Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem

+1 Shut up already, you vain petty woman. Good lord!

This. We are not on TTC.

You.missed my.+1. I think OP needs to get a life if this is her biggest problem.

Hahaha! And here we ALL ARE, posting and posting and posting about what you call OP's "biggest problem." If OP needs to get a life, what does that say about us?

Lol, yup.

[Anonymous]

Sounds cute, OP, even if the gift itself is ugly. Wear it for a while. Buy a jewelry-making kit (bead necklaces or whatever) and do that together with them, asking them to make you something. Then you can wear the new thing instead of the pin.

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Anonymous wrote:Are not we supposed to teach children to buy gifts for people that the they would like? Not what you like, but the other person likes?


OP, I think your husband dropped the ball.

But why are you assuming that they (husband, daughters) only picked what they liked? How do you know they really didn't think mom would like it?

This is where dad comes in. And says "I think your mom likes this and this, and she doesn't wear pins."

Parents are supposed to teach their children to think of the person they are buying the gift for.

+1

[Anonymous]

Where do I get one of these husbands who knows I don't wear pins ( or any idea of my preferences)?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are not we supposed to teach children to buy gifts for people that the they would like? Not what you like, but the other person likes?


OP, I think your husband dropped the ball.

But why are you assuming that they (husband, daughters) only picked what they liked? How do you know they really didn't think mom would like it?

This is where dad comes in. And says "I think your mom likes this and this, and she doesn't wear pins."

Parents are supposed to teach their children to think of the person they are buying the gift for.

But it sounds like they the kids really thought mom would like it and seem excited about their gift. Who gets pissed at a gift their kids get them???? I

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are not we supposed to teach children to buy gifts for people that the they would like? Not what you like, but the other person likes?


OP, I think your husband dropped the ball.

But why are you assuming that they (husband, daughters) only picked what they liked? How do you know they really didn't think mom would like it?

This is where dad comes in. And says "I think your mom likes this and this, and she doesn't wear pins."

Parents are supposed to teach their children to think of the person they are buying the gift for.

+1

Yes, but that's a gradual process. A 3 year old, or even a 5 year old who realizes that mommies like jewelry and not toys, and picks out pretty colors because mommy is pretty is thinking about the other person.

My preschooler wanted to get my brother a baby doll for Christmas. When I asked him why he said "so he'll realize a baby is fun, and then he'll have one and I'll have a cousin". Compared to that logic (and no we did not give my brother a baby doll), a pin is a very appropriate gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds cute, OP, even if the gift itself is ugly. Wear it for a while. Buy a jewelry-making kit (bead necklaces or whatever) and do that together with them, asking them to make you something. Then you can wear the new thing instead of the pin.

Oh please, like that's any better. That's just awful in another direction.

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I'd just throw it away and say I lost it. It's a good early lesson in *stuff* not being important and not to have crazy attachments to *stuff*. People are what matters.

But this has to be done and dh has to be pulled aside and told the truth so he can know to cut that shit out. My dh knows I love the kids but he also knows I'm picky about what I wear. He guides them to what I like. I'd rather pick what is to remind me of them. I don't want to have to stare at ugly and be 'reminded'.

I do the same for my kids. Sure I wanted my son in a collared shirt for photos. Problem? He WILL NOT wear them. I want my daughter to wear cute dresses sometimes. She doesn't like them. So I let them choose and appreciate where they are at with THEIR appearances. Not mine.

[Anonymous]

11:52 here again. I also have to add, it's like faking an orgasm? What's the point of that? Then no one gets their way. Every year you 'rave' about your crappy broach is another year they think 'man I gotta find another glittery plastic poc for mum...'. Just be gently honest in an age appropriate manner. Also, one is never too young to learn what a gift receipt is...

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Tell them you lost it.

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Wow 11:52 you're the biggest douche bag ever - worse than OP.

[Anonymous]

Divorce your husband and file for sole custody. What else.

[Anonymous]

I get you op but you just need to understand that guys generally do not think the same way about things as women. They are wired differently, and that's okay. You will not be as pissed when you come to terms with this.

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Anonymous wrote:My son made me a gold spray painted. Macaroni necklace and I wore it proudly to church and told everyone that it was "one of a kind" . Children learn thoughtfulness with gift giving. I still have that necklace and when my son gets married, I plan to wear it to his wedding. If his wife is really nice, I might, someday, give it to her.

Please don't do that. MILs give enough gifts that are awkward to own. Don't saddle your future DIL with this. And it's lovely you like it - but please don't wear it to his wedding, either. He'll be a grownup when he's getting married. You don't need your future DIL thinking you're trying to keep him a little boy.

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Also, OP, I don't think it's unreasonable to want your DH to buy you a present you actually want. Yes, it's lovely to be the Best Mom Ever. But it's also nice when your husband knows your taste. Is there some reason you can't get two presents from now on - one from the kids and one from the husband?

I ask this having had an awkward conversation with my husband about presents earlier this year. Let's just say that for a big milestone birthday, he got me a something of-the-month subscription. I reacted appallingly. Anyway, we laugh about it now and he also now sort of understands why I was a little disappointed/shrewish about it.