Match Date Lied

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird he lied about something so obvious. Was he extremely good looking or very rich? How was he expecting that to be overlooked/outweighed?

He's still a liar. Nothing good looking or rich about being a liar. Even if he was (either of those things) - the lying will not stop - trust me.

EVERYONE lies. Everyone.

He lied about his height, which is stupid because it's immediately apparent he lied. He might have lying problems, he might not. He might be a good guy who has been burned listing his true height because women will not go out with him when he's honest. Who knows.

Being burned doesn't make it okay for him to blatantly lie. If online dating doesn't work for him he should concentrate on meeting women offline. Lying is not his only option.

Disagree. Dating is a bit Machiavellian. Women use make up, hair spray, heels, jewelry, implants, spanx, teeth whitener, perfume, etc. Those are all lies. Men can fib if they want.

It is not the height that is a problem, it is the lying. Although short men come with their own baggage.

Strawman.

Not a strawman at all. And the things you described are not in the same category as what this guy did.

[Anonymous]

OP, how do you know he was 5'6? Did you pull out a measuring tape?

Also, we don't live in an era in which the ability to fight off marauding tribes is important. We live in an era in which intelligence, kindness, and ability to thrive in other areas is important (unless you are set on dating a pro basketball player).

What if the nice, shorter man turns out to be a guy who treats you well and is really, really good at something (IT, law, the arts, etc)? What if he is a kind family man who really loves you? Would his height really matter at all in that case?

I'm a woman, by the way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Brand new to online dating. I'd been with my ex for 9 years and never tried it before. Met a guy who seemed sweet and cute. Chatted about a week and agreed to meet at Brabo in Old Town for dinner.

In he walks... at 5'6". His profile listed at 5'10" and we never talked about it but ... yeesh. I'm just not interested. Do I fade, call him out, or pity myself for being shallow?

Is this any worse than selling yourself as a blonde when your actually a brunette? Or that you may have fake boobs or other cosmetic enhancements?

Yes it is.

In the Land of DCUM Double Standards, of course it’s worse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know he was 5'6? Did you pull out a measuring tape?

Also, we don't live in an era in which the ability to fight off marauding tribes is important. We live in an era in which intelligence, kindness, and ability to thrive in other areas is important (unless you are set on dating a pro basketball player).

What if the nice, shorter man turns out to be a guy who treats you well and is really, really good at something (IT, law, the arts, etc)? What if he is a kind family man who really loves you? Would his height really matter at all in that case?

I'm a woman, by the way.

Sadly OP's date wasn't really really good at telling the truth.

[Anonymous]

I am 6'4". Many times I have been stuck buying dinner for a woman who said she was 46 when she was actually 56, or had the dishonest profile photos which concealed that she had the body of a hippo (I finally got good at spotting those--no body shots, no contact, and bikini shots are preferred). In every single case I was a gentleman, did my best to show them a good time, paid for the date, and then never called them again.

The worst was the woman who said she was 50, but she was actually 69. She was old enough to be my mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 6'4". Many times I have been stuck buying dinner for a woman who said she was 46 when she was actually 56, or had the dishonest profile photos which concealed that she had the body of a hippo (I finally got good at spotting those--no body shots, no contact, and bikini shots are preferred). In every single case I was a gentleman, did my best to show them a good time, paid for the date, and then never called them again.

The worst was the woman who said she was 50, but she was actually 69. She was old enough to be my mother.

You would've been well within your rights to cancel the date on the spot. I think these types of ridiculous lies by either gender should not be tolerated and they shouldn't be rewarded by getting what they want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 6'4". Many times I have been stuck buying dinner for a woman who said she was 46 when she was actually 56, or had the dishonest profile photos which concealed that she had the body of a hippo (I finally got good at spotting those--no body shots, no contact, and bikini shots are preferred). In every single case I was a gentleman, did my best to show them a good time, paid for the date, and then never called them again.

The worst was the woman who said she was 50, but she was actually 69. She was old enough to be my mother.

You would've been well within your rights to cancel the date on the spot. I think these types of ridiculous lies by either gender should not be tolerated and they shouldn't be rewarded by getting what they want.

I think that’s equally as ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

The lying about your age thing is so strange because I’ve seen profiles of plenty of women who are clearly late 40s saying they’re late 30s. They look good for their actual age, but really bad for the age they are claiming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know he was 5'6? Did you pull out a measuring tape?

Also, we don't live in an era in which the ability to fight off marauding tribes is important. We live in an era in which intelligence, kindness, and ability to thrive in other areas is important (unless you are set on dating a pro basketball player).

What if the nice, shorter man turns out to be a guy who treats you well and is really, really good at something (IT, law, the arts, etc)? What if he is a kind family man who really loves you? Would his height really matter at all in that case?

I'm a woman, by the way.

You could make the same arguments for anything. The guy that didn’t finish college, has a job that doesn’t pay a lot, extra pounds, balding, awkward with a heart of gold. Same things for the female equivalent like already has children, is older, extra pounds, average looks etc. People screen based on what they think they want. Sometimes you don’t always end up with your usual type but I don’t think deception is the best way to go about that.

[Anonymous]

The funniest thing in this thread is the tea story. The second funniest is OP taking umbrage at his lying and then herself lying when breaking it off by pretending that things were going well with another guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brand new to online dating. I'd been with my ex for 9 years and never tried it before. Met a guy who seemed sweet and cute. Chatted about a week and agreed to meet at Brabo in Old Town for dinner.

In he walks... at 5'6". His profile listed at 5'10" and we never talked about it but ... yeesh. I'm just not interested. Do I fade, call him out, or pity myself for being shallow?

Maybe he shrank?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Way back in the early days of Match, literally nearly 20 years ago at age 26, I said was looking for men ages 25-35. Got a very detailed reply from someone who said he was slightly above my age range but then listed in exhaustive detail all the things we had in common and asked if I'd give him a chance to meet for a drink because he was sure we'd click and age would be irrelevant. Stupid me for not writing to request exactly his age rather than assuming slightly above my range meant a few years.

When I walked in the bar, very early for happy hour, it was deserted other than a large elderly man with a pot of tea. I sat and waited until the elderly man approached and said my name! He was EASILY 70, possibly closer to 80.

I'd met guys who added inches but this guy more than doubled my max age and called it "slightly above."

I really hate narcissistic timewankers like that.

I flatlined right after reading “elderly man with a lot of tea”

Best story EVER!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The funniest thing in this thread is the tea story. The second funniest is OP taking umbrage at his lying and then herself lying when breaking it off by pretending that things were going well with another guy.

You're joking. He's a stranger. She doesn't owe him the truth or anything else.

[Anonymous]

Thank god I do not have to date anymore. I was on match when they first started out in the mid 90's (actually, I was on yenta.com, which was bought out by match).

Here is what I learned:

Some people lie. Some lie a little, some lie a lot. You never know how much they are lying until you investigate. I met one woman who claimed to be fit but must have weighed 300 lbs. I was surprised. She told me she was planning on losing weight. Oh, I had invested a bit of time in her. Date was not a quick meet, but rather a nice dinner and show. I could not get out of it. (she used a 10 yo pic of her).

I have woman who told me they did not smoke or do drugs and get upset when I refused a joint. (I have a security clearance, I like my job).

I have had woman lie about having kids; we went back to her house late, and slept together; nothing like having an 8 yo asking who you are at 5 AM...

[Anonymous]

This is funny that a woman is upset by a few inches. Sorry he was not the bearded 6'5" lumberjack attorney/surgeon you were expecting so you could rock your heels. 98% of women online are lying about something - education, career, height, body type, hobbies, religion - you're all all full of sh*t.