If you are rich, do you ever lie about it or downplay it?

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Anonymous wrote:Why is that hilarious? I did live in Fairfax. If I say McLean, people may think "Oh, so you are one of those kinds of people"

It's hilarious that your image of McLean is the place where the super rich live (or at least, people rich enough to that they need to lie about their upbringing). It's not Central Park West, for God's sake. It's an affluent suburb, but that's it - not even the most affluent area in the metro area.

What Virginia suburb is wealthier? Do you know of a house in McLean that is worth less than a million?

Middleburg, the plains...

THe average home price in Middleburg is $401,466.
THe average home price in McLean is $868,943 .

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Anonymous wrote:I always down play. I never tell people we just meet or don't know very well what DH's occupation is. And I never invite people over to our house. We bought a $1 million house as first time home buyers at age 30 with no family help and I don't want any of our friends to see it. The few times we've had friends over we've gotten obnoxious comments about the house. I prefer to entertain in restaurants or meet friends at other places.

My co workers have already formed a negative opinion of me based on the fact that I drive a luxury car and I've heard several negative comments about it. I work in a low paying field.

We wear dress really cheaply (we prefer clothes from Old Navy), DH drives a 15 year old car, and I don't have any jewelry so it is easy to downplay. I'm just not interested in brands or labels.

First of all, $1m dollars homes in many places (NW DC, McLean) don't always look terribly impressive. Secondly, nobody would know HOW you bought it if you didn't discuss it. That's a stupid reason not to invite people over. I'm going to guess that you don't have too many friends if you don't invite people over so that they won't see your house. What kind of friend does that?

The reason I don't invite people over is because of the comments we've gotten when we did invite people over. I don't want to hear the comments because they bum me out. We are happy with the choice we made but I don't see any reason to entertain at home (and I don't enjoy cooking or entertaining at home particularly, would much rather meet friends out at a restaurant or theater). And we bought in a distant suburb (Great Falls) so we got a huge house and a huge yard (2 acres).

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Anonymous wrote:Best way to not get negative opinions for driving a luxury car? Don't drive one.

Otherwise, accept the fact that you are telling the world you either a) have a lot of money or b) want people to think you have a lot of money.

A lesson your DH appears to have learned.

Maybe she likes the safety features of a luxury car?

Then she shouldn't care what other people think. But clearly she really really does.

"How dare people think I'm rich when I am? The nerve!"

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Anonymous wrote:I always down play. I never tell people we just meet or don't know very well what DH's occupation is. And I never invite people over to our house. We bought a $1 million house as first time home buyers at age 30 with no family help and I don't want any of our friends to see it. The few times we've had friends over we've gotten obnoxious comments about the house. I prefer to entertain in restaurants or meet friends at other places.

My co workers have already formed a negative opinion of me based on the fact that I drive a luxury car and I've heard several negative comments about it. I work in a low paying field.

We wear dress really cheaply (we prefer clothes from Old Navy), DH drives a 15 year old car, and I don't have any jewelry so it is easy to downplay. I'm just not interested in brands or labels.

Do I remember you from the baby shower post?

First of all, $1m dollars homes in many places (NW DC, McLean) don't always look terribly impressive. Secondly, nobody would know HOW you bought it if you didn't discuss it. That's a stupid reason not to invite people over. I'm going to guess that you don't have too many friends if you don't invite people over so that they won't see your house. What kind of friend does that?

The reason I don't invite people over is because of the comments we've gotten when we did invite people over. I don't want to hear the comments because they bum me out. We are happy with the choice we made but I don't see any reason to entertain at home (and I don't enjoy cooking or entertaining at home particularly, would much rather meet friends out at a restaurant or theater). And we bought in a distant suburb (Great Falls) so we got a huge house and a huge yard (2 acres).

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Anonymous wrote:I always down play. I never tell people we just meet or don't know very well what DH's occupation is. And I never invite people over to our house. We bought a $1 million house as first time home buyers at age 30 with no family help and I don't want any of our friends to see it. The few times we've had friends over we've gotten obnoxious comments about the house. I prefer to entertain in restaurants or meet friends at other places.

My co workers have already formed a negative opinion of me based on the fact that I drive a luxury car and I've heard several negative comments about it. I work in a low paying field.

We wear dress really cheaply (we prefer clothes from Old Navy), DH drives a 15 year old car, and I don't have any jewelry so it is easy to downplay. I'm just not interested in brands or labels.

