Anonymous wrote:My BIL is having a destination wedding next year. Round-trip flights are averaging in the $800 range. We can not afford for our family of five to attend (the kids are ages 5, 3, and 3). I let my husband know he is more than welcome to attend by himself and I will stay at home with the kids. Because of the travel distance and various wedding events, he would be gone 5 nights.
This past weekend, MIL went on and on about the wedding. She asked me if the kids were looking forward to the plane ride. I realized that DH never told MIL that only he was going to be able to go. So I stumbled around with my words but let her know that we were not attending due to the prohibitive cost. She was furious! "How could the kids miss their uncle's wedding, etc." At most, they see their uncle once a year. I told her kids would be fine, and that I'm pretty sure uncle would be fine too. Then MIL ranted how this uncle made the effort to attend our wedding. Um, he drove four hours and shared a hotel room with you.
Today, I received an e-mail from MIL expressing, once again, her disappointment. I forwarded to DH and asked him to respond to her from now on about the wedding. I don't think I'll be able to take this for the next 6 months.
Question: Are we wrong not to attend this wedding? Should we suck it up and save the $6000 it will cost us to attend?
We had a destination wedding. However, we saved up. Like mad. What we did was pay for everyone's travel so they can come and attend and be happy.
That was a bit selfish of them, and the MIL should realize the expense. However, a little game theory....perhaps, and this is just a thought, they didn't want many people to attend.
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