Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.

That's hysterical. Sorry OP, but it made me smile.

DH and I have agreed that if this is our biggest extended-related problem we're doing well.

OP, can you maybe split the difference and suggest she call your DD Millie? Then at least it's related to her actual name?

Or maybe she backs off and just lets Grandma and Millicent have a special nickname they only use with each other.

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Tillie is actually a really cute nickname for Millicent. It's not the end of the world if Grandma has a special nickname for Millicent. It's really not. Is Grandma's reason petty and stupid? Sure it is. But that doesn't mean that the nickname has to be a point of contention. Either little Millicent will continue to ignore "Tillie," or she'll figure out that it's a nickname and she'll decide she likes it or she doesn't, and if she likes it, there's really not a damn thing you can do about it. If she doesn't, she'll tell Grandma she doesn't like it. This is one of those problems that's going to solve itself and is really not worth getting offended by. You cannot control what people call your child forever--teachers and friends and classmates are going to give her nicknames, and it will be up to your child to deal with them.

[Anonymous]

When your DH pointed out it was wrong and she said "OOPS" I would have said "do you want this back to return it, or shall I donate it for you?".

When she acted offended you just say "the name is misspelled and I think that's pretty confusing and hurtful for a young child. Would you like to return it or shall I donate it?".

Repeat as needed. "Return it or donate it?"

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A grandma using her own cute nickname of Tillie isn't the same thing as a grandma not spelling the nickname right.

I don't have a nickname, but something I've ran into sometimes with people with nicknames is THEY spell it differently all the time. I never know to send the email to Ros/Roz Susie/Suzi Tracy/Traci. I've even tracked it before and they change the spelling all the time. It's the weirdest thing. I've asked my Aunt Susie how she prefers her name to be spelled and she told me she doesn't care and there's not a set spelling. I found that kind of weird, but whatever.

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Come back and report when she notices the new slipcover with the correct spelling.

She knew what she was doing.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?

OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"

Your DH needs to give the chair back to your MIL, who seems like a spitefiul bitch.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?

OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"

Your DH needs to give the chair back to your MIL, who seems like a spitefiul bitch.

sorry--spiteful (I need my reading glasses)

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Anonymous wrote:New cover or embroidered patch over the old one.

This is what I'd do. Get a T-shirt place to embroider the name on a contrasting piece of fabric and have it sewn over the old one. Shouldn't cost much at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought you meant like, Vicky vs. Vicki, where it's a spelling difference. I think Susie vs. Suzi is a big enough difference that it's not misspelling, it's a different nickname your DD has from her grandmother. That's less bothersome to me because it won't confuse the kid about spelling and letters, and more of a "you can have this thing together" issue.

Paint over it and repaint with the correct spelling.

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As someone who is always getting their names misspelled (thanks mom), it HATE it when people who have known me for decades (family) spell my name wrong. It is a slap in the face and annoying as hell.
Not a hill i will die on, but i do notice and it annoys me.

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I thought it was small potatos until the chair anecdote.

I would ignore it unless she sends a personalized gift and then I would honestly (because when I feel like it I can be a passive aggressive B) I would give the wrongly spelled item away and purchase the item myself with the correct spelling and make sure it is out and about when MIL visits. If asked I would say that we contacted the manufacturer to get the correct spelling.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?

OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"

Your MIL is a b*tch.

Unless your DD is in love with the chair, I'd get rid of it--and possibly buy one with the name spelled correctly for your kid's next birthday.

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Anonymous wrote:When your DH pointed out it was wrong and she said "OOPS" I would have said "do you want this back to return it, or shall I donate it for you?".

When she acted offended you just say "the name is misspelled and I think that's pretty confusing and hurtful for a young child. Would you like to return it or shall I donate it?".

Repeat as needed. "Return it or donate it?"

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A grandma using her own cute nickname of Tillie isn't the same thing as a grandma not spelling the nickname right.

I don't have a nickname, but something I've ran into sometimes with people with nicknames is THEY spell it differently all the time. I never know to send the email to Ros/Roz Susie/Suzi Tracy/Traci. I've even tracked it before and they change the spelling all the time. It's the weirdest thing. I've asked my Aunt Susie how she prefers her name to be spelled and she told me she doesn't care and there's not a set spelling. I found that kind of weird, but whatever.

I have never in my life seen this.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.

Tillie is really cute!

+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.

The way you felt about something cannot be extrapolated to how everyone should feel about a similar situation. Clearly the OP doesn't like it, and there's a pretty good chance the OP's daughter won't like that her grandmother deliberately misspells her name. The grandmother clearly isn't doing it to create a special bond with the child, but rather to annoy the child's parents.

Tilllie is objectively so much better than Millicent.

But that's not your decision to make. Millicent seems wonderful to us because of all the wonderful women in my family line who have had the name. All living Millicents get together twice a year and do something special (I'm the second daughter, so I've never gone, but I think they incorporate a favorite thing of each Millicent into the Millicent day). Being a Millicent in my family is wonderful and special.

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Just get some pink duct tape and put a "Y" on the "I" or whatever it is that you need corrected (have your DD help you) and then say nothing. Your DD is making her chair, "HER" chair and she'll love it a little more for her personal input into it.

And OP, don't sweat it with your MIL. Your kid will outgrow that chair so fast and it will be in happily taken by you to the thrift store, and you will muse back at this time and how fast it went.

~mom of teen girls