Match Date Lied

[Anonymous]

Brand new to online dating. I'd been with my ex for 9 years and never tried it before. Met a guy who seemed sweet and cute. Chatted about a week and agreed to meet at Brabo in Old Town for dinner.

In he walks... at 5'6". His profile listed at 5'10" and we never talked about it but ... yeesh. I'm just not interested. Do I fade, call him out, or pity myself for being shallow?

[Anonymous]

If he asks why you don't want to go out again, tell him why, but other than that, just move on.

[Anonymous]

Did you like his personality? Are you really that hung up on his height?

[Anonymous]

Just don't go out with him again. Say you don't feel a spark and leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you like his personality? Are you really that hung up on his height?

Not OP, but 4 inches is an obvious lie.

I like tall guys but wouldn't consider 5'6" a deal breaker by any stretch. But the lying is creepy.

[Anonymous]

It's weird he lied about something so obvious. Was he extremely good looking or very rich? How was he expecting that to be overlooked/outweighed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you like his personality? Are you really that hung up on his height?

Not OP, but 4 inches is an obvious lie.

I like tall guys but wouldn't consider 5'6" a deal breaker by any stretch. But the lying is creepy.

+1 The lying is the issue, not the height.

[Anonymous]

I can understand why he would lie. Sort of. Men get very few responses on dating sites, so they sometimes fudge things a bit.

If you aren’t interested, don’t reach out, and if he does just say you don’t think you are a good fit.

[Anonymous]

I'd have a problem with this. Men do tend to lie about height, but the lie is a turn off. My ex was a cheater, so any lie is an immediate trigger for me.

[Anonymous]

Someone on an online dating site lied.

And water is wet, the sky is blue.

You know what I'm saying, OP?

[Anonymous]

So many women are hung on height he was hoping fudging would give him a chance to sparkle in other ways so that the height thing wouldn't matter. Dating is so hard and shallow

[Anonymous]

Way back in the early days of Match, literally nearly 20 years ago at age 26, I said was looking for men ages 25-35. Got a very detailed reply from someone who said he was slightly above my age range but then listed in exhaustive detail all the things we had in common and asked if I'd give him a chance to meet for a drink because he was sure we'd click and age would be irrelevant. Stupid me for not writing to request exactly his age rather than assuming slightly above my range meant a few years.

When I walked in the bar, very early for happy hour, it was deserted other than a large elderly man with a pot of tea. I sat and waited until the elderly man approached and said my name! He was EASILY 70, possibly closer to 80.

I'd met guys who added inches but this guy more than doubled my max age and called it "slightly above."

I really hate narcissistic timewankers like that.

[Anonymous]

Dating websites like these are so stressful. Of course people lie, and I don't fault them for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many women are hung on height he was hoping fudging would give him a chance to sparkle in other ways so that the height thing wouldn't matter. Dating is so hard and shallow

This. If everything else was great, I’d give him another chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Way back in the early days of Match, literally nearly 20 years ago at age 26, I said was looking for men ages 25-35. Got a very detailed reply from someone who said he was slightly above my age range but then listed in exhaustive detail all the things we had in common and asked if I'd give him a chance to meet for a drink because he was sure we'd click and age would be irrelevant. Stupid me for not writing to request exactly his age rather than assuming slightly above my range meant a few years.

When I walked in the bar, very early for happy hour, it was deserted other than a large elderly man with a pot of tea. I sat and waited until the elderly man approached and said my name! He was EASILY 70, possibly closer to 80.

I'd met guys who added inches but this guy more than doubled my max age and called it "slightly above."

I really hate narcissistic timewankers like that.

If this is true, best worst online dating story ever.