Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift

[Anonymous]

My husband is a great gift giver-from him to me. That being said, he has never taken the kids to pick out gifts for me, except for Mother's Day. I would have loved him to do that for me, and I probably should have done that for him also. I guess we both kind of suck at that level of thoughtfulness! Assuming this wasn't the only present from your husband (and if it was, you have a right to be pissed!), I would appreciate the effort he made, even though the present itself wasn't right!

[Anonymous]

My DH is constitutionally impaired at giving gifts (except the time he bought me a luxury car for our anniversary) I just let it go. There are worse traits in a husband...

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Anonymous wrote:They are kids. Appreciate them and your DH and be glad you got something. Quit whining.

This is OP. I do appreciate them and like I said - I wasn't mad at them and did all the oohs and aahs.

I think people are missing the point. I'm not unappreciative - I am just pissed DH didn't steer them to something I'd like more - LIKE I DID WITH HIS GIFT FROM THE GIRLS.

Part of the joy of giving is to find something the recipient would like - that's a teachable moment too!

I think you are missing the point, OP. So you killed their joy and sense of pride by choosing your DH's gift yourself. He made a different choice. What did you expect by posting this? Validation? You are barking up the wrong tree, sister.

Ugh, I'm so over this. This is the last time I'm responding. I didn't ask for validation and I DID start my thread by recognizing this is a bit petty. I was looking for ways that would NOT (got that??? that would NOT) hurt my kids' feelings. I got a few great suggestions and obviously there are others that understand.

Just to repeat - my kids think I absolutely LOVE their gift. I've been wearing it out every single damn time we've gone out since xmas. I was looking for ways to not have to wear it for the rest of my life as it's not my taste.

So, everyone, thanks for those that understood and gave me some good ideas. everyone else - whatever! I'm not going to read this anymore.

You think they're not getting this level of distaste from you?? Dream on. You're so screwed up that you think a 3 and 5 year old, who want to pick out their own gift to you all by themselves, have to, on their first try, pick out something that you adore. I would be so proud that my kids wanted to pick it out themselves and all you can do is bitch that they didn't nail it on the head. God, you seriously are a bitch.

Stop it with the name-calling and the shaming. OP is a FINE person despite not liking the crap her kids got her. And her DH could have steered them towards something else, and given them the money to pay and they'd have been thrilled to feel like they paid, and then he could have let them wrap her gift and they'd have been thrilled to wrap it themselves. No need to make her feel terribly. She's not a terrible person for not liking an ugly POS her kids got her.

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Anonymous wrote:They are kids. Appreciate them and your DH and be glad you got something. Quit whining.

This is OP. I do appreciate them and like I said - I wasn't mad at them and did all the oohs and aahs.

I think people are missing the point. I'm not unappreciative - I am just pissed DH didn't steer them to something I'd like more - LIKE I DID WITH HIS GIFT FROM THE GIRLS.

Part of the joy of giving is to find something the recipient would like - that's a teachable moment too!

I think you are missing the point, OP. So you killed their joy and sense of pride by choosing your DH's gift yourself. He made a different choice. What did you expect by posting this? Validation? You are barking up the wrong tree, sister.

Ugh, I'm so over this. This is the last time I'm responding. I didn't ask for validation and I DID start my thread by recognizing this is a bit petty. I was looking for ways that would NOT (got that??? that would NOT) hurt my kids' feelings. I got a few great suggestions and obviously there are others that understand.

Just to repeat - my kids think I absolutely LOVE their gift. I've been wearing it out every single damn time we've gone out since xmas. I was looking for ways to not have to wear it for the rest of my life as it's not my taste.

So, everyone, thanks for those that understood and gave me some good ideas. everyone else - whatever! I'm not going to read this anymore.

You think they're not getting this level of distaste from you?? Dream on. You're so screwed up that you think a 3 and 5 year old, who want to pick out their own gift to you all by themselves, have to, on their first try, pick out something that you adore. I would be so proud that my kids wanted to pick it out themselves and all you can do is bitch that they didn't nail it on the head. God, you seriously are a bitch.

