Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry but I agree with the OP on this. Seems like I am the only one. I have a daughter and if she gave me the pin I would definitely have work in - around the house or to go shopping or something. But not all day everyday. Not to a party and not to work. I would have explained to my daughter that I love it but would stick to my guns about wearing it with a "matching" outfit. When you become a mother fashion doesn't die with your child's birth. It's okay to not want to wear that brooch or macaroni necklace everywhere. Doesn't make you a bitch of a mom. My daughter made me a necklace made out of paper and beads. I wore it all day at home and took it to work to display it in my office. My daughter was completely okay with this. As for your DH just talk to him - plain and simple. Spell out for him what you want done next time. Men need that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you really need another gift you would "enjoy"? Can't you buy what you want for yourself? Isn't it worth seeing your girls excited and happy when you open their gift? My dd bought me (with her own money) a hideous bag from Five Below with our local sports team name emblazed on it (in pink and black) and I use it.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are kids. Appreciate them and your DH and be glad you got something. Quit whining.

This is OP. I do appreciate them and like I said - I wasn't mad at them and did all the oohs and aahs.

I think people are missing the point. I'm not unappreciative - I am just pissed DH didn't steer them to something I'd like more - LIKE I DID WITH HIS GIFT FROM THE GIRLS.

Part of the joy of giving is to find something the recipient would like - that's a teachable moment too!

And there it is folks: your husband didn't do the gift selection THE WAY YOU DID IT, so therefore it's wrong and worthy of you being pissed.

Come on OP. You have to do better than that. The teachable moment is actually for you: your husband can do things with your girls that you don't direct and it's still great and okay and full of worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are kids. Appreciate them and your DH and be glad you got something. Quit whining.

This is OP. I do appreciate them and like I said - I wasn't mad at them and did all the oohs and aahs.

I think people are missing the point. I'm not unappreciative - I am just pissed DH didn't steer them to something I'd like more - LIKE I DID WITH HIS GIFT FROM THE GIRLS.

Part of the joy of giving is to find something the recipient would like - that's a teachable moment too!

And there it is folks: your husband didn't do the gift selection THE WAY YOU DID IT, so therefore it's wrong and worthy of you being pissed.

Come on OP. You have to do better than that. The teachable moment is actually for you: your husband can do things with your girls that you don't direct and it's still great and okay and full of worth.

+1

[Anonymous]

Tell them that the pin is so beautiful that you don't want to wear it out because you don't want to take the chance it will get lost. That's what we were told when we were kids.

[Anonymous]

Some of you are real pieces of work. I totally agree with OP.

Look, I do a LOT around our home including Christmas. I try to make it nice for everyone. I don't expect much in return. But, just a llittle thought into a gift is not asking too much. When I take DC out to buy for DH, it's thoughtful. We talk about what he would like/don't like. I don't just let her pick some random gift. It doesn't take much to do this.

Having said that, I would take the pin and wear it so as not to hurt the kids' feelings. There's nothing you can do at this point. I would say talk to DH about it but after doing what many suggest on here -"just tell DH what you would like"- he still cannot seem to buy thoughtful gifts. I've learned to accept it but that doesn't mean I have to like it (I just thank him and move on). ANd, it doesn't mean that I or OP mean, childish, etc. I don't think wanting a thoughtful Christmas gift is any of those things. Some of the responses to OP, however, reek of being childish.

[Anonymous]

When I was 7 I picked out a gold tree at Macy's. Kind of like this but with cheap fake gold stamped foil leaves and a plaster of Paris base painted gold
http://www.etsy.com/transaction/102363508

I thought it was sooooooo pretty! I am 35 and it is still displayed in our house. If anyone remarks how " interesting" it is, she proudly tells them that I got that for her when I was a kid.

Tie or attach the pin to your purse or work bag. Tell everyone it is from your kids with a wink and a smile. Do you know how many suit wearing men I work with who proudly wear rainbow loom bracelets? No one will honestly think you picked it out yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are kids. Appreciate them and your DH and be glad you got something. Quit whining.

