Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, the misogynists are out in force tonight.

Better than the misandryst racist christophobes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, the misogynists are out in force tonight.

Better than the misandryst racist christophobes.

My dude, what forum do you read?

You've got your crazypants on again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex wife, twice divorced mother of three (after me) left me for her 50 year old affair partner. He was her co worker. Never married no kids. The jury is out on what will happen there. It's too soon. But something tells me a 50 yo never married guy no kids is either a loser or set on his ways and it won't work out. At least that is what I tell myself.

You are right.

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Anonymous wrote:it will be hard for a 40s, divorced mom, with kids to find a guy who will want marriage unless he too is divorced and older. Eligible bachelors in their 30s and early 40s wouldn't need that additional baggage.

So I guess I should give up on dating then?

OP, how old is your child?

Yes, most likely you should give up on dating until s/he is 18 and out of the house. Your kid, whose intact home was ripped apart by your divorce, needs you.

No, her kid needs to live in a reality where mom's house life doesn't revolve solely around them.

Wow.

Sad comment. I hope you're not a parent.

Yes I'm a single parent, in fact. So I know of what I speak. When I became a parent, I remained a daughter/friend/colleague//woman of my own. I'm not raising my own little girl to believe that her own life stops once she becomes a mother. Nobody expects this of men. In fact, people are usually anxious to find a wife for a single father.

Did you stop "dating" your husband once you had kids? Give up sex? Drop your friendships? Put gym time on the back burner? Perhaps you deserve my pity instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex wife, twice divorced mother of three (after me) left me for her 50 year old affair partner. He was her co worker. Never married no kids. The jury is out on what will happen there. It's too soon. But something tells me a 50 yo never married guy no kids is either a loser or set on his ways and it won't work out. At least that is what I tell myself.

That's probably correct unless his health begins to fade. He probably doesn't want a house full of kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:it will be hard for a 40s, divorced mom, with kids to find a guy who will want marriage unless he too is divorced and older. Eligible bachelors in their 30s and early 40s wouldn't need that additional baggage.

So I guess I should give up on dating then?

OP, how old is your child?

Yes, most likely you should give up on dating until s/he is 18 and out of the house. Your kid, whose intact home was ripped apart by your divorce, needs you.

My child is 1 and I'm 30. My H walked out on us. And I shouldn't date until I'm almost 50? Awesome!

[Anonymous]

Telling single moms not to date until age 50 is ridiculous. There are plenty of single dads who are interested in dating single moms. I'm sure these women don't want a man who's unfavorably weighing them against some 20-something single, childless woman with a firmer body but no clue how to be a parent or run an active household.

I'm sure I'll get skewered for saying this, but I would caution all women to be wary of men who are 40+ but have never been married. Sure it can work out sometimes, but in general there's a reason these guys aren't married with kids yet.

Good luck to all the single parents who are looking for their mate - there are lots of success stories so don't give up hope!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Telling single moms not to date until age 50 is ridiculous. There are plenty of single dads who are interested in dating single moms. I'm sure these women don't want a man who's unfavorably weighing them against some 20-something single, childless woman with a firmer body but no clue how to be a parent or run an active household.

I'm sure I'll get skewered for saying this, but I would caution all women to be wary of men who are 40+ but have never been married. Sure it can work out sometimes, but in general there's a reason these guys aren't married with kids yet.

Good luck to all the single parents who are looking for their mate - there are lots of success stories so don't give up hope!

Totally agree!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Telling single moms not to date until age 50 is ridiculous. There are plenty of single dads who are interested in dating single moms. I'm sure these women don't want a man who's unfavorably weighing them against some 20-something single, childless woman with a firmer body but no clue how to be a parent or run an active household.

I'm sure I'll get skewered for saying this, but I would caution all women to be wary of men who are 40+ but have never been married. Sure it can work out sometimes, but in general there's a reason these guys aren't married with kids yet.

Good luck to all the single parents who are looking for their mate - there are lots of success stories so don't give up hope!

Right. Because it's all about these single parents and their love lives and making sure they are happy. Forget about the innocent kids who are thrown around in the mix of men/ women coming and going, in and out of their lives. They'll "adjust," I suppose.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Telling single moms not to date until age 50 is ridiculous. There are plenty of single dads who are interested in dating single moms. I'm sure these women don't want a man who's unfavorably weighing them against some 20-something single, childless woman with a firmer body but no clue how to be a parent or run an active household.

I'm sure I'll get skewered for saying this, but I would caution all women to be wary of men who are 40+ but have never been married. Sure it can work out sometimes, but in general there's a reason these guys aren't married with kids yet.

Good luck to all the single parents who are looking for their mate - there are lots of success stories so don't give up hope!

Right. Because it's all about these single parents and their love lives and making sure they are happy. Forget about the innocent kids who are thrown around in the mix of men/ women coming and going, in and out of their lives. They'll "adjust," I suppose.

It's entirely possible to hire a sitter and date without your kids even knowing what you're doing. Responsible adults can have plenty of adult time w/o the kids being any the wiser. And most of us are intelligent enough to make sure our new romantic partners are decent, solid people and going to be around for a while before we introduce them to our child(ren).

But freak out, PP. It's a good look.

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Anonymous wrote:Telling single moms not to date until age 50 is ridiculous. There are plenty of single dads who are interested in dating single moms. I'm sure these women don't want a man who's unfavorably weighing them against some 20-something single, childless woman with a firmer body but no clue how to be a parent or run an active household.

I'm sure I'll get skewered for saying this, but I would caution all women to be wary of men who are 40+ but have never been married. Sure it can work out sometimes, but in general there's a reason these guys aren't married with kids yet.

Good luck to all the single parents who are looking for their mate - there are lots of success stories so don't give up hope!

Right. Because it's all about these single parents and their love lives and making sure they are happy. Forget about the innocent kids who are thrown around in the mix of men/ women coming and going, in and out of their lives. They'll "adjust," I suppose.

13:19 here. I only socialize, to date or see friends, after my child goes to bed at 7 pm. Even then, he's here with my mother who lives with us. I wouldn't introduce him to someone unless it was really serious, maybe not even unless I was planning on marrying them. Every single parent I know personally is the same way.

Not seeing how going to out to dinner with a man I'm interested in romantically is different from going out to dinner with a woman I'm friends with. Or is that wrong too? Won't someone please think of the children, indeed.

[Anonymous]

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My child is 1 and I'm 30. My H walked out on us. And I shouldn't date until I'm almost 50? Awesome!

I wouldn't date you...unless you were the hottest woman on earth. Then I'd have sex with you, but I wouldn't date you.

[Anonymous]

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My child is 1 and I'm 30. My H walked out on us. And I shouldn't date until I'm almost 50? Awesome!

I wouldn't date you...unless you were the hottest woman on earth. Then I'd have sex with you, but I wouldn't date you.

You have no idea how upset that makes me.

[Anonymous]

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You have no idea how upset that makes me.

Good, works for both of us. So, how attractive are you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex wife, twice divorced mother of three (after me) left me for her 50 year old affair partner. He was her co worker. Never married no kids. The jury is out on what will happen there. It's too soon. But something tells me a 50 yo never married guy no kids is either a loser or set on his ways and it won't work out. At least that is what I tell myself.

That's probably correct unless his health begins to fade. He probably doesn't want a house full of kids.

So if youre 50yrs plus you're finished ? Sometimes I read these opinions get the impression I'm like the wounded animal in the herd and should go off await my meeting with my maker.