Why does everyone have their kids two years apart?

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Because they're old when they start having kids and have to pop them out quickly before it's too late.

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Anonymous wrote:Holy hell. Now we're saying 33 is old to have a first child?

NP here, I wouldn't say old but definitely not young.
That poster said she felt she has time on her side, I think that's crazy,

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Anonymous wrote:1 year is too soon, 3 years is too long.

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And I also refuse to have my kids be anything where there is a .5. For example, I wouldn't be cool with a 1.5. 2.5 etc age gap.
I like when birthdays are around the same time.

That is bizarre.

Not really. Maybe I'm OCD. But I hate how my one sister is 7 years older than me half the year and 8 years older the other half.
Then you get kids who are 2.5 years apart but three grades apart. I like things neater than that.
Plus, I refused to give my kids birthdays in Nov-March. Those suck.

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Anonymous wrote:Because they're old when they start having kids and have to pop them out quickly before it's too late.

I had my first at 24, second at 26.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure. My kids are 4 years apart, though. The bigger age gap is awesome for us. I've gotten to really enjoy/focus on each one''s babyhood, and when I get babied-out with the little one, I can spend big-kid time with the big one.

I had the first at 33 and second at 37, so I had age somewhat on my side...I didn't feel desperate to have the second. Also, I wasn't sure I wanted a second for a long time...not until after the first turned 3.

I would have felt so old having my first kid at 33.

Is your peer group fairly uneducated? Not one of my friends had a baby before 30 due to advanced degrees and careers.

+1.

I have a law degree and am a practicing lawyer. Ivy-educated. First kid at 29, third (and last) at 33. Sorry to disappoint.

DH and I both went to Stanford, I had my kids at 29 and 31 and you sound like a godawful insufferable smug b*tch.

Whoooa, uhh...what?? You really came out of NOWHERE with that serious aggression, are you okay?

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure. My kids are 4 years apart, though. The bigger age gap is awesome for us. I've gotten to really enjoy/focus on each one''s babyhood, and when I get babied-out with the little one, I can spend big-kid time with the big one.

I had the first at 33 and second at 37, so I had age somewhat on my side...I didn't feel desperate to have the second. Also, I wasn't sure I wanted a second for a long time...not until after the first turned 3.

I would have felt so old having my first kid at 33.

Is your peer group fairly uneducated? Not one of my friends had a baby before 30 due to advanced degrees and careers.

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I have a law degree and am a practicing lawyer. Ivy-educated. First kid at 29, third (and last) at 33. Sorry to disappoint.

Being so well educated, seems like you would have known it's not healthy to have kids so close together.

...and you should know it's not healthy to have a first pregnancy at 38, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure. My kids are 4 years apart, though. The bigger age gap is awesome for us. I've gotten to really enjoy/focus on each one''s babyhood, and when I get babied-out with the little one, I can spend big-kid time with the big one.

I had the first at 33 and second at 37, so I had age somewhat on my side...I didn't feel desperate to have the second. Also, I wasn't sure I wanted a second for a long time...not until after the first turned 3.

I would have felt so old having my first kid at 33.

Is your peer group fairly uneducated? Not one of my friends had a baby before 30 due to advanced degrees and careers.

+1.

I have a law degree and am a practicing lawyer. Ivy-educated. First kid at 29, third (and last) at 33. Sorry to disappoint.

Being so well educated, seems like you would have known it's not healthy to have kids so close together.

...and you should know it's not healthy to have a first pregnancy at 38, right?

Seriously. I'm so glad my kids are 2 and 2.5 years apart and I had them all by the time I was 32. No geriatric pregnancy and higher risk of complications, thanks. I already felt like I was pushing it at 32. And yes, I have a professional white collar job and an advanced degree.

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Anonymous wrote:Holy hell. Now we're saying 33 is old to have a first child?

NP here, I wouldn't say old but definitely not young.
That poster said she felt she has time on her side, I think that's crazy,

I think 33 is oldish to have a first child. I wouldn't want to wait that long. Obviously lots of women do and it often is fine, but I would feel old af having my first kid at that age.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure. My kids are 4 years apart, though. The bigger age gap is awesome for us. I've gotten to really enjoy/focus on each one''s babyhood, and when I get babied-out with the little one, I can spend big-kid time with the big one.

I had the first at 33 and second at 37, so I had age somewhat on my side...I didn't feel desperate to have the second. Also, I wasn't sure I wanted a second for a long time...not until after the first turned 3.

I would have felt so old having my first kid at 33.

Is your peer group fairly uneducated? Not one of my friends had a baby before 30 due to advanced degrees and careers.

+1.

I have a law degree and am a practicing lawyer. Ivy-educated. First kid at 29, third (and last) at 33. Sorry to disappoint.

Being so well educated, seems like you would have known it's not healthy to have kids so close together.

Sounds like they were all two years apart. Isn't that what WHO recommends?

