Moms of boys....

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of two boys ages 7 and 11.

Yes, you need to lighten up. In fact, I use that expression myself. We all have a good laugh.

Girls and Boys are different. Nothing wrong with that. And BTW, this is part of teaching my boys to ADORE girls.

Puke.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. I am 45 and I played competitive soccer. I beat all the boys in the Presidential Fitness thing---in every event. I played Division 1 soccer. Though--I liked make-up and fashion. I had an older brother and a sister.

AND...I'm the first one to use the 'cry like a girl', etc. I don't even think about it when I say it...or the irony that I am female. I guess growing up it was an insult to be told that but if you were a gifted athlete nobody would ever accuse of doing anything like a girl. In fact, I was told I don't 'run like a girl' and I took great pride in that growing up.

I have 5 nephews (teens and 20s) and I have two boys myself. My nephews would tell my boys 'not to be a momma's boy' if they cried over something.

Frankly, I personally HATED that television ad with the 'run like a girl', 'throw like a girl' because I think they should have used top women athletes..not girls that couldn't run. My kids and I busted out laughing at one of the girls because she had the worst running form ever.

I like being a woman. But- I don't go around looking for something to take 'offense' at constantly.

When even Jerry Seinfeld finds college campuses too liberal and politically correct---it is time America lightens the f*ck up!!

It's a shame you were or are a gifted athlete, but not very self aware or bright.

Give me a break. I have a PhD in Biochemistry so I guarantee I am brighter than you.

I also have no shame in admitting that the women's World Cup is not as exciting as the Men's. The game is so much slower. The skill and athleticism isn't the same.

I don't think voicing that in any way takes away my enjoyment of playing the sport at a level only 1% of girls in the world ever get a chance to do.

Get over yourselves, Sisters.

I thought the same thing about comedians no longer going to college campuses.

People are constantly looking for a reason to make a stink.

It is such a non-issue IMO.

I find it interesting that the one female who has come forth as a former college athlete thinks this is absolutely no big deal (as I do), while the rest of you most-likely couch potato wannna bes are up in arms over expressions like "he throws the ball like a girl." You should discuss this with your therapists.

[Anonymous]

Does it really matter if women are offended by the comment?

What matters is that it internalizes the idea to BOYS that girls are less than--they cry easier, they lose easier, they are not as good.

[Anonymous]

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I find it interesting that the one female who has come forth as a former college athlete thinks this is absolutely no big deal (as I do), while the rest of you most-likely couch potato wannna bes are up in arms over expressions like "he throws the ball like a girl." You should discuss this with your therapists.

The relevant part of "he throws the ball like a girl" is not the "he throws the ball" part.

[Anonymous]

I think many of you are overly sensitive. I was a tomboy growing up. I played basketball with the boys in the neighborhood. And I played safety and wide receiver on an all woman's football team in Arlington. I tell my son all the time to stop crying or acting like a weak little girl when he doesn't want to do something.

Whatever. OP correct your child, but don't use your PC to correct my child. You do not have my permission on this score. And if you do it without my permission, expect reciprocity with your kids in areas that you disagree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you are overly sensitive. I was a tomboy growing up. I played basketball with the boys in the neighborhood. And I played safety and wide receiver on an all woman's football team in Arlington. I tell my son all the time to stop crying or acting like a weak little girl when he doesn't want to do something.

Whatever. OP correct your child, but don't use your PC to correct my child. You do not have my permission on this score. And if you do it without my permission, expect reciprocity with your kids in areas that you disagree.

No worries. I'm sure we're not friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two little boys. They are just finishing K and 2nd grades. They are typical boys... Love to play outdoors, rough and tumble, sports, etc.

We recently moved to a new neighborhood, and it is fabulous!!! However, I've noticed that a few of the boys my boys play with use the phrase "like a girl" as an insult a lot. You throw like a girl! You cry like a girl! It really rubs me the wrong way. Whenever I hear it, I intervene and ask them why they are saying that, and gently point out that many girls are awesome at running, throwing, etc., and that it shouldn't be used as an insult.

It has happened enough times that now I am wondering if I just need to lighten up? I really don't want my boys to think this is ok, but at the same time I don't want to be ridiculously overbearing.

Thoughts?

Take them to a fastpitch softball game. They will have a whole new appreciation for "throws like a girl."

I'd also stop being so gentle and begin to rebuke them more harshly. I have no patience for children who ignore my direction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think many of you are overly sensitive. I was a tomboy growing up. I played basketball with the boys in the neighborhood. And I played safety and wide receiver on an all woman's football team in Arlington. I tell my son all the time to stop crying or acting like a weak little girl when he doesn't want to do something.

