Please stop inviting me to your "party"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Just say NO!" How hard is that really?

And I make it clear when I say "NO", that I will never say "YES" in the future.....so that is my hint to not include me in any future invitations.

Oh but...MLMs are trained to see every No as a Yes, my dear! No such thing as a permanent no, ever!

Well so far this has worked for me! I have made my feelings known to my circle of friends that I DO NOT want to be invited to these "parties" and that I WILL NOT buy anything. My last invite to one of these was a few years ago via Facebook - nothing since then. And yes, I have plenty of friends.

[Anonymous]

Several years ago I was invited to a CAbi party, which is a line of women's clothing. A lot of the items are really cute, so I started buying them, and eventually had a party. I had several parties and people really liked the clothes. After a couple of years, I started noticing that the clothing quality was going downhill. The biggest issue for me was the tops. After a few wears, little holes would start to form in the fabric. This was a consistent problem with most of their tops. They were good about exchanging the defective merchandise, but it got to a point where I did not want to do it anymore. The interesting thing is the consultant would tell me that the problem is how I am wearing the clothes. Huh? She sent me these blogs about how to avoid the little holes in your tops. The blogs did not mention CAbi, but I bet my last dollar those blogs were created by CAbi marketing folks. It really is a scam...selling clothing that sucks and blaming the problems on the consumers. People keep inviting me to these parties, and I just don't go anymore. It really was a bait and switch situation. They started with high quality clothing, and once they got a good base of customers, they went to cheaper factories.

The problem with these parties is they serve alcohol and people get tipsy and everything looks good. I know of people who had buyers remorse and either cancelled their order or returned each and every piece they got.

I am back to shopping in the store or online. I am finding that the quality is better and prices better because of discounts. My advice is to avoid CAbi.

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Anonymous wrote:I wrote about this earlier, that I live in an area that mostly SAHM's and military spouses. They live for this stuff. he saddest are the SAHM's whose spouse is living paycheck to paycheck, and their wives are spending money on this crap and claiming they own their own business. One said she felt sorry I had to work full time and not raise my child. I wanted to tell her I felt sorry she was too stupid to realize she's a customer, NOT an employee and definitely NOT a business owner!

Hmm. I'm a SAHM and don't know of one single other SAHM who would be caught dead doing MLM schemes. Certainly, I wouldn't. Seems like this thread is just a convenient way for some of you to do your usual slamming of SAHMs as a group. Which is interesting, because when I was a WOHM, there were always certain women in the office trying to hawk their crap to the rest of us. Obviously, there are all kinds of people who get involved in these ridiculous schemes, whether they SAH or WOH.

Sorry, I don't know any working women who do MLM.

OMG, there's a whole clique of them at my office. Including the division chief, go figure! I'm always so embarrassed for her when she trots out her sample merchandise, but because she's our superior, none of us can really say anything.

+100
I have to laugh at the people slamming SAHMs - it's the women at work who are the worst. You can't hide from them or avoid them. They have a captive audience! I can't believe management lets them get away with hawking their wares on the company dime.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wrote about this earlier, that I live in an area that mostly SAHM's and military spouses. They live for this stuff. he saddest are the SAHM's whose spouse is living paycheck to paycheck, and their wives are spending money on this crap and claiming they own their own business. One said she felt sorry I had to work full time and not raise my child. I wanted to tell her I felt sorry she was too stupid to realize she's a customer, NOT an employee and definitely NOT a business owner!

Hmm. I'm a SAHM and don't know of one single other SAHM who would be caught dead doing MLM schemes. Certainly, I wouldn't. Seems like this thread is just a convenient way for some of you to do your usual slamming of SAHMs as a group. Which is interesting, because when I was a WOHM, there were always certain women in the office trying to hawk their crap to the rest of us. Obviously, there are all kinds of people who get involved in these ridiculous schemes, whether they SAH or WOH.

Sorry, I don't know any working women who do MLM.

OMG, there's a whole clique of them at my office. Including the division chief, go figure! I'm always so embarrassed for her when she trots out her sample merchandise, but because she's our superior, none of us can really say anything.

+100
I have to laugh at the people slamming SAHMs - it's the women at work who are the worst. You can't hide from them or avoid them. They have a captive audience! I can't believe management lets them get away with hawking their wares on the company dime.

+1

I also have a problem with hawking your children's wares at the office, BTW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I decline most but recently went to a Cabi party. I ended up buying a shirt for $80 that looks like a $20 shirt from Kohls... I always regret buying the stuff after the fact. Most of the "parties" are hosted by pretty wealthy women who get a nice hostess gift. I would never host one of these parties.

I just got invited to one of these yesterday. SAHM, million dollar house. Give me a break! I'm not buying your crap, and please don't use the school directory to invite me! It crosses a boundary.

[Anonymous]

What is most sad to me is that the women I know who hawk this stuff are desperate to make money and believe they are going to make a real salary. Years ago, it seemed every other woman around me was pushing jamba juice. The claims for that crap were outrageous. I had a relative who had breast cancer and the "friends" who knew and sold the stuff were relentless about its ability to cure cancer. I know they didn't believe the claims but they still aggressively pushed this crap. These were college educated women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is most sad to me is that the women I know who hawk this stuff are desperate to make money and believe they are going to make a real salary. Years ago, it seemed every other woman around me was pushing jamba juice. The claims for that crap were outrageous. I had a relative who had breast cancer and the "friends" who knew and sold the stuff were relentless about its ability to cure cancer. I know they didn't believe the claims but they still aggressively pushed this crap. These were college educated women.

Like the R+F before and after photos taken in completely different locations and lighting.

[Anonymous]

I'm on a list where the hostess sends me messages and the person who recruited her sends me messages. I don't know why they're doing it (money? to feel employed?) and can't judge that, but now that I've said no to the "party" invite and I'm still getting the messages, I feel little like my casual relationship and access to my email address is being exploited for their marketing.

[Anonymous]

I've known quite a few women involved in MLM over the years, most SAHMs but not all, and not one of them made a decent living at it. The one or two people you hear about making thousands of dollars are likely the ones at the top of the pyramid for their area - you CAN make money there because the suckers below you are paying in to your pyramid.

Scary how the scripts and behaviors are the same across the board. Right now I have a few HerbaLife people in my sphere, and they all play up the "quit your job! Stay home with your kids!" angle others here have mentioned. One regularly post pics of her HerbaLife order that has just come in - all I can think when I see the photos is how much money she must be spending on that crap herself, and how much it's costing her to run this "business."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The only one of these I would consider going to is the sex toy ones. Those tacky nail wraps are literally the worst crap ever.

I've never seen that, that's insanely tacky.

It happens...I went to one but left when they started the 'dildo dance'. Got an urgent phone call...

[Anonymous]

The Cabi clothes are cute. I love the store in leesburgh, Va. It is last seasons clothes but a discount.