended because they went out for pizza, or if you declare your kitchen off-limits because you think nobody should eat lunch in your home, you are not the kind of person that should have guests. "Point blank period."

Nope, sorry. Not only do I offer my guests plenty of food--for meals and for snacks--but they know they are welcome in the kitchen any time. I put labels on anything that needs to be saved for a particular time.

I'm just a big fan of not whining about your own decision. And if you've stayed in any home *more than once* and knowingly realize that you are walking into a "stingy food" situation, and you do nothing to address it, you are CHOOSING that, and thus you lose your right to complain. Don't like it? Address it, bring your own food, go get some food, or stay elsewhere. It really is that simple.

Food police, please quit derailing this fun thread with your arguments.

PPs story is funny.

Knock off having to get the last word.

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Anonymous wrote:Not allowed to go in the kitchen between meals. My 10 year old went in and was rummaging around looking for a snack and the host threw a fit.

Wow. You allowed your child to rummage through your host's kitchen w/o express permission from the host to do so? That's pretty bad .

+1. That is a HUGE no-no. Even if it is your own parents or siblings (or DH equivalent), but especially if it is anyone more removed than that.

NP. The child should ask for more if he’s hungry, but please don’t host if you don’t intend to feed your guests enough. My ILs don’t fix nearly enough food, and we’re all left starving after each meal.

No one said the child was wrong for being hungry, or the parent was wrong for meeting that need. BUT ASK FIRST, duh. Common courtesy. Literally Being a Good Guest 101.

What part of the above post did you not comprehend? The PP said the child should ask, and you’ve added nothing to the conversation except snark. Read and try to understand before you post.

You clarified a point no one muddied. NO ONE said hosts shouldn't provide food.

LOL. Given that the child was scrounging for food and hungry, it was a valid point. And it was also valid for a poster to share an experience of stingy in laws who weren’t offering enough food. Sharing such things is the point of the thread.

Yeah, so anyway, all guests should ASK before rummaging around in anyone's kitchen. Point blank period. If you don't think your hosts provide enough food:

1) ASK for some
2) If it's repeated, STAY IN A HOTEL (fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice...)
3) Or if you don't want resulting hotel drama, bring some of your own food

Again, please refer to the original message. NOBODY said the kid shouldn't ask...in fact, everyone has agreed that nobody should be rummaging through kitchens without permission. And I suppose everyone's story here could be shut down by "STAY IN A HOTEL, DUH" but the point of this thread is to share anecdotes to blow off steam. It sounds like you're really taking it personally because you're one of those stingy food hosts. There are entire threads about you on DCUM!!! Since we're handing out advice now: If you don't want someone in your home, and if you can't be a gracious host to them, then don't offer. If you're just going to be passive aggressive and controlling by offering them nothing to eat, and then get angry and offended because they went out for pizza, or if you declare your kitchen off-limits because you think nobody should eat lunch in your home, you are not the kind of person that should have guests. "Point blank period."

Agree to all this. The only people who would have a problem with this is people who shouldn't be hosting.

I fully agree that people who can't feed their guests and provide decent accomodations shouldn't host, 100%.

But here's the reality--not everyone lives up to this, in practice. As evidenced by literally hundreds of threads on hosts (usually relatives) who don't provide decent mattresses, or even sheets/towels, or plentiful food. So knowing that reality by having stayed with a bad host one time, you have a choice. Either talk to them and see if you can get what you need ("Mom, I know you don't like people in the kitchen after 8, but Timmy is really hungry. Can I get him some cereal); or bring your own sheets/towels/food/whatever; or stay elsewhere. It's not rocket science.

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^^ yes, last word poster. Say "choice" one more time...

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Anonymous wrote:Not allowed to go in the kitchen between meals. My 10 year old went in and was rummaging around looking for a snack and the host threw a fit.

Wow. You allowed your child to rummage through your host's kitchen w/o express permission from the host to do so? That's pretty bad .

+1. That is a HUGE no-no. Even if it is your own parents or siblings (or DH equivalent), but especially if it is anyone more removed than that.

NP. The child should ask for more if he’s hungry, but please don’t host if you don’t intend to feed your guests enough. My ILs don’t fix nearly enough food, and we’re all left starving after each meal.

No one said the child was wrong for being hungry, or the parent was wrong for meeting that need. BUT ASK FIRST, duh. Common courtesy. Literally Being a Good Guest 101.

What part of the above post did you not comprehend? The PP said the child should ask, and you’ve added nothing to the conversation except snark. Read and try to understand before you post.

You clarified a point no one muddied. NO ONE said hosts shouldn't provide food.

LOL. Given that the child was scrounging for food and hungry, it was a valid point. And it was also valid for a poster to share an experience of stingy in laws who weren’t offering enough food. Sharing such things is the point of the thread.

Yeah, so anyway, all guests should ASK before rummaging around in anyone's kitchen. Point blank period. If you don't think your hosts provide enough food:

1) ASK for some
2) If it's repeated, STAY IN A HOTEL (fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice...)
3) Or if you don't want resulting hotel drama, bring some of your own food

Again, please refer to the original message. NOBODY said the kid shouldn't ask...in fact, everyone has agreed that nobody should be rummaging through kitchens without permission. And I suppose everyone's story here could be shut down by "STAY IN A HOTEL, DUH" but the point of this thread is to share anecdotes to blow off steam. It sounds like you're really taking it personally because you're one of those stingy food hosts. There are entire threads about you on DCUM!!! Since we're handing out advice now: If you don't want someone in your home, and if you can't be a gracious host to them, then don't offer. If you're just going to be passive aggressive and controlling by offering them nothing to eat, and then get angry and offended because they went out for pizza, or if you declare your kitchen off-limits because you think nobody should eat lunch in your home, you are not the kind of person that should have guests. "Point blank period."

Well said, PP. It would be nice if people on here would read the thread titles and be able to grasp the difference between a topic about venting/field reporting and one where people are asking for advice.