Whatever. OP correct your child, but don't use your PC to correct my child. You do not have my permission on this score. And if you do it without my permission, expect reciprocity with your kids in areas that you disagree.

No worries. I'm sure we're not friends.

Let me ask you "why," pp? Why can' tyou just use "cry like a baby" or like a "weak little boy?" What do you gain by using "girl?" What do you think you are teaching your son about girls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you are overly sensitive. I was a tomboy growing up. I played basketball with the boys in the neighborhood. And I played safety and wide receiver on an all woman's football team in Arlington. I tell my son all the time to stop crying or acting like a weak little girl when he doesn't want to do something.

Whatever. OP correct your child, but don't use your PC to correct my child. You do not have my permission on this score. And if you do it without my permission, expect reciprocity with your kids in areas that you disagree.

Why do you tell your son to stop crying/acting like a weak little girl? He is not a girl. Why not tell him to stop crying/acting like a weak little boy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

I find it interesting that the one female who has come forth as a former college athlete thinks this is absolutely no big deal (as I do), while the rest of you most-likely couch potato wannna bes are up in arms over expressions like "he throws the ball like a girl." You should discuss this with your therapists.

The relevant part of "he throws the ball like a girl" is not the "he throws the ball" part.

No kidding. My statement still stands.

[Anonymous]

Why do I have to talk to a therapist about how it pisses me off that girls are viewed as weak and weepy? I am a former college athlete (skiing), marathoner, and was a krav maga instructor.

Fortunately, this bullshit is fading away--the kids are getting it even if their parents are still stuck in the dark ages.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. I am 45 and I played competitive soccer. I beat all the boys in the Presidential Fitness thing---in every event. I played Division 1 soccer. Though--I liked make-up and fashion. I had an older brother and a sister.

AND...I'm the first one to use the 'cry like a girl', etc. I don't even think about it when I say it...or the irony that I am female. I guess growing up it was an insult to be told that but if you were a gifted athlete nobody would ever accuse of doing anything like a girl. In fact, I was told I don't 'run like a girl' and I took great pride in that growing up.

I have 5 nephews (teens and 20s) and I have two boys myself. My nephews would tell my boys 'not to be a momma's boy' if they cried over something.

Frankly, I personally HATED that television ad with the 'run like a girl', 'throw like a girl' because I think they should have used top women athletes..not girls that couldn't run. My kids and I busted out laughing at one of the girls because she had the worst running form ever.

I like being a woman. But- I don't go around looking for something to take 'offense' at constantly.

When even Jerry Seinfeld finds college campuses too liberal and politically correct---it is time America lightens the f*ck up!!

It's a shame you were or are a gifted athlete, but not very self aware or bright.

Give me a break. I have a PhD in Biochemistry so I guarantee I am brighter than you.

I also have no shame in admitting that the women's World Cup is not as exciting as the Men's. The game is so much slower. The skill and athleticism isn't the same.

I don't think voicing that in any way takes away my enjoyment of playing the sport at a level only 1% of girls in the world ever get a chance to do.

Get over yourselves, Sisters.

I thought the same thing about comedians no longer going to college campuses.

People are constantly looking for a reason to make a stink.

It is such a non-issue IMO.

I find it interesting that the one female who has come forth as a former college athlete thinks this is absolutely no big deal (as I do), while the rest of you most-likely couch potato wannna bes are up in arms over expressions like "he throws the ball like a girl." You should discuss this with your therapists.

Thanks for coming to my defense.

Btw- my boys were just at a soccer camp with a girl their age who is hands down the best soccer player (male or female) that I've seen in the entire NoVa/DC/MD region. She was truly impressive and my boys told her so. I really don't think the expression is a big deal to athletes.

Girls truly aren't taught to run properly. Girls that aren't brought up In sports often have a ridiculous gait. Track cured me of mine.

[Anonymous]

if someone thinks she can rebuke or discipline my child she has something coming. Keep your own opinions to your own children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I find it interesting that the one female who has come forth as a former college athlete thinks this is absolutely no big deal (as I do), while the rest of you most-likely couch potato wannna bes are up in arms over expressions like "he throws the ball like a girl." You should discuss this with your therapists.

The relevant part of "he throws the ball like a girl" is not the "he throws the ball" part.

No kidding. My statement still stands.

Well, no -- unless you can explain how athletic experience is relevant to one's opinion of using "like a girl" as an insult?

[Anonymous]

I'd be quick to shut that down too. My older son started that crap and I reminded him of all the amazing women in his life and all the amazing things they can do. The trump card was the fact that girls/women can grow babies and feed them with thier breasts. A-Maz-ing...

And then there was the time one of his friends looked at me like I was crazy when I told him I farted too. I guess his mom farts fairy dust or something.