Can married men have single female friends

[Anonymous]

About ten years ago I was on the board of a non-profit with a very nice guy who's wife had serious substance abuse problems. I've always been a good listener so I listened to his travails. He was always a real gentleman and never did anything to make me think otherwise. I told my husband about him and he said to be careful with any guy who opens up that way and that he could become very attached to me. I told DH that no guy would be interested in a 45 year old mom. The man's wife eventually passed away and a couple of months later he invited me to lunch to "catch up". Well, catching up included him telling me that he really thought we had something special going and he wanted to take the next step. He was sure that's what I wanted. I couldn't finish my lunch I was so upset. That evening I told my DH what had happened and he was nice enough to not say I told you so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:About ten years ago I was on the board of a non-profit with a very nice guy who's wife had serious substance abuse problems. I've always been a good listener so I listened to his travails. He was always a real gentleman and never did anything to make me think otherwise. I told my husband about him and he said to be careful with any guy who opens up that way and that he could become very attached to me. I told DH that no guy would be interested in a 45 year old mom. The man's wife eventually passed away and a couple of months later he invited me to lunch to "catch up". Well, catching up included him telling me that he really thought we had something special going and he wanted to take the next step. He was sure that's what I wanted. I couldn't finish my lunch I was so upset. That evening I told my DH what had happened and he was nice enough to not say I told you so.

Not all husbands are idiots. What did he do to the guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About ten years ago I was on the board of a non-profit with a very nice guy who's wife had serious substance abuse problems. I've always been a good listener so I listened to his travails. He was always a real gentleman and never did anything to make me think otherwise. I told my husband about him and he said to be careful with any guy who opens up that way and that he could become very attached to me. I told DH that no guy would be interested in a 45 year old mom. The man's wife eventually passed away and a couple of months later he invited me to lunch to "catch up". Well, catching up included him telling me that he really thought we had something special going and he wanted to take the next step. He was sure that's what I wanted. I couldn't finish my lunch I was so upset. That evening I told my DH what had happened and he was nice enough to not say I told you so.

Not all husbands are idiots. What did he do to the guy?

Nothing. He was angry but he knew I had dealt with it. He did say that the guy had good taste but that I was way out of his league. That really calmed me down.

[Anonymous]

My DH has plenty of female friends, but they also became my friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single female with a few married male friends. I make a big effort to become friends with the wife. I invite them as a couple to my home for dinner or I invite the wife to do something. If I'm going to invite Larlo to do something, I extend the invitation to both of them. Eventually the wife views me as a couple friend and Larlo and I go back to doing things that the wife isn't interested in. I make an effort to reach out to the wife via phone a few times a month.

I have zero interest in my married male friends. If I did, I would have done something about it before they started seriously dating. If one of my male friends was interested in me, I would have zero respect for them if they tried to do something while they were married and we would no longer be friends.

I agree

[Anonymous]

If it were a guy he was communicating with would it be an issue?

Many in the cell phone age feel that if they are not always on the phone they are missing out. Look at how many parents push a stroller and are more focused on the phone than the baby.

People that have to be on the phone when driving even when their kids are in the car.

This is most likely him talking to one of his best friends.

[Anonymous]

When I was married I had several younger, single female friends. They were great to hang out with. After I got divorced they became potential relationships.

[Anonymous]

He's throwing the pipe for sure