What kind of invitation is this anyways?
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Anonymous
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Our family was invited to a BBQ but the invite says: Please bring own meat or fish to grill; bring a salad or dessert; BYOB; and please bring lawn chairs. Also, if it rains, the party is cancelled.
I really like this family but this is too much work for me! This does not seem like much of an invite honestly. I bet we would not be allowed inside hence the rain cancellation notice. I host one or two cookouts per years and I provide everything, including lots of chairs and food and beer. When anyone asks what they can bring, I say, NOTHING, you really don't have to bring anything but if you want to - I tell them what I am serving and tell them they could bring anything they think complements the menu. And I hold cookouts even if it is raining. WE just move the fun indoors. sometimes, it is hard to tell if it is raining or just a passing shower or whatever, so I don't say cancelled if it is raining. What does anyone else think? |
Anonymous
 You are normal. Your friends are.. from another planet perhaps?
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Anonymous
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yeah...it sounds like they really aren't hosting anything.
Most casual BBQs I've been invited to, might ask for everyone to bring a side dish/dessert to share, but the hosts provide the meat, drinks, and certainly the chairs. I wonder if they will be providing things like plates, napkins, etc? I wouldn't count on it! |
Anonymous
| Are these people in college? If so, that sounds normal. But if they're "grownups," then that's asking a whole lot. |
Anonymous
| I don't get it. They expect you to get a bunch of food and beer and chairs and drag it to their yard for a party?! |
Anonymous
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Lame.
For that amount of trouble, you might as well just stay home and host some other friends. It would probably be more fun too. |
Anonymous
Oh that's so sad! Your friends must be so embarrassed that they forgot to tell you to bring the grill and the grill tongs. 
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Anonymous
| Now that you've told us, you have to go. So you can come back and report what it was like. |
Anonymous
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OP here - is there anyway for me to point this out to her without hurting her feelings???
She and her husband are in their 40's and have two kids ages 8 and 12. |
Anonymous
Don't forget the charcoal and lighter fluid. And chips, dips, sides, etc. |
Anonymous
| OP here - I am glad people agree with me..I was doubting my reaction to the invite. |
Anonymous
| Is this a neighborhood party? Other than that, very, very strange. |
Anonymous
Sounds like they haven't been invited to many social gatherings if they think this is normal. Start inviting them so they can learn. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like the Miss Manners column from a few days ago. Is this a new trend? |
Anonymous
| Are they Scandinavian by any chance? I have come across similar invitations from Norwegians... |