Anonymous wrote:So my 14 year old recently came out as bisexual. I have that part under control - it really wasn't a big deal, we were able to tell her we love & accept her no matter what, etc. She also told us she was in a relationship with someone we previous thought was "just a friend." Again, not a big deal, we know & like the other girl, and they are both the right age for first "special friendships," whether with a male or female. The part I'm stumped on is how to handle sleepovers from here on out. Prior to this, she has both had sleepovers at other girls' homes and had girls over here, including with the "girlfriend." We supervise, are in and out of the rooms where they are, but are not in the room 100% of the time. I certainly wouldn't be letting a teenage girl have a sleepover with a boy, but how do I handle same-sex sleepovers when there is same sex attraction? For the short term, we have said she can still spend time with the "girlfriend," but no more sleepovers with her, but have still said yes to a sleepover with another girl. I don't want to put a blanket "no sleepovers" rule, but I am feeling conflicted now. What would you do?
My 15yr old is gay/bisexual, not sure - who cares really. We are the same. Anyone she is in a relationship is a no. Any other friends that are a girl is a yes. This is honestly no big deal. Just because she is attracted to both sexes doesn't mean she is getting it on with all of her friends. Treat her like you are. Don't second guess. They had an anonymous survey in school and 20% admitted to having feelings of the same sex sometimes. Kids are figuring themselves out. That doesn't mean they can't have sleepovers with friends.
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