Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?

[Anonymous]

I am a divorced dad and only had success dating a single mom due to the demand of being a parent. It works better that way and it works when you can coordinate your schedules so when you are aren't a parent, can have the me time needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 50, I have my choice of men from 25-65.

I laffed

PP: I wasn't try to say that I have as large a choice of men as a 30 or 40 year old single woman would have. I was simply trying to be honest and say that there are lots of men who want to date women like me. Granted, most of the 25-40 year old group are looking for sex -- but you would actually be surprised how many really are seeking out a long term relationship. I'm simply trying to point out, that despite everything you hear -- there are guys out there and it is not impossible to date as a single mom.

I know a single mom in her 40s with 5 kids who just got married and one who is 50 with four kids who just got married. Believe it or not, you are not dead and hung out to dry when you pass 40. Your selection of interested men is smaller, but they still do exist.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to turn this around. I'm a widowed mom, and I have reservations about dating divorced men and divorced dads, probably the same kinds of reservations men have dating single moms. I secretly feel that if a guy is a catch, he wouldn't be divorced. I'm concerned that he would have limited time and resources and conflicting priorities.

I know it's unfair, and I'm maybe missing out, but I'm pretty busy being a parent, and I'm not really dating anyway. With really good women friends, you can get through a lot.

It goes both ways.

[Anonymous]

Single Dad here - I consider myself a catch but have several kids from one long marriage that ended 6 years ago. I work too much to be in a relationship and would rather focus my money and time on them for now. In fact I have been in a few relationships and all but one never met my kids - not fair to them. Would rather get through the stage of providing and then focus on me after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single Dad here - I consider myself a catch but have several kids from one long marriage that ended 6 years ago. I work too much to be in a relationship and would rather focus my money and time on them for now. In fact I have been in a few relationships and all but one never met my kids - not fair to them. Would rather get through the stage of providing and then focus on me after.

You work too much to be in a relationship, kids or no kids. And what do you do, just shelve your sex drive for 10 years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to turn this around. I'm a widowed mom, and I have reservations about dating divorced men and divorced dads, probably the same kinds of reservations men have dating single moms. I secretly feel that if a guy is a catch, he wouldn't be divorced. I'm concerned that he would have limited time and resources and conflicting priorities.

I know it's unfair, and I'm maybe missing out, but I'm pretty busy being a parent, and I'm not really dating anyway. With really good women friends, you can get through a lot.

It goes both ways.

So you only date widowers and never married men? Perhaps this is why you're not really dating anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to turn this around. I'm a widowed mom, and I have reservations about dating divorced men and divorced dads, probably the same kinds of reservations men have dating single moms. I secretly feel that if a guy is a catch, he wouldn't be divorced. I'm concerned that he would have limited time and resources and conflicting priorities.

I know it's unfair, and I'm maybe missing out, but I'm pretty busy being a parent, and I'm not really dating anyway. With really good women friends, you can get through a lot.

It goes both ways.

So you only date widowers and never married men? Perhaps this is why you're not really dating anyway.

Nope, not dating at all. The divorced-Dad-catch said exactly what my concern was- he's busy working and with family-number-one until they're launched. Good for him, seriously, and great for his kids. I'm not interested in being number two right now, and my kids need me.

[Anonymous]

If a divorced mom of three is good enough for Antoine Arnault, son of the richest man in Europe, she's certainly good enough for the losers in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You're finished approaching relationships like you did when you were a hot 25 year old. Time didn't stop all those years you were out of the dating market.

What you need to figure out is why middle aged divorced women believe they have the "right" to approach dating and relationships like a 25 year old.

Otherwise yes you are finished, dead as a doornail. You are good as a partner only to a younger guy looking for a cougar or with mommy issues; a much older guy with ED; or a seriously emotionally fucked up loser in your same age cohort. As a male in my fifties, if I ever had to go back on the dating market (god no), while I would probably date you, and try to have sex with you, why would you seriously expect me to seriously commit to you if I had any chance--and I would probably have a pretty good chance actually--of finding someone 10 years younger? Do you really bring THAT much to the table? If so, you wouldn't even be posting what you posted.

You are the wounded animal in the herd.

Don't you remember what you though about 50 year old women when you were 25? To you, they didn't even exist. They were invisible.

So now the shoe is on the other foot, sister.

Enjoy your feminism.

If you're in your fifties and she's almost 40, she IS ten years younger than you and more, dumbass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to turn this around. I'm a widowed mom, and I have reservations about dating divorced men and divorced dads, probably the same kinds of reservations men have dating single moms. I secretly feel that if a guy is a catch, he wouldn't be divorced. I'm concerned that he would have limited time and resources and conflicting priorities.

I know it's unfair, and I'm maybe missing out, but I'm pretty busy being a parent, and I'm not really dating anyway. With really good women friends, you can get through a lot.

It goes both ways.

So you only date widowers and never married men? Perhaps this is why you're not really dating anyway.

What kind of a comment is this? A woman whose husband passed gives her honest, fair feedback about dating some divorced, and this is what you come back with?

Why? I'm divorced with kids, and I know exactly what she means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's funny is a married, 50yo+ man thinking he has a chance with 30yos. We don't want you!lol that only works for old geezers selling dreams to poor young women in E. Asia. You need to pay for it.

Invariably you end up paying for it one way or another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single Dad here - I consider myself a catch but have several kids from one long marriage that ended 6 years ago. I work too much to be in a relationship and would rather focus my money and time on them for now. In fact I have been in a few relationships and all but one never met my kids - not fair to them. Would rather get through the stage of providing and then focus on me after.

You work too much to be in a relationship, kids or no kids. And what do you do, just shelve your sex drive for 10 years?

Single Dad here - honestly I masturbate or hire a prostitute or Sugar baby online

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any updates op?

No updates, still single.

[Anonymous]

Well, how hot are you?

[BE_Jack]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any updates op?

No updates, still single.

PM if you are serious about dating.