Nope. The recommendation is to wait two year after the birth of a child to begin trying for another pregnancy. So even if you were to get pregnant right away, the kids would be close to three years apart.

Luckily my Stanford educated OB fully supported our decision to have three kids all two years apart, because I was youngish, quite healthy and fit, and had a healthy diet, lifestyle, and access to excellent medical care.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure. My kids are 4 years apart, though. The bigger age gap is awesome for us. I've gotten to really enjoy/focus on each one''s babyhood, and when I get babied-out with the little one, I can spend big-kid time with the big one.

I had the first at 33 and second at 37, so I had age somewhat on my side...I didn't feel desperate to have the second. Also, I wasn't sure I wanted a second for a long time...not until after the first turned 3.

I would have felt so old having my first kid at 33.

Is your peer group fairly uneducated? Not one of my friends had a baby before 30 due to advanced degrees and careers.

+1.

I have a law degree and am a practicing lawyer. Ivy-educated. First kid at 29, third (and last) at 33. Sorry to disappoint.

Being so well educated, seems like you would have known it's not healthy to have kids so close together.

Sounds like they were all two years apart. Isn't that what WHO recommends?

Nope. The recommendation is to wait two year after the birth of a child to begin trying for another pregnancy. So even if you were to get pregnant right away, the kids would be close to three years apart.

I am baffled at the. Number of people who can't seem to figure this guidance out. The PP is right, children should be spaced a minimum or 2 years 9 months apart for optimal health.

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What a weird thread. There seems to be judging for judging sake which just seems unnecessary. There are so many factors that go into family planning/child spacing, some of which we have so little control over. I believe that whatever works for the couple is none of my business and as it has little, if any, impact on my life, why even have an opinion. I think my child spacing is perfect for us. I think my friends' and family's child spacing is perfect for them. It all works.

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Anonymous wrote:1 year is too soon, 3 years is too long.

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And I also refuse to have my kids be anything where there is a .5. For example, I wouldn't be cool with a 1.5. 2.5 etc age gap.
I like when birthdays are around the same time.

That is bizarre.

Not really. Maybe I'm OCD. But I hate how my one sister is 7 years older than me half the year and 8 years older the other half.
Then you get kids who are 2.5 years apart but three grades apart. I like things neater than that.
Plus, I refused to give my kids birthdays in Nov-March. Those suck.

You have many weird issues.

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Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. There seems to be judging for judging sake which just seems unnecessary. There are so many factors that go into family planning/child spacing, some of which we have so little control over. I believe that whatever works for the couple is none of my business and as it has little, if any, impact on my life, why even have an opinion. I think my child spacing is perfect for us. I think my friends' and family's child spacing is perfect for them. It all works.

Seriously, people.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure. My kids are 4 years apart, though. The bigger age gap is awesome for us. I've gotten to really enjoy/focus on each one''s babyhood, and when I get babied-out with the little one, I can spend big-kid time with the big one.

I had the first at 33 and second at 37, so I had age somewhat on my side...I didn't feel desperate to have the second. Also, I wasn't sure I wanted a second for a long time...not until after the first turned 3.

I would have felt so old having my first kid at 33.

Is your peer group fairly uneducated? Not one of my friends had a baby before 30 due to advanced degrees and careers.

+1.

I have a law degree and am a practicing lawyer. Ivy-educated. First kid at 29, third (and last) at 33. Sorry to disappoint.

Being so well educated, seems like you would have known it's not healthy to have kids so close together.

Sounds like they were all two years apart. Isn't that what WHO recommends?

Nope. The recommendation is to wait two year after the birth of a child to begin trying for another pregnancy. So even if you were to get pregnant right away, the kids would be close to three years apart.

I am baffled at the. Number of people who can't seem to figure this guidance out. The PP is right, children should be spaced a minimum or 2 years 9 months apart for optimal health.

Are you really that anxious that you plan the spacing based on this?
What's really going to happen if you space them 24 months apart? It's probably 0.001% better to wait an additional 9 months. Lol
Not screwing up the spacing for something so negligible.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure. My kids are 4 years apart, though. The bigger age gap is awesome for us. I've gotten to really enjoy/focus on each one''s babyhood, and when I get babied-out with the little one, I can spend big-kid time with the big one.

I had the first at 33 and second at 37, so I had age somewhat on my side...I didn't feel desperate to have the second. Also, I wasn't sure I wanted a second for a long time...not until after the first turned 3.

I would have felt so old having my first kid at 33.

Is your peer group fairly uneducated? Not one of my friends had a baby before 30 due to advanced degrees and careers.

+1.

I have a law degree and am a practicing lawyer. Ivy-educated. First kid at 29, third (and last) at 33. Sorry to disappoint.

Being so well educated, seems like you would have known it's not healthy to have kids so close together.

...and you should know it's not healthy to have a first pregnancy at 38, right?

Of course. Who said anything about 38? That comment seems out of nowhere - what does spacing kids in a healthier way have to do with having a first kid at 38? Random.