Engagement ring size in your social circle?

[Anonymous]

Is this question from 1957?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I rarely wear my perfect, clear, flawless 1.5 carat blood diamond anymore. Complete waste of money. Keeping up with the Jones' 20's mentality, sheeple.

I love the ring and memories of DH proposing, but if I had to do it all over again, it would be different.

What would you change for it to be different if DH were to do it all over again?

I don't know. We wouldn't have invested in this silly ring, I suppose. I'd take that money and suggest a wild trip. Forgetting the engagement ring.

[Anonymous]

Among my friends, everything from .5-2, I'd guess, and a variety of stones. I've got a pale purple sapphire, friends with emeralds, blue sapphires, topaz, a garnet (I think?). If I had to do it again I'd choose a moissanite.

[Anonymous]

NP. That is a whole lot of rationalization going on there.


anytime a person buys a engagement ring there has to be rationalization because quite frankly it is an irrational decision to spend any significant amount of money on that sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancée told me that all she really cared about was having a ring that:

(1) was bigger than her moms ring and
(2) was shiny enough an big enough for her friends to notice/get jealous and
(3) was not so big that it looks fake.

Given that criteria I realized that the engagement ring was really about female on female competition and outwards displays so I really discounted the symbolism of the ring as a monetized expression of love and commitment. I decided I wasn't going into the trap of 3 months salary and spending the equivalent of a new car...

So I went and got a 1 carat round ideal shape D color IF diamond in a hearts and arrows cut in a lab grown diamond I told her and she didn't appear to care about the lab aspect and is happy with people noticing the ring. It looks like that is really all she cares about.... getting it noticed. A "natural" diamond would have cost a lot more... I really glad I went the cheap route.

So you overpaid for a CZ? Cool story

1. That's better than overpaying for natural stone cause its just an overpriced rock.
2. You don't know the science because CZ is not a lab grown diamond. Lab grown diamond have the same chemical composition as a diamond and that isn't the case with CZ. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_vapor_deposition
3. Plasma chemical vapor deposition is just more cool than digging in the dirt.
4. Either way you just sound bitter.

t

You cited wiki? Ha ha ha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancée told me that all she really cared about was having a ring that:

(1) was bigger than her moms ring and
(2) was shiny enough an big enough for her friends to notice/get jealous and
(3) was not so big that it looks fake.

Given that criteria I realized that the engagement ring was really about female on female competition and outwards displays so I really discounted the symbolism of the ring as a monetized expression of love and commitment. I decided I wasn't going into the trap of 3 months salary and spending the equivalent of a new car...

So I went and got a 1 carat round ideal shape D color IF diamond in a hearts and arrows cut in a lab grown diamond I told her and she didn't appear to care about the lab aspect and is happy with people noticing the ring. It looks like that is really all she cares about.... getting it noticed. A "natural" diamond would have cost a lot more... I really glad I went the cheap route.

So you overpaid for a CZ? Cool story

http://www.cnbc.com/id/100647697

1. That's better than overpaying for natural stone cause its just an overpriced rock.
2. You don't know the science because CZ is not a lab grown diamond. Lab grown diamond have the same chemical composition as a diamond and that isn't the case with CZ. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_vapor_deposition
3. Plasma chemical vapor deposition is just more cool than digging in the dirt.
4. Either way you just sound bitter.

t

You cited wiki? Ha ha ha

http://www.cnbc.com/id/100647697



"Diamonds are a natural mineral, created in the earth billions of years ago," she says. "Synthetics aren't the same thing, and to call them diamonds is misleading. Diamonds have captured peoples' hearts and imaginations for centuries and as such have always held their value, both financially and emotionally."
Veterans of the diamond industry are crystal clear on one further matter. Consumers of high-end diamond jewelry want the real deal and are willing to pay up.
"The majority of consumers have told us during extensive independent research that they want the real thing and aren't prepared to settle for anything less," De Beers' Gould said.
IDC's Almor is equally emphatic. "Synthetic diamonds take the emotion out of the equation and put the price point in the center and that's not always what the customer wants."
Shlomo Tidhar, CEO of Singapore Diamond Exchange has the last word.
"I believe that it will be very hard for me as a man to buy a woman I love a synthetic diamond," said Tidhar. "That's going to be difficult for me to do, I'm not sure if she will accept it and me myself would be reluctant to do it."

[Anonymous]

I've got a simple 1c solitaire from Tiffany. I think it's smaller than many of my friends but it doesn't bother me. It will always be classic and I'm happy to pass it down to one of my kids when the time comes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

NP. That is a whole lot of rationalization going on there.

anytime a person buys a engagement ring there has to be rationalization because quite frankly it is an irrational decision to spend any significant amount of money on that sort of thing.

No need to be rude about it. Different strokes for different folks. Some ppl consider cars, trips, purses irrational things on which to spend money.

[Anonymous]

Mine is a 3.5ct, however most of the wives in our social circle have 1.5-3ct.

[Anonymous]

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Nobody in my circle wants to wear blood diamonds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine is a 3.5ct, however most of the wives in our social circle have 1.5-3ct.

Why are you reviving a 10 year old thread? Also, the dynamics today have totally changed with the presence of lab diamonds. You’re comparing apples to oranges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

NP. That is a whole lot of rationalization going on there.

anytime a person buys a engagement ring there has to be rationalization because quite frankly it is an irrational decision to spend any significant amount of money on that sort of thing.

Hmmm. I think there is a whole lot of rationalization going on here, that rings are “silly.” from people who haven’t been given one. Or were given a tiny one. And are jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NP. That is a whole lot of rationalization going on there.

anytime a person buys a engagement ring there has to be rationalization because quite frankly it is an irrational decision to spend any significant amount of money on that sort of thing.

Hmmm. I think there is a whole lot of rationalization going on here, that rings are “silly.” from people who haven’t been given one. Or were given a tiny one. And are jealous.

I don't think they are silly, but I also don't care about other peoples' rings. Maybe I did when I was newly-engaged in 1992, but that passed quickly. I liked mine then, I liked it after I had it reset for my 25th anniversary, and I like it now.

It sounds like your ring is new. Congratulations! And I hope that you, too, will still be wearing and liking it in 34 years.

[Anonymous]

In my circles, I see mostly 1.5-2.5. Mine is 1 ct Tiffany in gold setting. I have been married for 29 years and have no intention to upgrade it. I have been wearing it all these years, almost every single day and still love it. I replaced my wedding band, but keeping my engagement ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this question from 1957?

The biggest thing holding women back from equity and equality is other women. I didn't use to believe it but it's unavoidable.

The average engagement ring size in my social circle is I DON'T CARE OH MY GOD WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU GOD GAVE YOU BRAIN CELLS IN THE HOPES YOU MIGHT DO SOMETHING OF VALUE WITH THEM AND INSTEAD YOU ARE JUST PERPETUATING IDIOTIC BULLSHIT.

GROW. UP.