Match Date Lied

[Anonymous]

Women lie too. My brother went on a date with a woman that was easily 50 lbs heavier than she let on in her profile pics. Just the cost of doing business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women lie too. My brother went on a date with a woman that was easily 50 lbs heavier than she let on in her profile pics. Just the cost of doing business.

That is SOOOOO common

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you like his personality? Are you really that hung up on his height?

Not OP, but 4 inches is an obvious lie.

I like tall guys but wouldn't consider 5'6" a deal breaker by any stretch. But the lying is creepy.

+1 The lying is the issue, not the height.

yeh right. sort of like the crazy women talking about dating a guy 20 years older.

[Anonymous]

I don't get the concern with height so long as he's taller than I am in heels. Which is easy as I'm 5' 2". I'm way pickier about his handsomness and his grooming/hygiene. If his teeth are crooked/broken or his nails are long and dirty I'd run for the hills way faster than if he was simply short. That said, I do know it's an issue for many. My best friend from college filtered all her match dates at 6'2" knowing that many lie a few inches so she was at least certain to get guys 5' 10" and taller.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get the concern with height so long as he's taller than I am in heels. Which is easy as I'm 5' 2". I'm way pickier about his handsomness and his grooming/hygiene. If his teeth are crooked/broken or his nails are long and dirty I'd run for the hills way faster than if he was simply short. That said, I do know it's an issue for many. My best friend from college filtered all her match dates at 6'2" knowing that many lie a few inches so she was at least certain to get guys 5' 10" and taller.

That is probably wise of your friend. I am a 5'10" female. And I did get nailed once by a guy who lied by 4 inches on his profile. It was a big deal for me, because I would be 6 inches taller than him in heels. That wasn't fair to me.

[Anonymous]

At least he wasn't wearing heels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brand new to online dating. I'd been with my ex for 9 years and never tried it before. Met a guy who seemed sweet and cute. Chatted about a week and agreed to meet at Brabo in Old Town for dinner.

In he walks... at 5'6". His profile listed at 5'10" and we never talked about it but ... yeesh. I'm just not interested. Do I fade, call him out, or pity myself for being shallow?

Did we go out with the same guy? The lying made me angry. I finally got over pitying myself for being shallow and told him things were moving forward with someone else.

The truth is it wasn't his height that bothered me, it was the insecurity and lying. My online profile is the real me. I list my real late 30s age and include full body photos of my very average, not particularly fit body. I figure if someone isn't interested in the real me, it's not worth spending 2 hours on a date with them. I wish more people would online date this way. The wasted time and unmet expectations can be really emotionally exhausting.

[Anonymous]

It was a big deal for me, because I would be 6 inches taller than him in heels. That wasn't fair to me.

The horror! My God, what would people say?

[Anonymous]

It was one date and you don’t owe him anything. Do you think guys are sitting around trying to convince themselves not to be so shallow if they meet a girl that lied about her age by a lot or weight by a lot? I think the choice would be between ghosting, a nice “there wasn’t chemistry”, or a more blunt, not my type/wasted my time lying. Yes, there is a range of fudge factor like 20 pounds, 1 or 2 inches of height, a few years for age - it was beyond that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least he wasn't wearing heels.

You joke, but this has actually happened to me...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was one date and you don’t owe him anything. Do you think guys are sitting around trying to convince themselves not to be so shallow if they meet a girl that lied about her age by a lot or weight by a lot? I think the choice would be between ghosting, a nice “there wasn’t chemistry”, or a more blunt, not my type/wasted my time lying. Yes, there is a range of fudge factor like 20 pounds, 1 or 2 inches of height, a few years for age - it was beyond that.

The thing is though, society says it's fair game to ask a guy his height but asking a woman about her weight is taboo or even down right rude. Double standards galore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Way back in the early days of Match, literally nearly 20 years ago at age 26, I said was looking for men ages 25-35. Got a very detailed reply from someone who said he was slightly above my age range but then listed in exhaustive detail all the things we had in common and asked if I'd give him a chance to meet for a drink because he was sure we'd click and age would be irrelevant. Stupid me for not writing to request exactly his age rather than assuming slightly above my range meant a few years.

When I walked in the bar, very early for happy hour, it was deserted other than a large elderly man with a pot of tea. I sat and waited until the elderly man approached and said my name! He was EASILY 70, possibly closer to 80.

I'd met guys who added inches but this guy more than doubled my max age and called it "slightly above."

I really hate narcissistic timewankers like that.

Men are typically so impressed with themselves I’ll bet he believed everything he said.
Many men seem to think that they are an Elon Musk , Don Draper, ageless NFL Quarterback all rolled into one ‘gift to the world’.
I guess because mommy told them so?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brand new to online dating. I'd been with my ex for 9 years and never tried it before. Met a guy who seemed sweet and cute. Chatted about a week and agreed to meet at Brabo in Old Town for dinner.

In he walks... at 5'6". His profile listed at 5'10" and we never talked about it but ... yeesh. I'm just not interested. Do I fade, call him out, or pity myself for being shallow?

Is this any worse than selling yourself as a blonde when your actually a brunette? Or that you may have fake boobs or other cosmetic enhancements?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Way back in the early days of Match, literally nearly 20 years ago at age 26, I said was looking for men ages 25-35. Got a very detailed reply from someone who said he was slightly above my age range but then listed in exhaustive detail all the things we had in common and asked if I'd give him a chance to meet for a drink because he was sure we'd click and age would be irrelevant. Stupid me for not writing to request exactly his age rather than assuming slightly above my range meant a few years.

When I walked in the bar, very early for happy hour, it was deserted other than a large elderly man with a pot of tea. I sat and waited until the elderly man approached and said my name! He was EASILY 70, possibly closer to 80.

I'd met guys who added inches but this guy more than doubled my max age and called it "slightly above."

I really hate narcissistic timewankers like that.

Men are typically so impressed with themselves I’ll bet he believed everything he said.
Many men seem to think that they are an Elon Musk , Don Draper, ageless NFL Quarterback all rolled into one ‘gift to the world’.
I guess because mommy told them so?

You miss every shot you don't take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brand new to online dating. I'd been with my ex for 9 years and never tried it before. Met a guy who seemed sweet and cute. Chatted about a week and agreed to meet at Brabo in Old Town for dinner.

In he walks... at 5'6". His profile listed at 5'10" and we never talked about it but ... yeesh. I'm just not interested. Do I fade, call him out, or pity myself for being shallow?

Is this any worse than selling yourself as a blonde when your actually a brunette? Or that you may have fake boobs or other cosmetic enhancements?

Yes...