Bar/bat mitzvah t-shirts

[Anonymous]

It is hardly tone deaf to not invite 1000 kids in a grade to a party. If your child was not invited by a friend, then obviously they need to rethink that friendship. If your child has no friends having a Bar Mitzvah, why would this possibly upset them?! Teach your kids to live in the world. They are not babies and they can’t have everything they want.

This is absolutely ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is hardly tone deaf to not invite 1000 kids in a grade to a party. If your child was not invited by a friend, then obviously they need to rethink that friendship. If your child has no friends having a Bar Mitzvah, why would this possibly upset them?! Teach your kids to live in the world. They are not babies and they can’t have everything they want.

This is absolutely ridiculous.

Tone deaf was referring to the t-shirts to advertise who went and who didn't. Nobody said you have to invite everyone. Just be discreet. Kids know they weren't invited. They don't need a reminder on Monday.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's a t-shirt or a sweatshirt. You people are insane. And we wonder why kids today have so much anxiety....

You are being a very literal thinker. Do you understand how paramount exclusion and inclusion are in middle school? Do you understand that there is no need to give out t-shirts which point out who was included? Sure kids already hear talk about it, but now you have a visual reminder. This is not about protecting special snowflakes. it is about basic human decency. You may not get it until one day you have your own life lesson with your own kid and suddenly it dawns on you that you were ignorant.

I'm a different poster, and someone who grew up in NY where bar/bat mitzvah t-shirts were very common. Kids wore them to school a couple of times, then made them their gym t-shirt or something. Some kids had a dozen, some kids had one or two. It was no big deal. Sometimes kids had a t-shirt from a kid's bar mitzvah and nobody liked that kid anyway. This is really not a big deal. Parents need to teach their kids not to see everything as a personal slight. Everyone can't be invited to everything.

If plenty of adults get their feathers ruffled not being invited to weddings or other social events, then you can assume even more middle schools get upset. It's enough they listen to people talking about. Now you have to be reminded everytime you see that obnoxious t-shirt. Plus, what are you teaching to bar mitzvah boy when you give out t-shirts commemorating his birthday party? T-shirts are for school events, sports teams and that sort of thing. No need to encourage narcissism.