Lay It On Me...Was I Wrong Here...??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legally, you are all in the wrong as you all committed fraud on the mortgage company. You are all guilty of a crime.

Morally, yes, OP, you are in the wrong. For the favor HH provided to you the bare minimum notice should've been 3 months, but 6 months preferred. Your husband should've gone to Utah to start his job without you while you stayed on for the extra time so that HH could find new tenants.

WTH? OP's name isn't on the mortgage!

Are you saying the guy driving the getaway car is never guilty because he wasn't actually inside robbing the bank?

[Anonymous]

Just in case OP isn't a troll . . .

Your responsibility is to make the best choices for your family. If that means moving, then that is what you need to do. For the sake of the friendship, you could help them find a replacement tenant. But I don't think you've done anything wrong simply by deciding to move (setting aside the mortgage fraud).

And my answer would be the same if the situation was reversed -- if they decided to sell the house. Neither party owes the other anything here.

[Anonymous]

I think you should have given longer than 30 days. But, if they live in CA they should be able to sell or find renters easily, so not that big of a deal.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to take a different position on this situation. HH saw a not-so-savvy friend in financial trouble and decided she would take advantage. What appears to be unbelievable kindness was actually a plot to commit fraud. Some friend that HH.

[Anonymous]

All of you are stupid -- I mean totally and thoroughly stupid. Helpful Helen and her husband Dumbass Dave bought a house 'for you'? Who does that ?
And there was no contract between you as to the amount of time you had to stay in the house -- was it in perpetuity or the length of the mortgage? And then utilities in other folks' names, running a business, etc. Wow! I think all 4 of you deserve each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: All of you are stupid -- I mean totally and thoroughly stupid. Helpful Helen and her husband Dumbass Dave bought a house 'for you'? Who does that ?
And there was no contract between you as to the amount of time you had to stay in the house -- was it in perpetuity or the length of the mortgage? And then utilities in other folks' names, running a business, etc. Wow! I think all 4 of you deserve each other.

+1

[Anonymous]

Helpful Helen has been screwing your husband, hence Helen being willing to buy the house. She was getting a bit too close to him, talking about wanting to get a divorce so they could run off together, which is why your husband wants to bail. Your husband is a dog. I'm so sorry OP. Would you like us yo recommend a good DC divorce attorney?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Helpful Helen has been screwing your husband, hence Helen being willing to buy the house. She was getting a bit too close to him, talking about wanting to get a divorce so they could run off together, which is why your husband wants to bail. Your husband is a dog. I'm so sorry OP. Would you like us yo recommend a good DC divorce attorney?

LMAOOOOO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just in case OP isn't a troll . . .

Your responsibility is to make the best choices for your family. If that means moving, then that is what you need to do. For the sake of the friendship, you could help them find a replacement tenant. But I don't think you've done anything wrong simply by deciding to move (setting aside the mortgage fraud).

And my answer would be the same if the situation was reversed -- if they decided to sell the house. Neither party owes the other anything here.

This is how I feel exactly. Did you ever discuss how long you were going to pay their mortgage down? Unless you signed a contract signing your life away to live there forever while paying the mortgage off, I don't see the problem with this.

My problem is someone with your morals (whatever financial/other problems got you to be so unrentable/helping with mortgage/ utility fraud/giving only a 30 day notice for them to turn around and convert a partial daycare back to being a normal looking home in order to re-rent/giving short notice to parents of your daycare children) providing care to other peoples children. I hope you and Helen's dirtbagginess haven't worn off on the children in any lasting ways.

Just don't leave anyone with lice or bedbugs and you won't be the WORST person in the world.