Vacation with childless friends = disaster

[Anonymous]

We had the opposite experience - my 5-year-old and I went to the beach for a week with some child-free friends. It was their idea. We shared a condo and had a fabulous time. I had a lot more fun than I would have had alone with my daughter (I'm a single mom.) Daughter loved having 3 adults to pay attention to her, they were able to hang with her while I went for daily runs, and the only mealtime concession we had to make was making sure we didn't have a long wait for a table. (so once we had to push off a restaurant till another day, but they didn't care.)

We will probably go away with them again.

So maybe in a few years, this plan will work better?

[Anonymous]

Pp, your kid was 5, not 2. Big difference!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp, your kid was 5, not 2. Big difference!

Totally different situation. Did you just get custody or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had the opposite experience - my 5-year-old and I went to the beach for a week with some child-free friends. It was their idea. We shared a condo and had a fabulous time. I had a lot more fun than I would have had alone with my daughter (I'm a single mom.) Daughter loved having 3 adults to pay attention to her, they were able to hang with her while I went for daily runs, and the only mealtime concession we had to make was making sure we didn't have a long wait for a table. (so once we had to push off a restaurant till another day, but they didn't care.)

We will probably go away with them again.

So maybe in a few years, this plan will work better?

Your child is 5. That is a huge difference. I have 2 kids - ages 3 and 5. My 5yo is a dream. Extremely well behaved and fun to be around.3yo is a disaster. He was a handful at age 2 and is worse now that he is 3. I rarely even have people over now due to his tantrums. I would never travel with others with him. Hoping things will improve when he is 4.

[Anonymous]

Shitty idea to begin with. What did you expect from them, babysitters? You live and you learn...both parties.

But, you're an idiot if you expected anything different from your friends. A 2 year old on vacation isn't a vacation, it's a trip. But I know, your kid is different, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can't anyone on here spell judgment correctly? It is clear you are all American English speakers, not Anglo. I realize I sound like a harpy but this just strikes me as weird at how frequently I see this misspelling, especially in a city full of attorneys.

OP - I agree with a PP who said it is on you and your spouse to make the accommodations as much as possible in these settings. Your friends do sound somewhat pissy but I think they just didn't know what it would entail, and were taken aback. It also strikes me that there may be a dynamic in this couple that one may be more anti-child than the other and there is some need for the more child-friendly one to show solidarity. My two cents, which is probably not very useful anyway.

It might be autocorrect. I am an attorney - a litigator, at that - and every now and then I don't catch that iPhone has autocorrected my "judgment" to "judgement" in an email to a client. Makes me feel like a total tool.

IIRC, the legal term/noun is spelled judgement. The verb form is judgment.

- Long ago courthouse clerk.