Why does everyone have their kids two years apart?

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Anonymous wrote:Holy hell. Now we're saying 33 is old to have a first child?

NP here, I wouldn't say old but definitely not young.
That poster said she felt she has time on her side, I think that's crazy,

I think 33 is oldish to have a first child. I wouldn't want to wait that long. Obviously lots of women do and it often is fine, but I would feel old af having my first kid at that age.

It's often fine at 40 and 19, and many other ages too. In fact it's usually fine. Not everyone has the luxury of perfectly timing when they start their families. But I guess people like you will smugly look down their noses at anyone who made a different choice than you. What's it like to live with that level of insecurity on a regular basis?

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Anytime is a great time to have a healthy pregnancy, if it happens to work out that way.

I will be 35 this year, have an almost 2.5 year old, and didn't feel ready for another baby until just recently. I nervously scheduled a routine OB visit to see if I was "all systems go" for another pregnancy and was reassured that some of you call a "geriatric" pregnancy at 35/36 wouldn't be treated much differently than my pregnancy at age 31/32. My provider said one of the only major differences would be that insurance would cover cell-free DNA testing since I would be AMA and that extra screening/testing would be offered if any early testing was abnormal.

By "some of us" do you mean the medical/scientific community? Folks aren't just using that term to hurt your feelings, honey.

No, I meant the DCUM community full of supposed "experts" who throw around terms like "geriatric pregnancy." Like some other kind poster wrote in my defense, I was reiterating the information provided to me by my OB, who is up to date on current research and ACOG guidelines. I also am a healthcare provider who uses evidence-based practice and a reasoned, unemotional approach to decision-making in my work and personal decisions. You're a real peach, though!

FWIW, maybe you'd like to marinate on this. It's a few years old, but the information is worth considering: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Sorry I'm "throwing around" the term geriatric pregnancy correctly...?

Not the quoted PP, but no, it's not correct. The correct term is "Advanced Maternal Age." But please don't let that interfere with your internet moralizing.

Sheesh, this has really touched a nerve with the "advanced age" (is that better?) mothers!

NP but why do you care so much how old people are when they choose to have their kids? How does it affect you in any way?

NP I don't care when people have kids, but I do think the outrage around terms like geriatric and advanced age is hilarious in a kind of sad or desperate way.

So you're ... throwing around "geriatric" and "advanced age" in this thread in order to cause "outrage?" Huh. That's ... not exactly behavior that I would be proud of but ok.

Another NP here. I agree, this thread has been funny to scroll through. The hysterics around what language is or isn't ok as deemed by the older mom crowd makes for some good laughs. We get it, you're old but you don't want to be old.

Why are you proud to troll anonymously on a parenting board? Why are you proud to cause "hysterics?" Why do you care what age people have kids? It's weird behavior. Not something that a well-adjusted and mature person would do. I had 1 kid at 30, so you're not personally offending me. But it's super weird and immature to be proud of that behavior. You're not a teen (presumably). Most adults don't go around trying to pick fights on anonymous boards by using deliberately provocative language.

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Anonymous wrote:Holy hell. Now we're saying 33 is old to have a first child?

NP here, I wouldn't say old but definitely not young.
That poster said she felt she has time on her side, I think that's crazy,

I think 33 is oldish to have a first child. I wouldn't want to wait that long. Obviously lots of women do and it often is fine, but I would feel old af having my first kid at that age.

It's often fine at 40 and 19, and many other ages too. In fact it's usually fine. Not everyone has the luxury of perfectly timing when they start their families. But I guess people like you will smugly look down their noses at anyone who made a different choice than you. What's it like to live with that level of insecurity on a regular basis?

+1

Anytime is a great time to have a healthy pregnancy, if it happens to work out that way.

I will be 35 this year, have an almost 2.5 year old, and didn't feel ready for another baby until just recently. I nervously scheduled a routine OB visit to see if I was "all systems go" for another pregnancy and was reassured that some of you call a "geriatric" pregnancy at 35/36 wouldn't be treated much differently than my pregnancy at age 31/32. My provider said one of the only major differences would be that insurance would cover cell-free DNA testing since I would be AMA and that extra screening/testing would be offered if any early testing was abnormal.

By "some of us" do you mean the medical/scientific community? Folks aren't just using that term to hurt your feelings, honey.

No, I meant the DCUM community full of supposed "experts" who throw around terms like "geriatric pregnancy." Like some other kind poster wrote in my defense, I was reiterating the information provided to me by my OB, who is up to date on current research and ACOG guidelines. I also am a healthcare provider who uses evidence-based practice and a reasoned, unemotional approach to decision-making in my work and personal decisions. You're a real peach, though!

FWIW, maybe you'd like to marinate on this. It's a few years old, but the information is worth considering: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Sorry I'm "throwing around" the term geriatric pregnancy correctly...?

Not the quoted PP, but no, it's not correct. The correct term is "Advanced Maternal Age." But please don't let that interfere with your internet moralizing.

