husband becoming gun fanatic

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Anonymous wrote:This hits close to home (not pun intended). My husband took up shooting as a hobby and I told him I didn't want a gun around our kids and to not buy one. He got one anyway. I don't even bring it up because it is a sore subject. He doesn't say he's going to go shoot at the shooting range. He just goes somewhere else he tells me about and then probably goes shooting after. I don't like it one bit. He keeps it in the car. My dad had a rifle that he kept out in the open and occasionally hunted which I was fine with, but my husband is secretive about it. What does he have to hide?

Husband is an idiot to keep the gun in the car.

Where should he keep it then if I don't want it in the house?

I'm pretty sure he can rent a storage locker at any gun range.

He said once it seemed boring to shoot at the range, so I assume he's not that into it as a hobby, and probably has it more for self defense. That probably explains why he'd rather keep it nearby than at a gun range. Still, I think it's dumb to use it for self defense because then you are taking the law into your own hands.

In that case he is even more of a fool than I thought before (I'm PP who said he's an idiot to keep a gun in his car), because shooting at a range regularly is an important part of being properly trained and aware of how to use (and not use) a firearm.

Honestly, this DH sounds like a compete freaking moron who is utterly unsuited to own or use a firearm. If he is going to keep it in his car, stupid as that is, the only place it should be is in the trunk, locked in a safe/lock box that is, itself, securely bolted to the vehicle. But even that is not optimal. If he keeps it in the passenger compartment, in many states he is violating the law unless he has a CCW permit or is open carrying.

He sounds like a fool to me. Does he also understand that if he uses it successfully for self -defense he will likely be spending considerable $ on legal defense expenses even if he is justified. He sounds like far too many gun owners who have no clue about the extent and nature of the responsibility that goes with owning a firearm and using deadly force. What a moron.

[Anonymous]

My father had guns around my sister and I at a very young age. Taught us how to handle a gun. Taught us how not to be with a gun. So anytime we came across a gun when older, we knew exactly how to act. No accidental discharges. Nobody died. And if we were around someone that obviously didn't know how to handle a gun, we'd be out of there ASAP.

I will do the same with my daughter. Guns should not be feared. Idiots with guns should be feared.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I'm slightly amazed (not really) at how people are making this about themselves. It's not about you.

To the ex SF guy - my husband is a military officer stationed at the Pentagon. Your humble brag does not impress me.

Ok, so the guns are all locked up. He is not stockpiling ammo. He shows no signs of mental illness. No sudden change in political viewpoints. All signs point toward simply a new hobby. I still do not like it but am still at a loss of how to stop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm slightly amazed (not really) at how people are making this about themselves. It's not about you.

To the ex SF guy - my husband is a military officer stationed at the Pentagon. Your humble brag does not impress me.

Ok, so the guns are all locked up. He is not stockpiling ammo. He shows no signs of mental illness. No sudden change in political viewpoints. All signs point toward simply a new hobby. I still do not like it but am still at a loss of how to stop it.

This does not mean anything in regards to gun safety. If he's at the Pentagon, he's probably fetching coffee for higher ranking officers all day in an office. No wonder he's got the gun fever. He has to play with guns in his spare time because he doesn't get to handle them while on duty. I wouldnt be so quick to dismiss the ex - SF guy.

[Anonymous]

Do not ever have a loaded gun in your home. Honestly I would have your husband store his guns in a safe in your house and any ammo he might own in a very different place. Not in the same house as the guns. And I would put my foot down about keeping guns out of your child's life. You can not control him but you can control what things are in your child's life. You can tell your child "These things are for Daddy only. Mommy doesn't touch them and you don't either. Guns are VERY dangerous. Don't ever touch them."

You can later change that rule to whatever you see fit but for now - keep it that way.

[Anonymous]

PP, he's a fighter pilot, so while his Pentagon job sucks, he has been around guns at work. He qualifies every year or whatever. There is no jealously for people who handle guns - he has also seen combat. Like I said, I DO wonder if any new coworkers are playing into this.

If he wants to do this partly for home security, how can I get him to lock up guns and ammo separately?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm slightly amazed (not really) at how people are making this about themselves. It's not about you.

To the ex SF guy - my husband is a military officer stationed at the Pentagon. Your humble brag does not impress me.

Ok, so the guns are all locked up. He is not stockpiling ammo. He shows no signs of mental illness. No sudden change in political viewpoints. All signs point toward simply a new hobby. I still do not like it but am still at a loss of how to stop it.

Why stop it then? What's it to you? If he's being safe as you now say? Aren't you allowed to have hobbies in your marriage wo spousal approval?

[Anonymous]

Because I don't LIKE it. I don't want my child growing up thinking guns are needed. And no, I don't have hobbies that he disapproves of. Mostly because I don't care for anything that's sole purpose is to kill someone or destroy something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm slightly amazed (not really) at how people are making this about themselves. It's not about you.

To the ex SF guy - my husband is a military officer stationed at the Pentagon. Your humble brag does not impress me.

Ok, so the guns are all locked up. He is not stockpiling ammo. He shows no signs of mental illness. No sudden change in political viewpoints. All signs point toward simply a new hobby. I still do not like it but am still at a loss of how to stop it.

This does not mean anything in regards to gun safety. If he's at the Pentagon, he's probably fetching coffee for higher ranking officers all day in an office. No wonder he's got the gun fever. He has to play with guns in his spare time because he doesn't get to handle them while on duty. I wouldnt be so quick to dismiss the ex - SF guy.

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