Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, everyone. I ordered a new cover for the chair with the correct spelling - everything else (color, piping, thread) is the same.

Well-played, OP. Very satisfying--come back and tell us if she ever notices and reacts!

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Anonymous wrote:I would either adjust the spelling with paint (if possible), paint the entire chair a solid color or - if that's too much of a hassle, donate it. Your DH has already identified the error and MIL didn't offer to get it fixed or replace it, so you've tried.

At some point in the not-too-distant future, your young DD is going to be sad that her grandma doesn't spell her name/nickname correctly. This will most likely be hurtful to a little one. Address this now, OP, before it gets out of hand. MIL should not be pulling these stunts.

It is a fabric chair. Yes, the Pottery Barn one.

Buy a new cover.

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Read the thread people. OP ordered a new cover. No one wants duct tape or contrasting fabric sewn on the chair with the correct name. Wtf.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.

Tillie is really cute!

+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.

The way you felt about something cannot be extrapolated to how everyone should feel about a similar situation. Clearly the OP doesn't like it, and there's a pretty good chance the OP's daughter won't like that her grandmother deliberately misspells her name. The grandmother clearly isn't doing it to create a special bond with the child, but rather to annoy the child's parents.

Tilllie is objectively so much better than Millicent.

But that's not your decision to make. Millicent seems wonderful to us because of all the wonderful women in my family line who have had the name. All living Millicents get together twice a year and do something special (I'm the second daughter, so I've never gone, but I think they incorporate a favorite thing of each Millicent into the Millicent day). Being a Millicent in my family is wonderful and special.

The more you describe it the weirder it sounds.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.

Tillie is really cute!

+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.

The way you felt about something cannot be extrapolated to how everyone should feel about a similar situation. Clearly the OP doesn't like it, and there's a pretty good chance the OP's daughter won't like that her grandmother deliberately misspells her name. The grandmother clearly isn't doing it to create a special bond with the child, but rather to annoy the child's parents.

Tilllie is objectively so much better than Millicent.

But that's not your decision to make. Millicent seems wonderful to us because of all the wonderful women in my family line who have had the name. All living Millicents get together twice a year and do something special (I'm the second daughter, so I've never gone, but I think they incorporate a favorite thing of each Millicent into the Millicent day). Being a Millicent in my family is wonderful and special.

Your family sounds like a weird cult. You aren't a Millicent so you can't really say how special it is or isn't.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.

Tillie is really cute!

+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.

The way you felt about something cannot be extrapolated to how everyone should feel about a similar situation. Clearly the OP doesn't like it, and there's a pretty good chance the OP's daughter won't like that her grandmother deliberately misspells her name. The grandmother clearly isn't doing it to create a special bond with the child, but rather to annoy the child's parents.

Tilllie is objectively so much better than Millicent.

But that's not your decision to make. Millicent seems wonderful to us because of all the wonderful women in my family line who have had the name. All living Millicents get together twice a year and do something special (I'm the second daughter, so I've never gone, but I think they incorporate a favorite thing of each Millicent into the Millicent day). Being a Millicent in my family is wonderful and special.

Wow, that sounds incredibly exclusive and hurtful to those who aren't the first born. I hope you don't have a second daughter!

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Get a Sharpie and cross out the misspelled name on the chair and write it the correct way. She should get the hint.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.

Tillie is really cute!

+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.

The way you felt about something cannot be extrapolated to how everyone should feel about a similar situation. Clearly the OP doesn't like it, and there's a pretty good chance the OP's daughter won't like that her grandmother deliberately misspells her name. The grandmother clearly isn't doing it to create a special bond with the child, but rather to annoy the child's parents.

Tilllie is objectively so much better than Millicent.

But that's not your decision to make. Millicent seems wonderful to us because of all the wonderful women in my family line who have had the name. All living Millicents get together twice a year and do something special (I'm the second daughter, so I've never gone, but I think they incorporate a favorite thing of each Millicent into the Millicent day). Being a Millicent in my family is wonderful and special.

Wow, that sounds incredibly exclusive and hurtful to those who aren't the first born. I hope you don't have a second daughter!

Not everyone always gets invited to every party. I *am* the second daughter and it's fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.

Tillie is really cute!

