Supposed to leave for Europe on Sunday and I’m 5 weeks pregnant.
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Yep, +1 to this. DH cannot win either way. (I'm a wife, not a DH, so this isn't a case of a man griping at the OP....) OP, I had to go on a business trip at about three weeks pregnant and felt awful the night I arrived. The next day I was much better and stayed that way for the five days of the trip. This stuff can change from day to day or week to week. But as PP notes, you seem pretty determined to be negative about this. That could be the emotions from hormones. Any chance your DH can convince you to go? |
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NP. You seem dumb, or inexperienced, so let me explain it to you. Usually a job entails responsibilities that you must perform or be subject to either not being paid and/or not having a job anymore. Enjoying a vacation involves luxury, optional activities that bring one pleasure. It is perfectly possible to slog through days/weeks/months of work when one is not well. But doing this does not mean that one simultaneously possesses the ability to "enjoy" a vacation. OP, I wouldn't go. When I was newly pregnant we cancelled on a friend's wedding because I was so sick (yet I still went to work nearly every day). They confessed a few years later that they were disappointed and hurt that we had cancelled, until she became pregnant and ultimately had to quit her job because her sickness and fatigue were so bad. Then they understood. |
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Just go and take it easy, listen to your body.
it's hard to reschedule for 2nd trimester but you could look into it for everyone. wouldn't count on it working for 4 adults schedules. |
Anonymous
First of all, I am not an idiot. The reason I was comparing the flu is because of the symptoms! When you are vomiting and only want to lay in bed do you want to eat fancy food and visit museums? Sure, the flu is contagious and pregnancy is not but, if you think about it for the person who is experiencing it the feelings are the same: You do not wish to get on a plane for 9 hours nor do you want to leave the bathroom. Do you think the other couple will appreciate her not joining them or throwing up in every trash can around Europe? She would be doing them a favor by not going! I know this is DCUM and people are expected to insult others for having a different perspective but perhaps you should think about what kind of person you want to be when you immediately call someone an idiot. Maybe you should learn how to disagree politely? |
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Op here.
I rally every single morning when I get myself out of bed, shower, and go to work - work all day, despite wanting to run home and lie down in bed. I’m taking diclegis, pregnancy pops, eating crackers. The nausea is still there. It’s always looming. You bet I would much rather be at home sick than sick on vacation. My own bed and home versus a plane with 100+ strangers witnessing me getting sick? Yeah, no thanks. Plus germs. Weve already talked to the couple and told them I may not be able to go. I don’t care if DH goes or not, at this point I really don’t feel like taking a trans Atlantic flight and schlepping myself all over the UK for 2 weeks. Our losses would be minimal, the flight and 3 nights of hotel is what we’ve already paid for. We may be able to get flight credit and could go later in the pregnancy if I feel better. |
Anonymous
Um, lady, parenthood is way harder than morning sickness. You need to learn how to keep going. |
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well I do think the other couples should be giving consideration, I think a lot of you are being over-the-top rude and mean. Piling on for no
There's a difference between having to travel and discretionary travel. This is a vacation. She can't drink, she can't eat, it's just not going to be that fun. As the other couple, I would totally understand. As her d h, I absolutely would. I am the previous poster who traveesl for business is 6 weeks. Have you ever thrown up in an airplane lavatory? Or in a trash can in an airport? Do you remember being very early pregnant and how heightened the sense of smell is? And close places like planes and hotel rooms can be awful with that. |
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| Sorry about they typos. Posting pre coffee huge mistake. |
Anonymous
NP here. Not sure why you think anyone is jealous? I agree there have been some over the top comments, but I think they are more annoyed by OP than jealous of her. |
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OP you forgot to add that you're going to feel bloated to your projected list of complaints.
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I went on vacation at 7 weeks with my first, 5 with my second and 6+ with my third (europe and Brazil, so longer flights than yours)... I had made plans with family and DH and I was not about to ruin them because I was not 100%. Granted I rarely threw up, but I had constant nausea, fainting spells and I had to take it easy a lot. My dH and mom would take turns caring for my kids when I was not feeling up for it. Imagine, with my first I fainted getting a manicure...
You can do it OP... if you don’t feel great, you can just take it easy. Meet your friends for lunch and dinner or a walk in the afternoon. Stay in the hotel and relax. The plane ride is really not a big deal this early in the pregnancy (much worse in my opinion when you have a big belly already). I do think it’s selfish not to go and motherhood (and he rest if your pregnancy) will only get harder and harder. |
Anonymous
Because it seems that for so many people here, a trip to Europe is such a big deal that they would never consider canceling, no matter the reason. For others who go multiple times every year, it’s really no big deal. |
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You had fainting Spells at 7 weeks and sooner and had to take it easy? I have a feeling you're exaggeratingsome issues because you don't truly understand how exhausting constant nausea and vomiting is.
I think that there is something in the way that OP has communicated that is making people react so nastily, but on the basics, she is not selfish or a special snowflake. If she is worried about taking leave and feeling miserable on a long flight, I don't understand why everybody's giving her such a hard time I love my friends and I would do my best for them, but I'm not going to suffer through an expensive vacation that I can't enjoy. Not being able to eat well, or drink would be tedious. It's a discretionary vacation, not a work commitment. Not a wedding. Not a once-in-a-lifetime event. |
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No, I fainted almost everyday and occasionally I even fainted while sitting (I.e. getting a manicure). At work I had to put my legs on my desk several time a day because itherwise I would have fainted there too. I also had constant nausea, but I rarely threw up. I realize that some women have worse symptoms than me, but the first 13-14 weeks of each one of my pregnancies were not easy. I also (like every other pregnant woman on the planet) was absoloutely exhausted the first 8-10 weeks... we all went through it... OP is acting bf like a princess in my opinion and she should go. |
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bTW I am not jealous at all. I fly to Europe and South America multiple times a year |