First of all, $1m dollars homes in many places (NW DC, McLean) don't always look terribly impressive. Secondly, nobody would know HOW you bought it if you didn't discuss it. That's a stupid reason not to invite people over. I'm going to guess that you don't have too many friends if you don't invite people over so that they won't see your house. What kind of friend does that?

The reason I don't invite people over is because of the comments we've gotten when we did invite people over. I don't want to hear the comments because they bum me out. We are happy with the choice we made but I don't see any reason to entertain at home (and I don't enjoy cooking or entertaining at home particularly, would much rather meet friends out at a restaurant or theater). And we bought in a distant suburb (Great Falls) so we got a huge house and a huge yard (2 acres).

Oops - and I hate it when others mess up quoting. To try again - do I remember you from the baby shower post?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always down play. I never tell people we just meet or don't know very well what DH's occupation is. And I never invite people over to our house. We bought a $1 million house as first time home buyers at age 30 with no family help and I don't want any of our friends to see it. The few times we've had friends over we've gotten obnoxious comments about the house. I prefer to entertain in restaurants or meet friends at other places.

My co workers have already formed a negative opinion of me based on the fact that I drive a luxury car and I've heard several negative comments about it. I work in a low paying field.

We wear dress really cheaply (we prefer clothes from Old Navy), DH drives a 15 year old car, and I don't have any jewelry so it is easy to downplay. I'm just not interested in brands or labels.

First of all, $1m dollars homes in many places (NW DC, McLean) don't always look terribly impressive. Secondly, nobody would know HOW you bought it if you didn't discuss it. That's a stupid reason not to invite people over. I'm going to guess that you don't have too many friends if you don't invite people over so that they won't see your house. What kind of friend does that?

The reason I don't invite people over is because of the comments we've gotten when we did invite people over. I don't want to hear the comments because they bum me out. We are happy with the choice we made but I don't see any reason to entertain at home (and I don't enjoy cooking or entertaining at home particularly, would much rather meet friends out at a restaurant or theater). And we bought in a distant suburb (Great Falls) so we got a huge house and a huge yard (2 acres).

Oops - and I hate it when others mess up quoting. To try again - do I remember you from the baby shower post?

Yup. Never had a baby shower but am totally okay with that. Not having a sip and see either!

[Anonymous]

You guys are all showing why people who are well off downplay their wealth. Because you 1) don't like them as much after you find out and 2) some of you expect them to pay for dinner, etc. all the time and 3) you think their life is easy because they are well off. It's easier, of course, financially, but every other aspect of life is the same.

I also downplay our wealth.

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Anonymous wrote:You people are making me depressed. I have a dying close family member in another state, and we can't afford for me to take off work (I don't get paid time off) or the travel expenses so that I can go to the funeral. I'm a 32 y.o. working mom of 3. No money in savings due to lots of medical expenses this year.

I don't want to be rich. I don't need yacht clubs. I just want to be able to afford to go to a funeral when someone in my family dies.

You should stop producing children you can't afford.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is that hilarious? I did live in Fairfax. If I say McLean, people may think "Oh, so you are one of those kinds of people"

It's hilarious that your image of McLean is the place where the super rich live (or at least, people rich enough to that they need to lie about their upbringing). It's not Central Park West, for God's sake. It's an affluent suburb, but that's it - not even the most affluent area in the metro area.

What Virginia suburb is wealthier? Do you know of a house in McLean that is worth less than a million?

Middleburg, the plains...

THe average home price in Middleburg is $401,466.
THe average home price in McLean is $868,943 .

haha! You must have missed the big mansions of old money surrounded by the servant class in Middleburg. Blind much?

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Anonymous wrote:Why is that hilarious? I did live in Fairfax. If I say McLean, people may think "Oh, so you are one of those kinds of people"

It's hilarious that your image of McLean is the place where the super rich live (or at least, people rich enough to that they need to lie about their upbringing). It's not Central Park West, for God's sake. It's an affluent suburb, but that's it - not even the most affluent area in the metro area.

What Virginia suburb is wealthier? Do you know of a house in McLean that is worth less than a million?

Middleburg, the plains...

THe average home price in Middleburg is $401,466.
THe average home price in McLean is $868,943 .

haha! You must have missed the big mansions of old money surrounded by the servant class in Middleburg. Blind much?

No, nitwit, just making the point that Middleburg isn't wealthier. SOME are wealthier in Middleburg.

Get a brain.

[Anonymous]

Oh I totally downplay. Colleagues I work with know but close friends and neighborhood friends have no idea. We live in a tiny house, drive basic cars, the only give away might be the full time nanny vs day care but when I talk about that choice, if asked, I say it was worth other sacrifices. Truth is there were no other sacrifices.