Supposed to leave for Europe on Sunday and I’m 5 weeks pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I rally every single morning when I get myself out of bed, shower, and go to work - work all day, despite wanting to run home and lie down in bed.

I’m taking diclegis, pregnancy pops, eating crackers. The nausea is still there. It’s always looming.

You bet I would much rather be at home sick than sick on vacation. My own bed and home versus a plane with 100+ strangers witnessing me getting sick? Yeah, no thanks. Plus germs.

Weve already talked to the couple and told them I may not be able to go. I don’t care if DH goes or not, at this point I really don’t feel like taking a trans Atlantic flight and schlepping myself all over the UK for 2 weeks.

Our losses would be minimal, the flight and 3 nights of hotel is what we’ve already paid for. We may be able to get flight credit and could go later in the pregnancy if I feel better.

First time moms and first pregnancies always think their lives are *so so* hard and *so so * exhausting. Every single day for them is so much harder, more tiring, exhausting, strenuous than anyone else's. Then they have the kid, and it's so much more tiring... Just wait a year. Then you'll actually understand being tired. Then wait another year. Then get pregnant again, and be pregnant with a kid to take care of. Then you'll realize how good you feel right now. This is a walk in the darn park, hon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I rally every single morning when I get myself out of bed, shower, and go to work - work all day, despite wanting to run home and lie down in bed.

I’m taking diclegis, pregnancy pops, eating crackers. The nausea is still there. It’s always looming.

You bet I would much rather be at home sick than sick on vacation. My own bed and home versus a plane with 100+ strangers witnessing me getting sick? Yeah, no thanks. Plus germs.

Weve already talked to the couple and told them I may not be able to go. I don’t care if DH goes or not, at this point I really don’t feel like taking a trans Atlantic flight and schlepping myself all over the UK for 2 weeks.

Our losses would be minimal, the flight and 3 nights of hotel is what we’ve already paid for. We may be able to get flight credit and could go later in the pregnancy if I feel better.

Um, lady, parenthood is way harder than morning sickness. You need to learn how to keep going.

+ 10000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I rally every single morning when I get myself out of bed, shower, and go to work - work all day, despite wanting to run home and lie down in bed.

I’m taking diclegis, pregnancy pops, eating crackers. The nausea is still there. It’s always looming.

You bet I would much rather be at home sick than sick on vacation. My own bed and home versus a plane with 100+ strangers witnessing me getting sick? Yeah, no thanks. Plus germs.

Weve already talked to the couple and told them I may not be able to go. I don’t care if DH goes or not, at this point I really don’t feel like taking a trans Atlantic flight and schlepping myself all over the UK for 2 weeks.

Our losses would be minimal, the flight and 3 nights of hotel is what we’ve already paid for. We may be able to get flight credit and could go later in the pregnancy if I feel better.

First time moms and first pregnancies always think their lives are *so so* hard and *so so * exhausting. Every single day for them is so much harder, more tiring, exhausting, strenuous than anyone else's. Then they have the kid, and it's so much more tiring... Just wait a year. Then you'll actually understand being tired. Then wait another year. Then get pregnant again, and be pregnant with a kid to take care of. Then you'll realize how good you feel right now. This is a walk in the darn park, hon.

+1. Or in my case, imagine having two little ones and being pregnant with a third... I did not even have time to rest in the evening or weekend... my most restful days were my work days..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I rally every single morning when I get myself out of bed, shower, and go to work - work all day, despite wanting to run home and lie down in bed.

I’m taking diclegis, pregnancy pops, eating crackers. The nausea is still there. It’s always looming.

You bet I would much rather be at home sick than sick on vacation. My own bed and home versus a plane with 100+ strangers witnessing me getting sick? Yeah, no thanks. Plus germs.

Weve already talked to the couple and told them I may not be able to go. I don’t care if DH goes or not, at this point I really don’t feel like taking a trans Atlantic flight and schlepping myself all over the UK for 2 weeks.

Our losses would be minimal, the flight and 3 nights of hotel is what we’ve already paid for. We may be able to get flight credit and could go later in the pregnancy if I feel better.

First time moms and first pregnancies always think their lives are *so so* hard and *so so * exhausting. Every single day for them is so much harder, more tiring, exhausting, strenuous than anyone else's. Then they have the kid, and it's so much more tiring... Just wait a year. Then you'll actually understand being tired. Then wait another year. Then get pregnant again, and be pregnant with a kid to take care of. Then you'll realize how good you feel right now. This is a walk in the darn park, hon.

+1. Or in my case, imagine having two little ones and being pregnant with a third... I did not even have time to rest in the evening or weekend... my most restful days were my work days..