Stop it with the name-calling and the shaming. OP is a FINE person despite not liking the crap her kids got her. And her DH could have steered them towards something else, and given them the money to pay and they'd have been thrilled to feel like they paid, and then he could have let them wrap her gift and they'd have been thrilled to wrap it themselves. No need to make her feel terribly. She's not a terrible person for not liking an ugly POS her kids got her.

You are just as terrible as op

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem

+1 Shut up already, you vain petty woman. Good lord!

[Anonymous]

I haven't read all the posts but I agree with you OP. This has nothing to do with kids making a macaroni necklace. Spending money on something you are are not to like is so wasteful and letting kids pick is ridiculous.

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OP you are a complete nightmare

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem

+1 Shut up already, you vain petty woman. Good lord!

Posters like you two are annoying as fuck.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP but the pin should be beautiful to you because your kids wanted you to have it. My DS is 2 . I frame his art.

[Anonymous]

I wish dh helped dcs get a gift for me. Honestly I would trade it (even a pin!) for the "real" gifts I got. I can't believe this is a problem for you OP.

[Anonymous]

Get over yourself. My DD also picked up a hideous necklace for me for Christmas. I will always cherish it because it's the first gift she picked for me and she was so excited to see me put it on.

I once bought my dad a pillsbury doughboy tie. Do you know he rocked that thing proudly to work and I was super happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP but the pin should be beautiful to you because your kids wanted you to have it. My DS is 2 . I frame his art.

You do realize there is a difference between the two, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem

+1 Shut up already, you vain petty woman. Good lord!

Posters like you two are annoying as fuck.

Annoying to infinity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem

+1 Shut up already, you vain petty woman. Good lord!

Posters like you two are annoying as fuck.

Annoying to infinity.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:They are kids. Appreciate them and your DH and be glad you got something. Quit whining.

This is OP. I do appreciate them and like I said - I wasn't mad at them and did all the oohs and aahs.

I think people are missing the point. I'm not unappreciative - I am just pissed DH didn't steer them to something I'd like more - LIKE I DID WITH HIS GIFT FROM THE GIRLS.

Part of the joy of giving is to find something the recipient would like - that's a teachable moment too!

I think you are missing the point, OP. So you killed their joy and sense of pride by choosing your DH's gift yourself. He made a different choice. What did you expect by posting this? Validation? You are barking up the wrong tree, sister.

Ugh, I'm so over this. This is the last time I'm responding. I didn't ask for validation and I DID start my thread by recognizing this is a bit petty. I was looking for ways that would NOT (got that??? that would NOT) hurt my kids' feelings. I got a few great suggestions and obviously there are others that understand.

Just to repeat - my kids think I absolutely LOVE their gift. I've been wearing it out every single damn time we've gone out since xmas. I was looking for ways to not have to wear it for the rest of my life as it's not my taste.

So, everyone, thanks for those that understood and gave me some good ideas. everyone else - whatever! I'm not going to read this anymore.

You think they're not getting this level of distaste from you?? Dream on. You're so screwed up that you think a 3 and 5 year old, who want to pick out their own gift to you all by themselves, have to, on their first try, pick out something that you adore. I would be so proud that my kids wanted to pick it out themselves and all you can do is bitch that they didn't nail it on the head. God, you seriously are a bitch.

Stop it with the name-calling and the shaming. OP is a FINE person despite not liking the crap her kids got her. And her DH could have steered them towards something else, and given them the money to pay and they'd have been thrilled to feel like they paid, and then he could have let them wrap her gift and they'd have been thrilled to wrap it themselves. No need to make her feel terribly. She's not a terrible person for not liking an ugly POS her kids got her.

Yes, she kind of is. And no, I won't stop shaming this OP. She needs to be shamed.