A Mother's Reckoning by Susan Klebold
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She may have emotional/mental health issues that she is dealing with herself. And maybe that's part of the reason she was so out of touch with her son. I'm sure that this has taken a heavy toll on her and Dylan's dad. They not only lost their son physically with no opportunity to grieve him, but they lost who they thought their son even was and in processing the horror of what he did they lost their own identities as parents, as human beings. They had the spotlight of blame cast on them. It must be a horrible reality to wake up every day knowing that this will forever be a part of who they are. I don't know how you would deal with that day in, day out. It's worse than death I'm sure. I think they almost have to go into a certain amount of denial in order to survive a nightmare like this.
There were no winners in this devastating horror. |
Anonymous
I didn't need to hear that to know these parents were not connected to Dylan. He was a neglected child for a long time. So sad. |
Anonymous
| wow I had no idea so many people who knew the Klebold family in the 1990s were on DCUM. |
Anonymous
no kidding, I keep reading these comments and I'm amazed at how well they are able to retell the facts and speak on behalf of the family. Wish I hadn't wasted my time reading her book! |
Anonymous
So was her book worth reading? You can talk about it at any time you know. |
Anonymous
The question is did you *believe* her book? |
Anonymous
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I think discussing her book as if it was the truth,
is enabling her mental illness. The women is in la-la land. |
Anonymous
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It's her truth. It is what it is.
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Anonymous
I agree with each of the editorial comments below, and I *believe* that she has been honest in telling her story. “…[U]nimaginably detailed, raw, minute-by-minute, illuminating, and just plain gripping. It's also the most extraordinary testament--to honesty, love, pain, doubt, and resilience.… This book is nothing less than a public service. I beseech you to read it.” – Bruce Feiller “As people read Sue’s memoir, what they will find is that her book is honest, and her pain genuine. Her story may be uncomfortable to read, but it will raise awareness about brain health and the importance of early identification and intervention to maintain it. If people listen to her – to all that she has experienced, and to how this has changed her – they will be quicker to respond to depression in young people, to the suicidal thinking that can accompany it, and to the rage that can build almost unnoticed in young people when the people who truly and completely love and care for them are distracted by other challenges in life.” —Paul Gionfriddo, President and CEO of Mental Health America “Required reading for all parents of adolescents...soul-piercingly honest, written with bravery and intelligence... A book of nobility and importance.” –The Times “Reading this book as a critic is hard; reading it as a parent is devastating….I imagine snippets of my own young children in Dylan Klebold, shades of my parenting in Sue and Tom. I suspect that many families will find their own parallels….This book’s insights are painful and necessary and its contradictions inevitable.” —Carlos Lozada, The Washington Post “[Sue Klebold’s book] reads as if she had written it under oath, while trying to answer, honestly and completely, an urgent question: What could a parent have done to prevent this tragedy?… She earns our pity, our empathy and, often, our admiration; and yet the book’s ultimate purpose is to serve as a cautionary tale, not an exoneration.” —The New York Times Book Review “[T]he parenting book everyone should read.” —Parents.com “I believe Sue Klebold. So will you.” —LA Times “At times her story is so chilling you want to turn away, but Klebold’s compassion and honesty –and realization that parents and institutions must work to discover kids’ hidden suffering-will keep you riveted.” —People.com “This book which can be tough to read in places is an important one. It helps us arrive at a new understanding of how Columbine happened and, in the process, may help avert other tragedies.” Rated: A. —Entertainment Weekly |
Anonymous
Did you read it? Did you get the impression she is in la la land from her book or other places? |
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NP here. I read Columbine but have not yet read Sue Klebold's book. I think many of you that are saying the parents are at fault and missed things are doing it to make yourselves feel better. If you believe there were signs that she should have caught and that you would have caught, the it can't ever happen to you. You see this all the time - blaming people who suffer tragedies so that you feel better that you are protected from such tragedies. Remember when that mom of 3 was killed by a passing truck in Arlington last year while buckling her kid into his car seat? People on DCUM blamed the mom for parking on the wrong side of the street.
I think Dylan Klebold got into some trouble in high school but it seemed like regular high school trouble, the kind that many of us and our friends get into. One of my best friends in HS was a hot head who punched another kid and broke his nose and once drive his car into a lake. He's now an engineer and married with 3 kids, totally normal. You guys would say there were plenty of signs that he was going to murder people. Bottom line, I think it sadly, scarily, could be any of our children without us seeing the signs. |
Anonymous
| If you don't know your child, yes it could be your child. |
Anonymous
And if believe you know your child, yes it could be your child. Did your parents know everything about you when you were a teenager? |
Anonymous
If you seriously do not know whether or not your child has a sawed off shotgun laying across his dresser in plain view right now, you should probably get off of DCUM right now and go take a quick look in his/her room. |
Anonymous
Did your parents know everything about you when you were a teenager? |