The mommy martyrs on this thread are disgusting. Break out all the violins....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I rally every single morning when I get myself out of bed, shower, and go to work - work all day, despite wanting to run home and lie down in bed.

I’m taking diclegis, pregnancy pops, eating crackers. The nausea is still there. It’s always looming.

You bet I would much rather be at home sick than sick on vacation. My own bed and home versus a plane with 100+ strangers witnessing me getting sick? Yeah, no thanks. Plus germs.

Weve already talked to the couple and told them I may not be able to go. I don’t care if DH goes or not, at this point I really don’t feel like taking a trans Atlantic flight and schlepping myself all over the UK for 2 weeks.

Our losses would be minimal, the flight and 3 nights of hotel is what we’ve already paid for. We may be able to get flight credit and could go later in the pregnancy if I feel better.

First time moms and first pregnancies always think their lives are *so so* hard and *so so * exhausting. Every single day for them is so much harder, more tiring, exhausting, strenuous than anyone else's. Then they have the kid, and it's so much more tiring... Just wait a year. Then you'll actually understand being tired. Then wait another year. Then get pregnant again, and be pregnant with a kid to take care of. Then you'll realize how good you feel right now. This is a walk in the darn park, hon.

+1. Or in my case, imagine having two little ones and being pregnant with a third... I did not even have time to rest in the evening or weekend... my most restful days were my work days..

The mommy martyrs on this thread are disgusting. Break out all the violins....

You are missing the point. We all know that being pregnant is not a walk in the park and I think the women that say they loved being pregnant are lying. I also think that OP needs to go and modify her trip according to what she is able/feels like doing. It never occurred to me to cancel a trip because I was not feeling great

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I rally every single morning when I get myself out of bed, shower, and go to work - work all day, despite wanting to run home and lie down in bed.

I’m taking diclegis, pregnancy pops, eating crackers. The nausea is still there. It’s always looming.

You bet I would much rather be at home sick than sick on vacation. My own bed and home versus a plane with 100+ strangers witnessing me getting sick? Yeah, no thanks. Plus germs.

Weve already talked to the couple and told them I may not be able to go. I don’t care if DH goes or not, at this point I really don’t feel like taking a trans Atlantic flight and schlepping myself all over the UK for 2 weeks.

Our losses would be minimal, the flight and 3 nights of hotel is what we’ve already paid for. We may be able to get flight credit and could go later in the pregnancy if I feel better.

First time moms and first pregnancies always think their lives are *so so* hard and *so so * exhausting. Every single day for them is so much harder, more tiring, exhausting, strenuous than anyone else's. Then they have the kid, and it's so much more tiring... Just wait a year. Then you'll actually understand being tired. Then wait another year. Then get pregnant again, and be pregnant with a kid to take care of. Then you'll realize how good you feel right now. This is a walk in the darn park, hon.

Amen. Being pregnant with your first is the easy part, even with MS. You bet I'd be pissed if I was DH and dealing with such a bad attitude, wanting to cancel a trip a few days before you're set to go. Just modify it so you give yourself time for relaxing during the day. You won't necessarily feel different in your second semester so I would not put it off. For Pete's sake, it's Europe!! Be thankful you have an opportunity to go before you are saddled with a child (at which point you will be taking trips, not vacations), take it a little easier on the vacation, and relax. MS is not a walk in the park, but you should take advantage of the time that you have.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of are door mats. Or Martyrs. You'd rather suffer for something you don't need to just so you can say you can. And you're pissed that someone else won't go through it. B*******

Anyway, remember OP that this thread is indicative of the internet phenomena pile on. People feed off of each other's negativity and nasty posts, and then this is what you get.

there's no reason for you to go on a vacation if you don't feel like it. It is a vacation not an audience with the Pope

[Anonymous]

and one more thing... In regards to the argument that the rest of pregnancy and Parenthood is much harder, so suck it up now: nope. Sorry. Not buying that angle

I think it is better to rest and take care of yourself when you can, because those opportunities are so few and far between later when it does in truth get harder.. So skip the vacation if it makes you miserable and screw these harpies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I rally every single morning when I get myself out of bed, shower, and go to work - work all day, despite wanting to run home and lie down in bed.

I’m taking diclegis, pregnancy pops, eating crackers. The nausea is still there. It’s always looming.

You bet I would much rather be at home sick than sick on vacation. My own bed and home versus a plane with 100+ strangers witnessing me getting sick? Yeah, no thanks. Plus germs.

Weve already talked to the couple and told them I may not be able to go. I don’t care if DH goes or not, at this point I really don’t feel like taking a trans Atlantic flight and schlepping myself all over the UK for 2 weeks.

Our losses would be minimal, the flight and 3 nights of hotel is what we’ve already paid for. We may be able to get flight credit and could go later in the pregnancy if I feel better.