Sheesh, this has really touched a nerve with the "advanced age" (is that better?) mothers!

NP but why do you care so much how old people are when they choose to have their kids? How does it affect you in any way?

NP I don't care when people have kids, but I do think the outrage around terms like geriatric and advanced age is hilarious in a kind of sad or desperate way.

So you're ... throwing around "geriatric" and "advanced age" in this thread in order to cause "outrage?" Huh. That's ... not exactly behavior that I would be proud of but ok.

Another NP here. I agree, this thread has been funny to scroll through. The hysterics around what language is or isn't ok as deemed by the older mom crowd makes for some good laughs. We get it, you're old but you don't want to be old.

Why are you proud to troll anonymously on a parenting board? Why are you proud to cause "hysterics?" Why do you care what age people have kids? It's weird behavior. Not something that a well-adjusted and mature person would do. I had 1 kid at 30, so you're not personally offending me. But it's super weird and immature to be proud of that behavior. You're not a teen (presumably). Most adults don't go around trying to pick fights on anonymous boards by using deliberately provocative language.

You misunderstood- I'm not using the provocative/medically accurate language, I'm just watching the ensuing outrage.

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Anonymous wrote:Holy hell. Now we're saying 33 is old to have a first child?

NP here, I wouldn't say old but definitely not young.
That poster said she felt she has time on her side, I think that's crazy,

I think 33 is oldish to have a first child. I wouldn't want to wait that long. Obviously lots of women do and it often is fine, but I would feel old af having my first kid at that age.

It's often fine at 40 and 19, and many other ages too. In fact it's usually fine. Not everyone has the luxury of perfectly timing when they start their families. But I guess people like you will smugly look down their noses at anyone who made a different choice than you. What's it like to live with that level of insecurity on a regular basis?

+1

Anytime is a great time to have a healthy pregnancy, if it happens to work out that way.

I will be 35 this year, have an almost 2.5 year old, and didn't feel ready for another baby until just recently. I nervously scheduled a routine OB visit to see if I was "all systems go" for another pregnancy and was reassured that some of you call a "geriatric" pregnancy at 35/36 wouldn't be treated much differently than my pregnancy at age 31/32. My provider said one of the only major differences would be that insurance would cover cell-free DNA testing since I would be AMA and that extra screening/testing would be offered if any early testing was abnormal.

By "some of us" do you mean the medical/scientific community? Folks aren't just using that term to hurt your feelings, honey.

No, I meant the DCUM community full of supposed "experts" who throw around terms like "geriatric pregnancy." Like some other kind poster wrote in my defense, I was reiterating the information provided to me by my OB, who is up to date on current research and ACOG guidelines. I also am a healthcare provider who uses evidence-based practice and a reasoned, unemotional approach to decision-making in my work and personal decisions. You're a real peach, though!

FWIW, maybe you'd like to marinate on this. It's a few years old, but the information is worth considering: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Sorry I'm "throwing around" the term geriatric pregnancy correctly...?

Not the quoted PP, but no, it's not correct. The correct term is "Advanced Maternal Age." But please don't let that interfere with your internet moralizing.

Sheesh, this has really touched a nerve with the "advanced age" (is that better?) mothers!

NP but why do you care so much how old people are when they choose to have their kids? How does it affect you in any way?

NP I don't care when people have kids, but I do think the outrage around terms like geriatric and advanced age is hilarious in a kind of sad or desperate way.

So you're ... throwing around "geriatric" and "advanced age" in this thread in order to cause "outrage?" Huh. That's ... not exactly behavior that I would be proud of but ok.

Another NP here. I agree, this thread has been funny to scroll through. The hysterics around what language is or isn't ok as deemed by the older mom crowd makes for some good laughs. We get it, you're old but you don't want to be old.

Why are you proud to troll anonymously on a parenting board? Why are you proud to cause "hysterics?" Why do you care what age people have kids? It's weird behavior. Not something that a well-adjusted and mature person would do. I had 1 kid at 30, so you're not personally offending me. But it's super weird and immature to be proud of that behavior. You're not a teen (presumably). Most adults don't go around trying to pick fights on anonymous boards by using deliberately provocative language.

You misunderstood- I'm not using the provocative/medically accurate language, I'm just watching the ensuing outrage.

It's mean girl behavior, truly. Why don't you run over to the TTC forum and ridicule some infertile women now?

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Anonymous wrote:Holy hell. Now we're saying 33 is old to have a first child?

NP here, I wouldn't say old but definitely not young.
That poster said she felt she has time on her side, I think that's crazy,

I think 33 is oldish to have a first child. I wouldn't want to wait that long. Obviously lots of women do and it often is fine, but I would feel old af having my first kid at that age.

It's often fine at 40 and 19, and many other ages too. In fact it's usually fine. Not everyone has the luxury of perfectly timing when they start their families. But I guess people like you will smugly look down their noses at anyone who made a different choice than you. What's it like to live with that level of insecurity on a regular basis?

