Help me convince DH that this is the fairest way to settle Christmas issues...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do DHs parents and your parents like each other? Are DH's parents able to travel?

If the the answers are "yes," why not host everyone at your place next year?

What a nightmare.

? Her parents are local. They can go home when the festivities are over. OP doesn't have to cook a 9-course culinary delight.

[Anonymous]

OK, I fully admit I didn't read all the responses. I think (a) it's reasonable to have a bye holiday due to pregnancy; (b) after that the schedule should depend on syncing up with siblings.

But, here's my other input. My parents stopped traveling for holidays when I was in early elementary. They had been alternating and it just got to be too tough, especially with bad weather. Thanksgiving and Christmas was always just the 5 of us. I see that my brothers and I don't think it's important to gather for holidays, so I push it to set a different example for my DCs.I want them to think it's important to make the effort even if we don't do it every year.

[Anonymous]

Since having children we do Christmas and Easter holidays at home. Other holidays are split between families. I understand wanting to be in your own home for Christmas. However it seems that you have already set a tradition, and changing condition midstream is very hard for everyone.

[Anonymous]

OP, I didn't read through all of this...I'll be brief.

In my experience, when you have the houseful of littles, you do what is best for YOU GUYS. When my crew was small, we stayed close to home a lot for holidays. It was a stress to go back and forth (as we did before they all were born).

Now that everyone is older-my kids and the grandparents-we do travel more. So it's not like you can never travel to the inlaws again. Just do what you need to do right now.