+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.

The way you felt about something cannot be extrapolated to how everyone should feel about a similar situation. Clearly the OP doesn't like it, and there's a pretty good chance the OP's daughter won't like that her grandmother deliberately misspells her name. The grandmother clearly isn't doing it to create a special bond with the child, but rather to annoy the child's parents.

Tilllie is objectively so much better than Millicent.

But that's not your decision to make. Millicent seems wonderful to us because of all the wonderful women in my family line who have had the name. All living Millicents get together twice a year and do something special (I'm the second daughter, so I've never gone, but I think they incorporate a favorite thing of each Millicent into the Millicent day). Being a Millicent in my family is wonderful and special.

Wow, that sounds incredibly exclusive and hurtful to those who aren't the first born. I hope you don't have a second daughter!

Not everyone always gets invited to every party. I *am* the second daughter and it's fine.

No it's really not fine this is not cceptable behavior or dynmic for healthy families, but I have a feeling you're testing out a plot for your novel.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you like to switch grandmas? We named our daughter Millicent. The first girl in each generation gets named that, going back many generations.

My mother's name is Millicent and MIL feels that Baby Millicent was named after her. She is bitter the baby was not named after her, so refuses to call her Millicent. Thus, she calls her Tillie. Millicent ignores her because she hears Tillie and probably thinks "well that's not me" and MIL gets very upset. We have told her repeatedly to try calling her by her name, Millicent, but she continues on with Tillie.

Tillie is really cute!

+1 that’s adorable! My grandpa was the only person in my life to call me Emma (my name is Emily and I only ever went by that) and I LOVED it. It was a special grandpa-granddaughter thing. Take a chill pill, for heaven’s sake.

The way you felt about something cannot be extrapolated to how everyone should feel about a similar situation. Clearly the OP doesn't like it, and there's a pretty good chance the OP's daughter won't like that her grandmother deliberately misspells her name. The grandmother clearly isn't doing it to create a special bond with the child, but rather to annoy the child's parents.

Tilllie is objectively so much better than Millicent.

But that's not your decision to make. Millicent seems wonderful to us because of all the wonderful women in my family line who have had the name. All living Millicents get together twice a year and do something special (I'm the second daughter, so I've never gone, but I think they incorporate a favorite thing of each Millicent into the Millicent day). Being a Millicent in my family is wonderful and special.

Wow, that sounds incredibly exclusive and hurtful to those who aren't the first born. I hope you don't have a second daughter!

I think she's making this Millicent thing up. But on the tiny chance this isn't ducktales I pity the first person who has the guts not to name their first daughter Millicent.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, everyone. I ordered a new cover for the chair with the correct spelling - everything else (color, piping, thread) is the same.

Well-played, OP. Very satisfying--come back and tell us if she ever notices and reacts!

+1 If I were you, OP, I wouldn't mention it. Just let the Old Bag see the chair with the right spelling of the kid's name.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, everyone. I ordered a new cover for the chair with the correct spelling - everything else (color, piping, thread) is the same.

That's great - now when you get it and MIL remarks on it, just look puzzled and say that is the way it was when she brought it over..

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Anonymous wrote:I handled this same issue forever! MIL said oh I guess I forgot it wasn’t Suzi and I said “hmm that’s kind of a big thing to forget, especially since we’ve reminded you before! Maybe make a note for your next physical.”

MILs mouth disappeared into her face and she tried to kill me with her eyes but she hasn’t done that again. OR that my kid can’t gave wheat (Celiac) since I used the same line for that (Oh Linda this is really concerning that you’d forget something this big. Should you talk to your GP?)

This is so great!!

OP, nice work! (I’m under the impression that you’re not the Millicent poster. Am I right?)

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?

OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"

At some points DH needs to say “Come on, Mom. What’s going on? We know you don’t like the spelling, but that’s what we’ve chosen. Are you really going to keep deliberately misspelling your granddaughter’s name?”

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I'm late to the game, but OP, you did the right thing.

When I was a child I had a grandfather who insisted on calling me "Sam." Not my name, not remotely related to my name. He was just teasing and maybe thought he was being playful. He died when I was four, and the only real memory I have of him is the frustration I felt over not being called my correct name.