New Friend - Morally Questionable Job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the specific job. Working for Altria wouldn't bother me. Working for Breitbart/NRA/any other hardcore right wing org would. I have plenty of conservative friends, including those who work in politics, but some organizations are beyond the pale for me because it would indicate too great a gap in our fundamental values.

Same. (Well, except that I've dropped most of my conservative friends at this point.) It depends on the organization and also on the job: I don't have a problem with the guy who does IT support or even advertising for Chik-Fil-A, though I personally won't spend a dime there, but I'd not be friends with the CEO. I agree with the PP who said every NRA employee has blood on his or her hands. My own employer (at the high level, not my unit) has done things recently that I find morally wrong and I am figuring out my next move as a result.

In OP's case, yes a lobbyist for a cause I find unacceptable would be a deal breaker. Wave and smile at the neighbor, but that's it.

The amount of thought you put into who you will and won’t shun is hilarious. And frightening. It’s clear you fancy yourself judge and jury sitting on your lofty high horse, handing out decrees regarding who is worthy and who is not. One can only hope you are being judged just as harshly by your own neighbors.

Off to get Chick-fil-A for dinner. Enjoy stewing in your sanctimony as you chow down on locally sourced kale salad and tofu.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the specific job. Working for Altria wouldn't bother me. Working for Breitbart/NRA/any other hardcore right wing org would. I have plenty of conservative friends, including those who work in politics, but some organizations are beyond the pale for me because it would indicate too great a gap in our fundamental values.

Same. (Well, except that I've dropped most of my conservative friends at this point.) It depends on the organization and also on the job: I don't have a problem with the guy who does IT support or even advertising for Chik-Fil-A, though I personally won't spend a dime there, but I'd not be friends with the CEO. I agree with the PP who said every NRA employee has blood on his or her hands. My own employer (at the high level, not my unit) has done things recently that I find morally wrong and I am figuring out my next move as a result.

In OP's case, yes a lobbyist for a cause I find unacceptable would be a deal breaker. Wave and smile at the neighbor, but that's it.

If you ever had any to begin with (doubtful) I can virtually promise they don't miss you.

+1
Most definitely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My partner and I just moved to a new house and we are eager to make new friends in the neighborhood. We met a nice couple, and it came out that one of them works at a company that most people would think is evil (think tobacco). I am having trouble seeing past that. Should that be a friendship deal breaker? Thanks.

Why do you think the neighbor wants to befriend someone with your puppy dog eagerness and living outside of marriage? You are not all that morally

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the specific job. Working for Altria wouldn't bother me. Working for Breitbart/NRA/any other hardcore right wing org would. I have plenty of conservative friends, including those who work in politics, but some organizations are beyond the pale for me because it would indicate too great a gap in our fundamental values.

Same. (Well, except that I've dropped most of my conservative friends at this point.) It depends on the organization and also on the job: I don't have a problem with the guy who does IT support or even advertising for Chik-Fil-A, though I personally won't spend a dime there, but I'd not be friends with the CEO. I agree with the PP who said every NRA employee has blood on his or her hands. My own employer (at the high level, not my unit) has done things recently that I find morally wrong and I am figuring out my next move as a result.

In OP's case, yes a lobbyist for a cause I find unacceptable would be a deal breaker. Wave and smile at the neighbor, but that's it.

The amount of thought you put into who you will and won’t shun is hilarious. And frightening. It’s clear you fancy yourself judge and jury sitting on your lofty high horse, handing out decrees regarding who is worthy and who is not. One can only hope you are being judged just as harshly by your own neighbors.

Off to get Chick-fil-A for dinner. Enjoy stewing in your sanctimony as you chow down on locally sourced kale salad and tofu.

the kale kommittee and tofu team could shun you PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again ... all of these responses have really helped give me some perspective. The friendship continues! Thanks.

How lucky your new friends are!

THANKS!

Oh, sweetie, that's what we call sarcasm in these parts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again ... all of these responses have really helped give me some perspective. The friendship continues! Thanks.

How lucky your new friends are!

THANKS!

Oh, sweetie, that's what we call sarcasm in these parts.

My all caps thanks was sarcasm back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My partner and I just moved to a new house and we are eager to make new friends in the neighborhood. We met a nice couple, and it came out that one of them works at a company that most people would think is evil (think tobacco). I am having trouble seeing past that. Should that be a friendship deal breaker? Thanks.

Why do you think the neighbor wants to befriend someone with your puppy dog eagerness and living outside of marriage? You are not all that morally

We're married.

[Anonymous]

My husband works for a government agency. A parent in my son’s preschool class is a lobbyist who lobbies against that agency. We invite their son to BD parties but we do not have play dates with just their son.

We met a nice family at our neighborhood park. I googled them and they are both Republican fundraisers, lawyers, etc. and involved in PACs and lobbying. We are quite liberal and never called them.

[Anonymous]

the right can be a bunch of loons but let's not forget that the left killed over 100 million people in the last 120 years...their moral superiority always gave them the basis for their actions...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband works for a government agency. A parent in my son’s preschool class is a lobbyist who lobbies against that agency. We invite their son to BD parties but we do not have play dates with just their son.

We met a nice family at our neighborhood park. I googled them and they are both Republican fundraisers, lawyers, etc. and involved in PACs and lobbying. We are quite liberal and never called them.

CFPB type?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband works for a government agency. A parent in my son’s preschool class is a lobbyist who lobbies against that agency. We invite their son to BD parties but we do not have play dates with just their son.

We met a nice family at our neighborhood park. I googled them and they are both Republican fundraisers, lawyers, etc. and involved in PACs and lobbying. We are quite liberal and never called them.

CFPB type?

If your husband works for the CFPB, I think he and his colleagues deserve Medals of Honor and this preschool classmate’s dad maybe should be drawn and quartered. You should feel free not to host financial industry lobbyists in your home. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My partner and I just moved to a new house and we are eager to make new friends in the neighborhood. We met a nice couple, and it came out that one of them works at a company that most people would think is evil (think tobacco). I am having trouble seeing past that. Should that be a friendship deal breaker? Thanks.

Why do you think the neighbor wants to befriend someone with your puppy dog eagerness and living outside of marriage? You are not all that morally

We're married.

For the moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband works for a government agency. A parent in my son’s preschool class is a lobbyist who lobbies against that agency. We invite their son to BD parties but we do not have play dates with just their son.

We met a nice family at our neighborhood park. I googled them and they are both Republican fundraisers, lawyers, etc. and involved in PACs and lobbying. We are quite liberal and never called them.

They must be devastated, simply devastated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My partner and I just moved to a new house and we are eager to make new friends in the neighborhood. We met a nice couple, and it came out that one of them works at a company that most people would think is evil (think tobacco). I am having trouble seeing past that. Should that be a friendship deal breaker? Thanks.

Why do you think the neighbor wants to befriend someone with your puppy dog eagerness and living outside of marriage? You are not all that morally

We're married.

No married person refers to a spouse as “my partner”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of a lady who told me that her father was a scientist for the N azis. She said he was forced to do it but they paid him a salary. I'm surprised she would even tell people the story, but I guess she believed it.

Um. It likely was not untrue.