Match Date Lied

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It was one date and you don’t owe him anything. Do you think guys are sitting around trying to convince themselves not to be so shallow if they meet a girl that lied about her age by a lot or weight by a lot? I think the choice would be between ghosting, a nice “there wasn’t chemistry”, or a more blunt, not my type/wasted my time lying. Yes, there is a range of fudge factor like 20 pounds, 1 or 2 inches of height, a few years for age - it was beyond that.

The thing is though, society says it's fair game to ask a guy his height but asking a woman about her weight is taboo or even down right rude. Double standards galore.

Asking a woman’s height is fair game and that is the same for men. No double standard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know he was 5'6? Did you pull out a measuring tape?

Also, we don't live in an era in which the ability to fight off marauding tribes is important. We live in an era in which intelligence, kindness, and ability to thrive in other areas is important (unless you are set on dating a pro basketball player).

What if the nice, shorter man turns out to be a guy who treats you well and is really, really good at something (IT, law, the arts, etc)? What if he is a kind family man who really loves you? Would his height really matter at all in that case?

I'm a woman, by the way.

It’s not good to be a short man. Thus, women seek out talker, more genetically endowed male partners to mate with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know he was 5'6? Did you pull out a measuring tape?

Also, we don't live in an era in which the ability to fight off marauding tribes is important. We live in an era in which intelligence, kindness, and ability to thrive in other areas is important (unless you are set on dating a pro basketball player).

What if the nice, shorter man turns out to be a guy who treats you well and is really, really good at something (IT, law, the arts, etc)? What if he is a kind family man who really loves you? Would his height really matter at all in that case?

I'm a woman, by the way.

It’s not good to be a short man. Thus, women seek out talker, more genetically endowed male partners to mate with.

^ taller

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird he lied about something so obvious. Was he extremely good looking or very rich? How was he expecting that to be overlooked/outweighed?

He's still a liar. Nothing good looking or rich about being a liar. Even if he was (either of those things) - the lying will not stop - trust me.

EVERYONE lies. Everyone.

He lied about his height, which is stupid because it's immediately apparent he lied. He might have lying problems, he might not. He might be a good guy who has been burned listing his true height because women will not go out with him when he's honest. Who knows.

Being burned doesn't make it okay for him to blatantly lie. If online dating doesn't work for him he should concentrate on meeting women offline. Lying is not his only option.

Disagree. Dating is a bit Machiavellian. Women use make up, hair spray, heels, jewelry, implants, spanx, teeth whitener, perfume, etc. Those are all lies. Men can fib if they want.

It is not the height that is a problem, it is the lying. Although short men come with their own baggage.

Tiny carry ons.

[Anonymous]

Although short men come with their own baggage

Every woman in existence comes with baggage. Given that I know great guys who are under 5' 10", I think the "short men have issues" argument is an excuse; you all really give a crap about how the two of you look in photos or some other really really stupid thing. If you're lonely, that's your call.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What weight is listed on your profile? How much do you really weigh?

OP here. My weight isn't listed. I'm listed as 'athletic and toned' under body type because it's true. I'm 5' 6" and 135 pounds. I run three times a week and do a bunch of stretching each day.

This made me laugh. It does nothing for your athleticism or body tone. It just feels good. Unless by stretching you mean yoga or pilates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird he lied about something so obvious. Was he extremely good looking or very rich? How was he expecting that to be overlooked/outweighed?

He's still a liar. Nothing good looking or rich about being a liar. Even if he was (either of those things) - the lying will not stop - trust me.

EVERYONE lies. Everyone.

He lied about his height, which is stupid because it's immediately apparent he lied. He might have lying problems, he might not. He might be a good guy who has been burned listing his true height because women will not go out with him when he's honest. Who knows.

Being burned doesn't make it okay for him to blatantly lie. If online dating doesn't work for him he should concentrate on meeting women offline. Lying is not his only option.

Disagree. Dating is a bit Machiavellian. Women use make up, hair spray, heels, jewelry, implants, spanx, teeth whitener, perfume, etc. Those are all lies. Men can fib if they want.

I don't see how tooth whitener is a lie. After you do it, your teeth are whiter. Also, men can use this as well.

[Anonymous]

All of the things PP listed actually do change your appearance and are not lies. He may as well have mentioned that you can wipe your ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty much every man I ever met on a dating website lied about their height unless they were over 6'2". Those that were that tall gave their real height. Just shave at least 2" off everyone's profile. Apparently almost every woman over 40 lies about height/weight, judging by the comments I got from the men I did meet.

Them: You look EXACTLY like your profile picture!
Me: (thinking...because it's a photograph, not an artistic rendering?)

Add an inch to your height if you want to cut back on the men who are too short for you. The only time that ever backfired a bit was when I met a guy who was 6'8", and he told me I was the shortest woman he'd ever gone out with. I did apologize to him, even though I was wearing high heels--but that's still a LOT of difference. (His preference was 5'10" and up)

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Some people also don't really read your profile info fully. I went on multiple dates with a Jewish guy who seemed pretty nice. I'm not Jewish, which was stated in my profile. On one of the dates he started talking about how it would be a shock to his mother to bring home a nice German Jewish girl who looks so non-Jewish (whatever). I gave him a funny look and told him that I'm not, at which point he got upset. Uhm, it's ON MY PROFILE under religion--Catholic.

Another date. Partway through the date I mention my son. Who is not only listed on my profile but is in a pic. Date looks shocked and says he doesn't want to date anyone with kids. Fair enough but it's ON MY PROFILE.

I could go on and on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of the things PP listed actually do change your appearance and are not lies. He may as well have mentioned that you can wipe your ass.

Some women can't do this either and will lie about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of the things PP listed actually do change your appearance and are not lies. He may as well have mentioned that you can wipe your ass.

Lipstick isn't a lie? Your lips are naturally glossy, bright red, and outlined in black? Uh huh.

[Anonymous]

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Tiny carry ons.

Beats having luggage handles or an Arby’s Big Montana roast beef sandwich on you

[Anonymous]

Ok women. I am tall. 6' 2". I tower over the puny 5'6" girly man. Me big strong man.

Oh. by the way, I am fat. 260 lbs.

And I have 70's style body hair, not the 2010's image of hairless mammals.

So, I will give you the height. But I will also give you fluffy and hairy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All of the things PP listed actually do change your appearance and are not lies. He may as well have mentioned that you can wipe your ass.

Lipstick isn't a lie? Your lips are naturally glossy, bright red, and outlined in black? Uh huh.

Enjoy dating someone that doesn't have any personal hygiene or grooming practices. At least it's honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok women. I am tall. 6' 2". I tower over the puny 5'6" girly man. Me big strong man.

Oh. by the way, I am fat. 260 lbs.

And I have 70's style body hair, not the 2010's image of hairless mammals.

So, I will give you the height. But I will also give you fluffy and hairy.

Eh. Gross. Youre precisely the type of man I find unattractive. Give me a fit, well groomed, short man any day.