Moms of boys....

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. I am 45 and I played competitive soccer. I beat all the boys in the Presidential Fitness thing---in every event. I played Division 1 soccer. Though--I liked make-up and fashion. I had an older brother and a sister.

AND...I'm the first one to use the 'cry like a girl', etc. I don't even think about it when I say it...or the irony that I am female. I guess growing up it was an insult to be told that but if you were a gifted athlete nobody would ever accuse of doing anything like a girl. In fact, I was told I don't 'run like a girl' and I took great pride in that growing up.

I have 5 nephews (teens and 20s) and I have two boys myself. My nephews would tell my boys 'not to be a momma's boy' if they cried over something.

Frankly, I personally HATED that television ad with the 'run like a girl', 'throw like a girl' because I think they should have used top women athletes..not girls that couldn't run. My kids and I busted out laughing at one of the girls because she had the worst running form ever.

I like being a woman. But- I don't go around looking for something to take 'offense' at constantly.

When even Jerry Seinfeld finds college campuses too liberal and politically correct---it is time America lightens the f*ck up!!

If you had a daughter, and she was interested in trucks and football, how would you feel if her female friends laughed at her and said "you play like a boy." Would YOU ridicule her for behaving like a boy? No? Then why would you ridicule your boys for behaving like (how you perceive) a girl? That's the other irony you missed. You seem to think boys should follow gender stereotypes, but girls should not.

When I was a kid, I also took pride in the fact that I didn't run or throw "like a girl," even though I'm a girl. But as a grown woman, I realize that the better compliment would have been "you have a great arm," or "you run the bases like a pro," or anything else that didn't derogatorily compare me to my own gender. Grow up! What boys and girls SHOULD understand is that anybody, boy or girl, who throws a ball with practice, or runs regularly, has the capacity to do it well. They should understand that the reason Jack or Olivia don't throw a ball with great form is because they haven't done it much, aren't practiced at it, and probably don't play baseball.

Just teach your boys that they all have things they're good at, or not good at. No reason to tear down half the population.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Crying to get your way is the type of reinforced learned helplessness that mothers of girls implicitly and explicitly seem to condone on a regular basis. I am a NP and mother of 3 boys. I will continue to denigrate the behavior of crying to get one's way- be it from a male or female. I will never nurture victim behavior.

Excuse me, I don't nurture crying as a "victim behavior" but I also don't invalidate the feelings that caused the crying. I don't care whether we are talking about boys or girls, they are entitled to feelings, they are entitled to cry when they are hurt, and sometimes they need help understanding that having their feelings hurt isn't the same and being physically hurt.

John Boehner's mamma.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Crying to get your way is the type of reinforced learned helplessness that mothers of girls implicitly and explicitly seem to condone on a regular basis. I am a NP and mother of 3 boys. I will continue to denigrate the behavior of crying to get one's way- be it from a male or female. I will never nurture victim behavior.

Excuse me, I don't nurture crying as a "victim behavior" but I also don't invalidate the feelings that caused the crying. I don't care whether we are talking about boys or girls, they are entitled to feelings, they are entitled to cry when they are hurt, and sometimes they need help understanding that having their feelings hurt isn't the same and being physically hurt.

John Boehner's mamma.

Um, no. I'm only in my 30s, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Crying when injured is different from crying for attention or validation, or to manipulate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't like it.
- mom of little boys (4, 1) who thinks it is lame that "girl" is an insult

+1000

Oh how I hate the phrases that use "you do X like a girl" as an insult. No, no, no. And as a mom of a boy I hate that I'm having to combat this already - he's picked up on this crap in kindergarten!

[Anonymous]

Here is a bigger issue for all the SAHM on the playground. What message are you sending to your daughters when you choose to not work and stay home and not provide financially for the family? Actions speak louder than words. Stop complaining about someone saying "girl " is an insult and be a role model of a success woman making a difference in the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is a bigger issue for all the SAHM on the playground. What message are you sending to your daughters when you choose to not work and stay home and not provide financially for the family? Actions speak louder than words. Stop complaining about someone saying "girl " is an insult and be a role model of a success woman making a difference in the world.

Do you say the same thing to all of the stay-at-home fathers on the playground? If not, why not?

Also, it is possible to make a difference in the world without getting paid to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is a bigger issue for all the SAHM on the playground. What message are you sending to your daughters when you choose to not work and stay home and not provide financially for the family? Actions speak louder than words. Stop complaining about someone saying "girl " is an insult and be a role model of a success woman making a difference in the world.

Do you say the same thing to all of the stay-at-home fathers on the playground? If not, why not?

Also, it is possible to make a difference in the world without getting paid to do it.

I am making a difference in the lives of my children and DH. They are my world. Sorry yours aren't enough for you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am making a difference in the lives of my children and DH. They are my world. Sorry yours aren't enough for you

That's quite a limited worldview. But if it works for you, it works for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does it really matter if women are offended by the comment?

What matters is that it internalizes the idea to BOYS that girls are less than--they cry easier, they lose easier, they are not as good.

THIS! Even if you aren't offended by it, or don't think its a big deal, or anywhere on that continuum, there kind of is no denying that this is the intent. There is no such thing as "just an expression", all words convey meaning, this one conveys this meaning. How can it possibly be bad for society to take this out of our lexicon? Can anyone really argue that we are better served by preserving this phrase than eliminating it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about this, then?

"Son, stop being a misogynist dumbass like PP's son."

How abou this, "son don't grow up and marry a twat like PP. if you do, you are in for a world of misery full of nagging and judging."

Ha!! So true.

The goddamn princesses and the girls gotta run and take your daughters to work..blah, blah, blah. Meanwhile- women outnumber men 60-40 at Universities nationwide.

It's so damn tiresome that we want to castrate the males every chance we get.

Congratulations we almost have a completey androgynous society.

How can you be serious? Take a look at popular media for 1 minute. Seriously, a very narrow interpretation of what it means to be good as a female, or worthy or whatever is 24/7 on all media forms- they aren't androgynous.

[Anonymous]

I'd throw it in the grave along with expressions such as:

"What a SPED!"
"Totally retarded"
"So gay"
"Hail to the Redskins"

Tell 'em how to behave properly, mom.