First time moms and first pregnancies always think their lives are *so so* hard and *so so * exhausting. Every single day for them is so much harder, more tiring, exhausting, strenuous than anyone else's. Then they have the kid, and it's so much more tiring... Just wait a year. Then you'll actually understand being tired. Then wait another year. Then get pregnant again, and be pregnant with a kid to take care of. Then you'll realize how good you feel right now. This is a walk in the darn park, hon.

+1. Or in my case, imagine having two little ones and being pregnant with a third... I did not even have time to rest in the evening or weekend... my most restful days were my work days..

The mommy martyrs on this thread are disgusting. Break out all the violins....

You are missing the point. We all know that being pregnant is not a walk in the park and I think the women that say they loved being pregnant are lying. I also think that OP needs to go and modify her trip according to what she is able/feels like doing. It never occurred to me to cancel a trip because I was not feeling great

I didn't miss any point. OP has decided she feels bad enough not to enjoy her planned trip. Why should she have to martyr herself and suck it up just because others have three kids and they did it, and blah blah blah. For her she IS "so so exhausted." Who are you all to tell she's essentially not? Who cares that you didn't have time to rest on the weekends. You didn't have a choice because you had other kids. OP has a choice. This is JUST a vacation.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you don’t want to go, don’t. I mean, it IS only a trip to Europe.

And then here’s my advice: still go. Pregnancy probably isn’t getting any easier for you, especially if you’re on diclegis while you’re barely pregnant. Many women don’t know they’re even pregnant at your stage in the game, and symptoms don’t peak for a few weeks. Yes, some women have a hard time earlier on, but it’s liekly it’s not about to get better for you.

Europe will always be there, yes, but as someone who has travelled with their baby and toddler, I’m going to tell you that it’s easier to fight through the nausea and fatigue than to cart a whole other (sometimes disagreeable) body overseas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that there is something in the way that OP has communicated that is making people react so nastily, but on the basics, she is not selfish or a special snowflake. If she is worried about taking leave and feeling miserable on a long flight, I don't understand why everybody's giving her such a hard time

I love my friends and I would do my best for them, but I'm not going to suffer through an expensive vacation that I can't enjoy. Not being able to eat well, or drink would be tedious.

It's a discretionary vacation, not a work commitment. Not a wedding. Not a once-in-a-lifetime event.

This is my first time weighing in. It seems OP does not want to go. In fact, she wasn’t asking if there was some remedy or something she could do that could make the best of it. She wasn’t asking for tales of how other people vomited every day and still rallied. Though this thread sure as heck had a lot of that. She was saying she felt like sh&t and was mad her DH couldn’t understand and basically wanted DCUM to sign off that he should not go in pregnancy solidarity and most folks were having none of that.

Here is my bottom line, own your stuff and balance your expectations of others. I own that I am a big baby about being in pain and being sick. I don’t care if people gave birth in the fields and went back to work the next day, that’s not me. But I also don’t expect the world to stop because I am sick. I would have honestly said, DH go without me and maybe see if a buddy or family member could go with you - at least someone should enjoy Europe in the family. If he was only going because I was going and really had no interest in still going on the trip, then make sure it’s not a financial hit to your friends and just suck up whatever money it costs you as just being life. You don’t want to put your life on hold while trying to get pregnant and you don’t know till you there how the pregnancy will be so you have to adapt.

Congrats on the pregnancy OP and in between the snark on DCUM there was some good advice for morning sickness to help you get thru your workday.

[Anonymous]

I Think the problem is that most women in OP’s situation would go or at the very minimum would feel bad for ruining DH’s trip. On the other hand, OP sounds entitled for being upset that her DH is not more understanding. He might just be used to tougher women or probably realizes that this will be the best time to travel for a few years.

[Anonymous]

TBH, your hormone levels shouldn't be high enough to have that level of sickness. Try bringing crackers with you and sipping on water. Also, cut out your prenatal vitamin because that may be making you sick. In hindsight, I realized I never had morning sickness, my vitamin just made me puke. Go.

[Anonymous]

LOL, it's gonna be a long 9 months!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:TBH, your hormone levels shouldn't be high enough to have that level of sickness. Try bringing crackers with you and sipping on water. Also, cut out your prenatal vitamin because that may be making you sick. In hindsight, I realized I never had morning sickness, my vitamin just made me puke. Go.

Op here.

That seems to be helping - taking the prenatal at night vs morning.

I’m going to try to go, I’ve got diclegis, zofran, cut out coffee, and plan on rebating and hydrating as much as I can today and tomorrow. I don’t want to miss out on the trip, I just don’t want to feel sick and miserable the whole time.

I have Crohns feel nauseated often, which I don’t think is helping the MS.