Let's play "Who is Right?": flying a dying relative across the country via coach versus first class

[Anonymous]

PP sorry I did not see at first hwere you explained he wasn't w/hospice. But I think you can still call hospice or go to an informational meeting to get advice without setting him up with it.

[Anonymous]

This is messed up. Is ANYONE thinking about HIM and his comfort during his last days?
He should not be put through this.

Making a dying man fly across country in coach just to die in another one of his children's house?

SMH.

[Anonymous]

First class. See if you can pay to upgrade him.

My dad has a medical problem and, unasked by anyone, I bought him a $2000 AED for his home (he lives in a rural area far from first responders). There's no amount of money I wouldn't spend for my dad's safety, well being and comfort. Spring for the upgrade.

[Anonymous]

My dad died from cancer. It was painful. i can't imagine putting him through a flight WITH CONNECTIONS across the country in his last months/weeks. Have a mercy for a dying man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad died from cancer. It was painful. i can't imagine putting him through a flight WITH CONNECTIONS across the country in his last months/weeks. Have a mercy for a dying man.

+100

My dad as well.

There is no way I would consider the flight. It's inhumane to that poor man.

[Anonymous]

OP, you said your husband "has a trial" and can't fly with his dad.

Why hasnt he filed to be the legal guardian so he can end this? You said the sister isn't talking to him anyway.

The stress you are about to inflict on a physically and mentally unwell man is cruel. The comments about elder abuse seem spot on.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Update is that DH is going to fly with FIL after DH's trial is over. Apparently now there are some planes that have domestic first class with seats that lay flat, so they are booked on one of those for the longer flight. The connecting flight is pretty short.

It's still going to be terrible, and I'm kind of hoping something happens to prevent them from going at all, but this is where things are at the moment.

[Anonymous]

Have mercy of a dying man. Don’t put him through the extra stress and humiliation to fly across the country while feeling so sick and unable to take care of himself.

[Anonymous]

Seems petty to fight over this in the face of a loved one dying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Update is that DH is going to fly with FIL after DH's trial is over. Apparently now there are some planes that have domestic first class with seats that lay flat, so they are booked on one of those for the longer flight. The connecting flight is pretty short.

It's still going to be terrible, and I'm kind of hoping something happens to prevent them from going at all, but this is where things are at the moment.

Call the airline anonymously and let them know that you heard a very fragile, terminally ill elderly man is flying on this flight and you are concerned that the flight will have to be diverted because of his condition. I had a flight diverted for this very reason and it cost the airlines a LOT, not to mention greatly inconveniencing the passengers and crew.

[Anonymous]

If he is receiving palliative care, he should be in hospice. At any rate, he should NOT be flying. It is absolutely CRUEL to allow this. This is a hill to die on, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Update is that DH is going to fly with FIL after DH's trial is over. Apparently now there are some planes that have domestic first class with seats that lay flat, so they are booked on one of those for the longer flight. The connecting flight is pretty short.

It's still going to be terrible, and I'm kind of hoping something happens to prevent them from going at all, but this is where things are at the moment.

OP keeps changing the story. Careful OP, you are beginning to sound like a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems petty to fight over this in the face of a loved one dying.

People can get quite irrational when faced with the illness of a loved one.

Op, it sounds like your DH and SIL are the only children? I would be more than a little concerned about the part where you say SIL is vehemently opposed to hospice. It sounds like she's in denial about the reality of her father's condition, which may be leading her to think it's okay to move him in such a frail condition. I get that it's complicated, but are you guys in a position to go against her wishes and keep him at your home? Is BIL a rational voice in all this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First class. See if you can pay to upgrade him.

My dad has a medical problem and, unasked by anyone, I bought him a $2000 AED for his home (he lives in a rural area far from first responders). There's no amount of money I wouldn't spend for my dad's safety, well being and comfort. Spring for the upgrade.

Is that a defib machine? I hope he lives with someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First class. See if you can pay to upgrade him.

My dad has a medical problem and, unasked by anyone, I bought him a $2000 AED for his home (he lives in a rural area far from first responders). There's no amount of money I wouldn't spend for my dad's safety, well being and comfort. Spring for the upgrade.

Is that a defib machine? I hope he lives with someone.

No kidding! Also hope that person is present 24/7. Ay ya yi.