New Friend - Morally Questionable Job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would give me pause, truthfully.

I've had opportunities--very well-remunerated--to work for evil places. I just couldn't do it.

Could this person have made other choices? There's a difference between being truly hungry or not having other work, vs. cashing in and working for the devil.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would depend on the nature of the job. Admin, IT, whatever? Eh, just a job. Someone high up involved in policy decisions or working there out of a belief in the mission? I'd probably not want to be friends

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.

Exactly.

OP here, sorry to burst your bubble but my significant other doesn't work at a law firm.

[Anonymous]

The NRA is a terrorist organization.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would depend on the nature of the job. Admin, IT, whatever? Eh, just a job. Someone high up involved in policy decisions or working there out of a belief in the mission? I'd probably not want to be friends

OP here. Well educated. They are a lobbyist. Which somehow makes it worse to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.

The NRA used to be a normal organization. Now it is so far outside the realm of reasonably or sane that I have no problem writing off anyone who works there. It is actually pretty equivalent to the Daily Stormer.

I am no NRA fan, but that is a ridiculous comparison. It is no less ridiculous than a conservative comparing Planned Parenthood or Earth Justice to an extremist organization. That you agree with one and not the other (and vice versa for a conservative) doesn't make any of them beyond the pale unless you want to simply live in your own echo chamber where everyone derisively snarls at the "other."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My partner and I just moved to a new house and we are eager to make new friends in the neighborhood. We met a nice couple, and it came out that one of them works at a company that most people would think is evil (think tobacco). I am having trouble seeing past that. Should that be a friendship deal breaker? Thanks.

The fact that you judge someone based on this says a lot about you OP. You're not worthy of their friendship. So them a favor and leave them alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.

Exactly.

OP here, sorry to burst your bubble but my significant other doesn't work at a law firm.

I feel like you missed the point, and I agree with pp.

[Anonymous]

A woman who refers to the man she lives with as her "partner" just moved in next door to me. I'm a friendly sort and want to like my new neighbors, but this really offends me. What if they are shacking up and aren't legally married? Should this be a friendship dealbreaker?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.

How are the things you described different than someone who works for something like Tobacco that kills hundreds of thousands of people a year? Tobacco has killed far more people than terrorism has or will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman who refers to the man she lives with as her "partner" just moved in next door to me. I'm a friendly sort and want to like my new neighbors, but this really offends me. What if they are shacking up and aren't legally married? Should this be a friendship dealbreaker?

I know you're being facetious, but I'll play along for a moment. Sure, feel free to treat it as a deal-breaker for friendship if it so violates your values. Be polite and kind, but you don't have to be friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.

How are the things you described different than someone who works for something like Tobacco that kills hundreds of thousands of people a year? Tobacco has killed far more people than terrorism has or will.

Ok, then so have automobile companies, liquor companies, and many other industries. Does free will and consumer choice play any role? Little different than terrorists, no?

If we were taking about tobacco from 50 years ago, you would have a shade of a point. But the risks are now well known.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A woman who refers to the man she lives with as her "partner" just moved in next door to me. I'm a friendly sort and want to like my new neighbors, but this really offends me. What if they are shacking up and aren't legally married? Should this be a friendship dealbreaker?

I know you're being facetious, but I'll play along for a moment. Sure, feel free to treat it as a deal-breaker for friendship if it so violates your values. Be polite and kind, but you don't have to be friends.

No one is saying OP has to be friends with this person. People are simply saying that is a stupid reason not to be friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS, how we all really gotten so self-righteous that we will completely right off someone who works for an organization we don't support? Our country is going to shit.

I mean if someone is content editor for Stormfront magazine or a web designer for ISIS fine, but something like tobacco or the NRA? Ridiculous.

And I am sure half your husband's work at law firms that represent these or other "horrible" organizations, but you are still happy to cash those checks.

Exactly.

OP here, sorry to burst your bubble but my significant other doesn't work at a law firm.

I feel like you missed the point, and I agree with pp.

Yeah, that really wasn't the point. But I would bet if you really examined your choices, you could easily find other examples where you don't actual comport yourself in a manner consistent with your self-righteous moral code.