What kind of invitation is this anyways?

[Anonymous]

One time I had a friend who got married and could only afford an afternoon cake-and-punch buffet as a reception.

I have not spoken to that bitch since. Here's a hint: if you can't afford to host a wedding up to your friends' standards, don't invite them. DUH... that's not obvious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You see, in life, you get to know a lot people -- some of whom you actually like and hope to socialize with. But when you want to have them over to your place, it's not that easy. You have to do it exactly the right way or you risk becoming a publicly-ridiculed pariah.

There's a lot of room between "having to do it exactly the right way" and "I'm inviting you to bring your own dinner and chairs to my family's yard while my family eats dinner" (hat tip to PP).

Exactly. How DARE she want to enjoy other people's company. What a cunt.

[Anonymous]

"I'm inviting you to bring your own dinner and chairs to my family's yard while my family eats dinner"

NP here getting caught up.

I missed it -- what's wrong with the above sentiment? I don't get why it's so insulting. I would love such an invite... fun stuff!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, some of you people are assholes.

Ooooooh, bring meat and a chair. SUCH a first-world problem. Only wealthy east coasters would be so fucking uptight as to view this as a dilemma worthy of an internet lynching.

I think we found OP's "friend". Hey- word to the wise, when you invite people over you do not ask them to bring their entire f-ing kitchens with me idiot.

Not the OP's friend; I live nowhere near the East Coast.

If your definition of your "entire f-ing kitchen" consists of meat and a chair, God help you.

It's raw meat for the entire family, x number of chairs, a side and/or dessert, and beverages for everyone in the family. That is a lot of sh*t to haul over.

OP, if I wanted to socialize with any of the guests I might say I had dinner plans (ie, eat at home), but would join them for dessert.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You see, in life, you get to know a lot people -- some of whom you actually like and hope to socialize with. But when you want to have them over to your place, it's not that easy. You have to do it exactly the right way or you risk becoming a publicly-ridiculed pariah.

There's a lot of room between "having to do it exactly the right way" and "I'm inviting you to bring your own dinner and chairs to my family's yard while my family eats dinner" (hat tip to PP).

Exactly. How DARE she want to enjoy other people's company. What a cunt.

OK. "I'm inviting you to a BBQ party that consists of you bringing your own dinner and chairs to my family's yard while my family eats dinner."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, some of you people are assholes.

Ooooooh, bring meat and a chair. SUCH a first-world problem. Only wealthy east coasters would be so fucking uptight as to view this as a dilemma worthy of an internet lynching.

I think we found OP's "friend". Hey- word to the wise, when you invite people over you do not ask them to bring their entire f-ing kitchens with me idiot.

Not the OP's friend; I live nowhere near the East Coast.

If your definition of your "entire f-ing kitchen" consists of meat and a chair, God help you.

It's raw meat for the entire family, x number of chairs, a side and/or dessert, and beverages for everyone in the family. That is a lot of sh*t to haul over.

OP, if I wanted to socialize with any of the guests I might say I had dinner plans (ie, eat at home), but would join them for dessert.

It's your own meat and chairs. Personally I would consider a side and/or dessert optional in spite of the wording on the invite. No mention of beverages in the invite.

I don't see the big deal.

Oh wait, actually I do, now that I think about it. It's a huge deal. I think we need to raise awareness for this cause. Who's with me? Orange ribbons on me; I can get them at a bulk discount.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You see, in life, you get to know a lot people -- some of whom you actually like and hope to socialize with. But when you want to have them over to your place, it's not that easy. You have to do it exactly the right way or you risk becoming a publicly-ridiculed pariah.

There's a lot of room between "having to do it exactly the right way" and "I'm inviting you to bring your own dinner and chairs to my family's yard while my family eats dinner" (hat tip to PP).

Exactly. How DARE she want to enjoy other people's company. What a cunt.

OK. "I'm inviting you to a BBQ party that consists of you bringing your own dinner and chairs to my family's yard while my family eats dinner."

Cool. I'm in. But I've always been kind of a rebel.

[Anonymous]

Bizarre, I wouldn't accept the invite or whatever they're calling it.

[Anonymous]

OP, if your kids are friends with these people's kids, I would put a stop to that IMMEDIATELY.

They are clearly very dangerous people.

[Anonymous]

My friends have done this in the past. They'll invite about 50 people and buy hamburgers and hotdogs. They ask families to bring something like soda, beer, ice, salad, dips, deviled, eggs etc. If people want a steak/pork steak/brat they bring that as well. Due to package sizing, the meat all ends up getting shared anyway. Most of us keep some chairs in the trunk anyway because we all do a lot of activities like softball games, concerts in the park.

We don't think of it as a "party" though. It's just a get together on a Sunday night. Before everyone had 2 kids we did it every Sunday from Memorial Day to Labor Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One time I had a friend who got married and could only afford an afternoon cake-and-punch buffet as a reception.

I have not spoken to that bitch since. Here's a hint: if you can't afford to host a wedding up to your friends' standards, don't invite them. DUH... that's not obvious?

One time I attended a friend's party and there was no washroom attendant. Meaning that I had to dry my own hands afterwards. UGH. I am still in therapy. You can bet I withdrew my country club recommendation for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends have done this in the past. They'll invite about 50 people and buy hamburgers and hotdogs. They ask families to bring something like soda, beer, ice, salad, dips, deviled, eggs etc. If people want a steak/pork steak/brat they bring that as well. Due to package sizing, the meat all ends up getting shared anyway. Most of us keep some chairs in the trunk anyway because we all do a lot of activities like softball games, concerts in the park.

We don't think of it as a "party" though. It's just a get together on a Sunday night. Before everyone had 2 kids we did it every Sunday from Memorial Day to Labor Day.

I am so sorry for you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. There are probably some good books at the library you can get for your kids to help them get over the trauma.

Uh oh. Did I say "library"? I meant book store.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if your kids are friends with these people's kids, I would put a stop to that IMMEDIATELY.

They are clearly very dangerous people.

Probably the kind of people whose kids throw pinecones out the window from their carseats. Agree. Keep your distance, there is something very wrong with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, some of you people are assholes.

Ooooooh, bring meat and a chair. SUCH a first-world problem. Only wealthy east coasters would be so fucking uptight as to view this as a dilemma worthy of an internet lynching.

I think we found OP's "friend". Hey- word to the wise, when you invite people over you do not ask them to bring their entire f-ing kitchens with me idiot.

Not the OP's friend; I live nowhere near the East Coast.

If your definition of your "entire f-ing kitchen" consists of meat and a chair, God help you.

It's raw meat for the entire family, x number of chairs, a side and/or dessert, and beverages for everyone in the family. That is a lot of sh*t to haul over.

OP, if I wanted to socialize with any of the guests I might say I had dinner plans (ie, eat at home), but would join them for dessert.

It's your own meat and chairs. Personally I would consider a side and/or dessert optional in spite of the wording on the invite. No mention of beverages in the invite.

I don't see the big deal.

Oh wait, actually I do, now that I think about it. It's a huge deal. I think we need to raise awareness for this cause. Who's with me? Orange ribbons on me; I can get them at a bulk discount.

Orange?? Sorry PP but that is a major faux pas. Consider a more appropriate color and you can count me in. This has to stop.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a problem with the wording on the invite, except that they did not specify the meat must be grass-fed organic. Standards, people.