This is OP. I do appreciate them and like I said - I wasn't mad at them and did all the oohs and aahs.

I think people are missing the point. I'm not unappreciative - I am just pissed DH didn't steer them to something I'd like more - LIKE I DID WITH HIS GIFT FROM THE GIRLS.

Part of the joy of giving is to find something the recipient would like - that's a teachable moment too!

And there it is folks: your husband didn't do the gift selection THE WAY YOU DID IT, so therefore it's wrong and worthy of you being pissed.

Come on OP. You have to do better than that. The teachable moment is actually for you: your husband can do things with your girls that you don't direct and it's still great and okay and full of worth.

+1

-1 b/c DH can't seem to do it in a way that is thoughtful. He doesn't get points for doing it easy. The better thing to do would be do talk with them about what his DW may actually like. Sorry, just b/c one parent does things his or her "own way" does not mean it is correct or even acceptable.

I think OP should just smile and say she likes the pin. WEar it out the door and then stick it in your purse once gone. But, I don't think it excuses her DH.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you are not a good mom.

[Anonymous]

Stab the pin into his forehead.

Did he get you any other gifts?

Also who wear a robe is this the 80s?

[Anonymous]

OP is a selfish wench

[Anonymous]

You're a parent. Christmas is NOT about you. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

It's about the kids picking out the gift.It's not about what you wanted or didn't or how ugly it is.Suck it up,problem my butt!
I feel bad for your kids by the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are kids. Appreciate them and your DH and be glad you got something. Quit whining.

This is OP. I do appreciate them and like I said - I wasn't mad at them and did all the oohs and aahs.

I think people are missing the point. I'm not unappreciative - I am just pissed DH didn't steer them to something I'd like more - LIKE I DID WITH HIS GIFT FROM THE GIRLS.

Part of the joy of giving is to find something the recipient would like - that's a teachable moment too!

And there it is folks: your husband didn't do the gift selection THE WAY YOU DID IT, so therefore it's wrong and worthy of you being pissed.

Come on OP. You have to do better than that. The teachable moment is actually for you: your husband can do things with your girls that you don't direct and it's still great and okay and full of worth.

+1

-1 b/c DH can't seem to do it in a way that is thoughtful. He doesn't get points for doing it easy. The better thing to do would be do talk with them about what his DW may actually like. Sorry, just b/c one parent does things his or her "own way" does not mean it is correct or even acceptable.

I think OP should just smile and say she likes the pin. WEar it out the door and then stick it in your purse once gone. But, I don't think it excuses her DH.

Whoa! How does anyone get to judge that he was not being "thoughtful" or taking the "easy" way? How dare you. Neither you, nor OP, is in a place to judge someone's thought and effort put into a gift. None of you were there. I've received many gifts from my spouse that weren't my taste, but I know a lot of thought went into them. OP should be grateful that she received a gift. If she wants something, she should go buy it on her own. It's time to stop this nonsense of "if you really knew me and cared about me, you'd get me ____ as a gift."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP don't you hate those pasta necklaces they make too? They come from love and all but so hideous. The look of excitement on their faces when they give them? Makes you cringe right? Plus they just expect you to wear them! The nerve!!

Signed,
Mom who proudly wears hideous jewelry made/purchased by my children including beaded, painted macaroni, pipe cleaners, TJ Maxx lead lined crap which turns my skin green. Currently sporting 6 rainbow loom bracelets (thanks Santa!).

I get the sarcasm, but you're missing my point. The pasta necklaces and such are adorable and I love them. This was different - Dh should have steered them a little better.

No, YOU are missing the point. Your kids picked it out. If your DH "steered" them, it would not be from them. This is what THEY wanted to get you. So next year, instead of coming here and venting, tell your kids what you really want so they don't buy you anymore "ugly" stuff.