Engagement ring size in your social circle?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread really makes us catty, huh?

In my original social circle, 1.5 - 3 was the norm, with some outliers (one gf married someone 15 years older and got a 6 carat ring, pretty but ostentatious).

Mine is 1.8. When we got engaged, that was important to me that it be in that range because it felt like everyone else I knew had a ring that size (I know, I know but I was youngish).

I love my ring, but my husband is a professors, not a banker or in big law. We're mid 30's now, and none of the other professor's wives have rings like mine, so my husband actually prefers that i not wear it around colleagues or other university area people - which is most of the people we see now.

C'est la vie.

A family ring? No way in hell a newly minted professor is making the kind of money needed to buy 1.8 carats.

It's kind of strange you feel the need to hide a 1.8 carat ring. That's the size of mine and I don't feel like it is big at all. I doubt anyone cares.

I'm that PP: I completely agree with you! Also, it's an square-emerald cut, which means that it looks about the size of a 1 carat round cut.
But, as another poster mentioned above, academics often don't do the classic engagement ring thing. They seem to go for delicate antique rings or colored stones. So my DH feels like it draws unnecessary attention, which he is paranoid about because academic departments are strange, sometimes bitterly competitive environments where people quibble over nonsense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.

I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does.

It's not contrived or deep, it's just cultural to Europe. Out of all the comments on this thread, the fact that you chose to single out this one says a lot about you...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My man and I have no rings. Our love transcends manmade trinkets obsessed over by others. Our love is pure.

My, you have a long-winded way of saying "poor."

THIS is the post I'm talking about, not the europe post. I LIVE in europe at the moment (why do you think I'm awake at this time )

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.

I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does.

Um, no, I am the PP....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:None of my friends (late 20s) do engagement rings -- it's an archaic sad/bad custom for people who aren't very good at feminism. Sorry, but that's the truth.

lol.

Sure. Fine. Whatever you say. Lol indeed.

Put it on your Tumblr of microaggressions. There is no "being good at" feminism. Your post is actually anti-feminist.

FFS Jezebel and SJWs have ruined everything. I cannot stand what it's done to the movement.

In other words, you're mad because you're not as good at life as us. Adorable.

[Anonymous]

A large engagement ring just screams "please don't take me seriously".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.

I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does.

Um, no, I am the PP....

I am actually not sure which post you are referring to anymore, but I am the person who wrote both "My, you have a long-winded way of saying "poor.""
And I am also the person who said "I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does."

I said the 2nd thing because the person talking about Europe seemed to reference my "poor" comment (see bolded).

I was merely being a bitch to some obnoxious person who joined the thread about engagement rings claiming to be too good for engagement rings. Nothing more, nothing less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.

I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does.

Um, no, I am the PP....

I am actually not sure which post you are referring to anymore, but I am the person who wrote both "My, you have a long-winded way of saying "poor.""
And I am also the person who said "I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does."

I said the 2nd thing because the person talking about Europe seemed to reference my "poor" comment (see bolded).

I was merely being a bitch to some obnoxious person who joined the thread about engagement rings claiming to be too good for engagement rings. Nothing more, nothing less.

And by "too good" I again, am NOT referring to the Europe person. Just the person who said her love was too "pure" for engagement rings lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.

I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does.

Um, no, I am the PP....

I am actually not sure which post you are referring to anymore, but I am the person who wrote both "My, you have a long-winded way of saying "poor.""
And I am also the person who said "I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does."

I said the 2nd thing because the person talking about Europe seemed to reference my "poor" comment (see bolded).

I was merely being a bitch to some obnoxious person who joined the thread about engagement rings claiming to be too good for engagement rings. Nothing more, nothing less.

Right, well, I'm the one who wrote the Europe/e-ring post, and I was NOT "claiming to be too good for engagement rings"... You are right, though, that you are "being a bitch".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.

I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does.

Um, no, I am the PP....

I am actually not sure which post you are referring to anymore, but I am the person who wrote both "My, you have a long-winded way of saying "poor.""
And I am also the person who said "I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does."

I said the 2nd thing because the person talking about Europe seemed to reference my "poor" comment (see bolded).

I was merely being a bitch to some obnoxious person who joined the thread about engagement rings claiming to be too good for engagement rings. Nothing more, nothing less.

Right, well, I'm the one who wrote the Europe/e-ring post, and I was NOT "claiming to be too good for engagement rings"... You are right, though, that you are "being a bitch".

Lol takes one to know one, seriously: you're persisting with your attitude even after it is made clear to you that my comment had nothing to do with you. In any case, I'm off, enjoy your day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.

I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does.

Um, no, I am the PP....

I am actually not sure which post you are referring to anymore, but I am the person who wrote both "My, you have a long-winded way of saying "poor.""
And I am also the person who said "I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does."

I said the 2nd thing because the person talking about Europe seemed to reference my "poor" comment (see bolded).

I was merely being a bitch to some obnoxious person who joined the thread about engagement rings claiming to be too good for engagement rings. Nothing more, nothing less.

Right, well, I'm the one who wrote the Europe/e-ring post, and I was NOT "claiming to be too good for engagement rings"... You are right, though, that you are "being a bitch".

Lol takes one to know one, seriously: you're persisting with your attitude even after it is made clear to you that my comment had nothing to do with you. In any case, I'm off, enjoy your day.

I really think this PP is drunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.

I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does.

Um, no, I am the PP....

I am actually not sure which post you are referring to anymore, but I am the person who wrote both "My, you have a long-winded way of saying "poor.""
And I am also the person who said "I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does."

I said the 2nd thing because the person talking about Europe seemed to reference my "poor" comment (see bolded).

I was merely being a bitch to some obnoxious person who joined the thread about engagement rings claiming to be too good for engagement rings. Nothing more, nothing less.

Right, well, I'm the one who wrote the Europe/e-ring post, and I was NOT "claiming to be too good for engagement rings"... You are right, though, that you are "being a bitch".

Lol takes one to know one, seriously: you're persisting with your attitude even after it is made clear to you that my comment had nothing to do with you. In any case, I'm off, enjoy your day.

I really think this PP is drunk.

Just on life, baby!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A large engagement ring just screams "please don't take me seriously".

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My circle must be small and foreign. Nobody has an engagement ring.

Same in my group, although I think that some may have one at home that they don't wear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine is a 1ct round solitaire but perfect quality. DH and I decided we'd rather have smaller and flawless than larger and not as gorgeous. Friends' rings vary from less than a carat to quite large, 2c or more and some with multiple stones. One friend is a rock-climber and very active, so she has an engagement ring where the diamond is actually inset in the ring similar to a man's wedding band.

Oh interesting. My ring is .75 also set into the band, because we met mountain bike racing and continued with that life for many years. (hurts too much now)