+1

Anytime is a great time to have a healthy pregnancy, if it happens to work out that way.

I will be 35 this year, have an almost 2.5 year old, and didn't feel ready for another baby until just recently. I nervously scheduled a routine OB visit to see if I was "all systems go" for another pregnancy and was reassured that some of you call a "geriatric" pregnancy at 35/36 wouldn't be treated much differently than my pregnancy at age 31/32. My provider said one of the only major differences would be that insurance would cover cell-free DNA testing since I would be AMA and that extra screening/testing would be offered if any early testing was abnormal.

By "some of us" do you mean the medical/scientific community? Folks aren't just using that term to hurt your feelings, honey.

No, I meant the DCUM community full of supposed "experts" who throw around terms like "geriatric pregnancy." Like some other kind poster wrote in my defense, I was reiterating the information provided to me by my OB, who is up to date on current research and ACOG guidelines. I also am a healthcare provider who uses evidence-based practice and a reasoned, unemotional approach to decision-making in my work and personal decisions. You're a real peach, though!

FWIW, maybe you'd like to marinate on this. It's a few years old, but the information is worth considering: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Sorry I'm "throwing around" the term geriatric pregnancy correctly...?

Not the quoted PP, but no, it's not correct. The correct term is "Advanced Maternal Age." But please don't let that interfere with your internet moralizing.

Sheesh, this has really touched a nerve with the "advanced age" (is that better?) mothers!

NP but why do you care so much how old people are when they choose to have their kids? How does it affect you in any way?

NP I don't care when people have kids, but I do think the outrage around terms like geriatric and advanced age is hilarious in a kind of sad or desperate way.

So you're ... throwing around "geriatric" and "advanced age" in this thread in order to cause "outrage?" Huh. That's ... not exactly behavior that I would be proud of but ok.

Another NP here. I agree, this thread has been funny to scroll through. The hysterics around what language is or isn't ok as deemed by the older mom crowd makes for some good laughs. We get it, you're old but you don't want to be old.

Jesus. What did older moms ever do to you?

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Anonymous wrote:Holy hell. Now we're saying 33 is old to have a first child?

NP here, I wouldn't say old but definitely not young.
That poster said she felt she has time on her side, I think that's crazy,

I think 33 is oldish to have a first child. I wouldn't want to wait that long. Obviously lots of women do and it often is fine, but I would feel old af having my first kid at that age.

It's often fine at 40 and 19, and many other ages too. In fact it's usually fine. Not everyone has the luxury of perfectly timing when they start their families. But I guess people like you will smugly look down their noses at anyone who made a different choice than you. What's it like to live with that level of insecurity on a regular basis?

+1

Anytime is a great time to have a healthy pregnancy, if it happens to work out that way.

I will be 35 this year, have an almost 2.5 year old, and didn't feel ready for another baby until just recently. I nervously scheduled a routine OB visit to see if I was "all systems go" for another pregnancy and was reassured that some of you call a "geriatric" pregnancy at 35/36 wouldn't be treated much differently than my pregnancy at age 31/32. My provider said one of the only major differences would be that insurance would cover cell-free DNA testing since I would be AMA and that extra screening/testing would be offered if any early testing was abnormal.

By "some of us" do you mean the medical/scientific community? Folks aren't just using that term to hurt your feelings, honey.

No, I meant the DCUM community full of supposed "experts" who throw around terms like "geriatric pregnancy." Like some other kind poster wrote in my defense, I was reiterating the information provided to me by my OB, who is up to date on current research and ACOG guidelines. I also am a healthcare provider who uses evidence-based practice and a reasoned, unemotional approach to decision-making in my work and personal decisions. You're a real peach, though!

FWIW, maybe you'd like to marinate on this. It's a few years old, but the information is worth considering: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Sorry I'm "throwing around" the term geriatric pregnancy correctly...?

Not the quoted PP, but no, it's not correct. The correct term is "Advanced Maternal Age." But please don't let that interfere with your internet moralizing.

Sheesh, this has really touched a nerve with the "advanced age" (is that better?) mothers!

NP but why do you care so much how old people are when they choose to have their kids? How does it affect you in any way?

NP I don't care when people have kids, but I do think the outrage around terms like geriatric and advanced age is hilarious in a kind of sad or desperate way.

So you're ... throwing around "geriatric" and "advanced age" in this thread in order to cause "outrage?" Huh. That's ... not exactly behavior that I would be proud of but ok.

Another NP here. I agree, this thread has been funny to scroll through. The hysterics around what language is or isn't ok as deemed by the older mom crowd makes for some good laughs. We get it, you're old but you don't want to be old.

Wow. You are obviously very insecure with your choices and also a raging bitch. Sad that you never matured beyond middle school. What is wrong with you??

-Mom who had her kids young-ish and has mom friends of ALL ages who are amazing human beings