Supposed to leave for Europe on Sunday and I’m 5 weeks pregnant.
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I’m supposed to leave for Europe on Sunday, we have a 12 day trip planned with another couple.
I just found out I’m pregnant 2 weeks ago and morning sickness and fatigue have already hit. I have no desire to travel around Europe right now. DH keeps telling me “it will be fine” but frankly, he’s not the one with constant nausea and feeling like crap. I told DH we should either go when I’m in my second trimester and some of the nausea has subsided and I can enjoy the trip more, but he still wants to go. I don’t. Everyone keeps telling me to go, but I just don’t want to. The trip is going to take up all my accrued leave and I now want to save that leave for the pregnancy, considering I’ve only been at my job 10 months and am not eligible for FMLA yet. I’m moreso pissed that DH is being unsupportive about me not wanting to go. I understand his reasoning for feeling upset, but I feel like crap ALL the time. |
Anonymous
If you've been at your job for 10 months, you'll be eligible for FMLA by the time you give birth. I felt crappy during my first (and most of the second) trimester, so I get it, but a 12 day trip must have been already paid for, right? That's a lot of money and you've both already put in for leave -- I think you should suck it up. |
Anonymous
The flights were $1000 and we would be eligible for flight credit if we cancelled. We’ve booked a hotel for only 3 nights so far. I see your reasoning, I just feel so miserable and nauseous and have no idea how I could travel and enjoy it at this point. |
Anonymous
Oh man, OP, that sucks. I found out that I was pregnant with my first on day 3 of a 10 day vacation in Italy (fun tourist experience: learn how to ask for a pregnancy test from a pharmacy in a small town in Italy!). It was pretty awful. I was exhausted and just wanted to sleep for 12 hours a day when everyone else wanted to hike and go to the beach. I was nauseous all the time, and being in an area where everyone smokes and everything smells like old wet ocean rocks and seafood was miserable. I was also mad about not being able to drink the wine or the coffee, but tried to console myself with gelato and as much pizza and pasta as I could keep down. I think that if I had it to do over again, whether I went or not would really depend on what our trip was going to be. We were going to the Cinque Terre and the plan was a lot of hiking and hanging out on the beach. I was able to manage some of that - sleeping on the beach while DH went in the water, read, etc. Hiking the trail between towns was a little more difficult and we didn't do as much of that as we'd originally planned. We were staying in a rental apartment, and I made a point of napping in the afternoon (either at the apartment or on the beach) every day we were there. Fortunately, my DH was not a jerk about my reduced activity and didn't mind spending more time in the apartment than originally planned. If anything, I think I was more annoyed about the situation than he was. If we had planned to do a lot of tourist stuff in a big city, I think I would probably have tried to reschedule the trip because I could really only manage 2 meals and one activity per day, and even that wasn't always that fun for me. Given that you are going with other people, I think that you should try to suck it up to the extent possible. You will probably have SOME fun, but it definitely won't be the vacation you planned. GL! |
Anonymous
You don't ruin a trip for 3 other people You go. You throw-up in the hotel room. You rest at the hotel, if that's what you want to do |
Anonymous
| There are 3 other people depending on you for an elaborate trip. Suck it up. |
Anonymous
| There are 3 other people depending on you for an elaborate trip. Suck it up. |
Anonymous
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I would go, and I've pulled up in random places during my morning commute to throw up in my car vomit bag. Stipulate your conditions up front! That your husband will take care of your needs, fetching and carrying stuff during your travels, and that you will be able to veto any activity. It will be the best trip 
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Anonymous
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Op here.
I honestly would not mind if DH went. The other couple would still go. The trip would not be ruined for them, by any means and they would probably have more fun without me whining and complaining the whole time
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Anonymous
| I had to do a trip like this in my first trimester. It was hell. No one got how sick I was and I got so much pressure to come out...and then eat French food. All I wanted was carbs. I would change it. First trimester is brutal. 2nd is fine. 3rd is even better - you just aren't sleeping so great. |
Anonymous
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Obviously this is your first kid.
Which means this could be your last trip to Europe in a long time and almost certainly your last trip without kids for a long time unless you have very accommodating in-laws or money for a full time nanny. Morning sickness sucks but as much as you may love parenthood you will miss the freedom to do trips like this so I'd make an effort to make the trip work. |
Anonymous
| Suck it up. Seriously you are pregnant not dying. |
Anonymous
| Go get zofran, diclegis, ginger candies, nausea bands etc and go. Drink more coffee. |
Anonymous
| Timing isn’t ideal, but you’re incredibly selfish to consider canceling a trip to Europe days before leaving and leaving the other couple hanging. Suck it up |
Anonymous
This. I really cherished my baby moons. Time away from kids? Amazing. |