What kind of invitation is this anyways?
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Anonymous
NO - It is her family's "End of Summer" BBQ. She invited about 6 - 8 families. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, we're gonna need you to come the day before to mow the lawn, too. |
Anonymous
I initially had said "maybe" on the FB invite, but she changed the time to a little bit later and so now I have an excuse to skip it because we had (very tenative) plans for later in the evening so now I updated my response to "not going" and I wrote her a short note thanking her for the invite but declining due to other plans. I really wanted to link to Miss Manners or this thread but I just bring myself to do that. |
Anonymous
| That's absurd. I'd skip it. But no, OP, there's no way for you to point out to them how rude their invitation to cook yourself dinner at their house is. |
Anonymous
They are midwestern with very ordinary English sounding last names. |
Anonymous
Well Gatsby did come over and mowed Nick Carraway's lawn before the tea with Daisy. Brought flowers too. |
Anonymous
No, that's not accurate. Gatsby paid somebody to mow the lawn, and had somebody deliver the flowers. If you're talking about the book, that is. (I'm picky because I love The Great Gatsby (the book, that is).) |
Anonymous
No, there is no polite way to tell somebody that their invitation is not polite. |
Anonymous
| How extremely odd...bring your own meat. |
Anonymous
| It's a very cheap one. The hosts obviously like the idea of a party but don't want to shell out any money for guests. You have been invited to share their space and talk to them and that's it. A potluck is one level of casualness but this goes even beyond that. |
Anonymous
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I wouldn't respond with mean-spirited thoughts. Maybe they love to have people over but can't quite afford to feed them? Some people aren't so "middle class" that their HHI is "only" $350K+.
If they are kind of strapped, I would feel that at least they value the company of friends even if they don't really have enough money right now. That's not a crime, so show some grace and don't be so quick to judge. Of course, if they're just being cheap bastards, they can suck it. |
Anonymous
| You said you weren't going to go, which was the right thing to do. You don't need to say anything else or point out that it was odd/rude. |
Anonymous
| I would probably go becaue you like the family so that is the most important issue. I would, however, just pack a picninc style meal for my family. I would not go through the hassle of bringing raw meat to someone's house. I might bring a shareable dessert. |
Anonymous
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These people seem like they have no friends or are completely in their own world. I have no problem with "bring a side dish, or dessert" but seriously?
There is no way I would attend...I also would not be friends with these people. |
Anonymous
| Very strange invite. I'd skip it entirely, to bring all that to someone's house is work! What is the host bringing? |