What type of women have emotional/physical affairs with married men?

[Anonymous]

my husband had has a relationship with a college student. We are separated now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:wow - you people are in way too deep with these affairs.

I just meet my affair for fun sex and leave. We have no problems at home - we're just horny.

This is me and I'm a woman. DH is attractive, funny, wonderful, perfect. My affair partner has something DH can never have and that is "difference". He is different, that is the attraction. I don't want to leave my marriage for him, I don't want to become his wife and have his babies. I rarely think about him when we're not together. We get together once in a while, talk, eat, fuck and go back to our lives.

How long have you been married? Is it ok if your dh does this too? If so, why not just agree to have an open marriage instead of doing it on the sly?

I don't see how satisfying horniness and a craving for difference can be more important than honor. That's just messed up.

I have found in working that there are very FEW people with ethics and integrity. I don't think there are many people who have any comprehension of what honor is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:wow - you people are in way too deep with these affairs.

I just meet my affair for fun sex and leave. We have no problems at home - we're just horny.

This is me and I'm a woman. DH is attractive, funny, wonderful, perfect. My affair partner has something DH can never have and that is "difference". He is different, that is the attraction. I don't want to leave my marriage for him, I don't want to become his wife and have his babies. I rarely think about him when we're not together. We get together once in a while, talk, eat, fuck and go back to our lives.

How long have you been married? Is it ok if your dh does this too? If so, why not just agree to have an open marriage instead of doing it on the sly?

I don't see how satisfying horniness and a craving for difference can be more important than honor. That's just messed up.

I have found in working that there are very FEW people with ethics and integrity. I don't think there are many people who have any comprehension of what honor is.

+1,000 This thread is so depressing. Interestingly, the people who have affairs either ignore the feelings of the innocent spouses - or they blame those spouses!

And THAT is the type of woman who has an affair with a married man. End of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my husband had has a relationship with a college student. We are separated now.

How old was your husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While there is no real justification for an affair, I'll just say this...

I'm in an affair at the moment. We're both married. I plan on leaving as soon as I'm financially able to. My husband knows this. He also knows that we haven't had sex in the last 10 years (been together for 20 years), he's simply no longer interested.

Trust me, a decade without a hug, without any human touch from someone you care about can drive people to do things they would normally never consider.

Could I have left years ago? Maybe. But the truth of the matter is my husband and I spent the last 10 years trying to fix our marriage. We've both worked so hard to save something that just isn't there any more.

In the end, I sat him down and told him how much I crave a physical touch, that I felt it was getting to a point where we should BOTH go and find what we need. He agreed.

I don't tell him that I've found, and fallen for someone that now provides that for me. I don't want to hurt him any more than necessary, even if we've agreed it's okay. If I even suspected he'd found someone too, then I wouldn't hesitate to tell him.

As for my AP....his children are younger than mine. He wants to save his marriage, and is doing everything he can to do just that. Yes, he's cheating....he feels incredibly guilty for it too.

His wife isn't evil. She's simply changed into something he struggles to live with. I fully believe that for him, the alternative would be to wrap his car around a tree. He doesn't WANT a divorce. He doesn't WANT to be having an affair.

The ache for the human touch is a strong one though.

I don't see a future with him. BUT for now we're both getting the love, acceptance and fulfillment that we don't get at home.

That's enough for us at the moment.

Wow, this is laughable. He wants to save his marriage. He'll do anything to save it - including fucking another woman.

And if he doesn't fuck you, he'll wrap his car around a tree. Yet he wants to save his marriage more than anything else.

And for you it all comes down to money.

Wow. Just wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:wow - you people are in way too deep with these affairs.

I just meet my affair for fun sex and leave. We have no problems at home - we're just horny.

Where do you meet?

[Anonymous]

sex on the side is one thing.
falling in love with someone else is another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:wow - you people are in way too deep with these affairs.

I just meet my affair for fun sex and leave. We have no problems at home - we're just horny.

This is me and I'm a woman. DH is attractive, funny, wonderful, perfect. My affair partner has something DH can never have and that is "difference". He is different, that is the attraction. I don't want to leave my marriage for him, I don't want to become his wife and have his babies. I rarely think about him when we're not together. We get together once in a while, talk, eat, fuck and go back to our lives.

How long have you been married? Is it ok if your dh does this too? If so, why not just agree to have an open marriage instead of doing it on the sly?

I don't see how satisfying horniness and a craving for difference can be more important than honor. That's just messed up.

I have found in working that there are very FEW people with ethics and integrity. I don't think there are many people who have any comprehension of what honor is.

+1,000 This thread is so depressing. Interestingly, the people who have affairs either ignore the feelings of the innocent spouses - or they blame those spouses!

And THAT is the type of woman who has an affair with a married man. End of story.

Your over generalization is stereotypical. No one is completely perfect and therefore spouses are not completely innocent. There are roles and culpability the spouses often play, whether that is ignoring their first intuition of the affair, ignoring past indiscretions, ignoring their partners needs, etc.

Your assumption that the other woman "ignores" the feelings of the innocent spouse is wrong. She may choose her needs over the feelings of the spouse but that doesn't mean there is no conflict and thought of what the wife of the AP goes through. You can label that action as selfish to choose ones needs over another, but that is not the same as ignoring.

Finally, it is convenient to have a third party to blame for everything that goes wrong with your marriage. It's like you are saying you had no control over the events. Fine if you want to be a martyr. However, you can choose to take control, confront your husband, and either heal the marriage or leave and find something better. People can only treat you as bad as you let them. Get your head out of the sand and stand up for yourself. Demand better for yourself and you will get better. By blaming the other woman, you still haven't addressed the husband who cheated on you and who could just find another woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:wow - you people are in way too deep with these affairs.

I just meet my affair for fun sex and leave. We have no problems at home - we're just horny.

This is me and I'm a woman. DH is attractive, funny, wonderful, perfect. My affair partner has something DH can never have and that is "difference". He is different, that is the attraction. I don't want to leave my marriage for him, I don't want to become his wife and have his babies. I rarely think about him when we're not together. We get together once in a while, talk, eat, fuck and go back to our lives.

How long have you been married? Is it ok if your dh does this too? If so, why not just agree to have an open marriage instead of doing it on the sly?

I don't see how satisfying horniness and a craving for difference can be more important than honor. That's just messed up.

I have found in working that there are very FEW people with ethics and integrity. I don't think there are many people who have any comprehension of what honor is.

+1,000 This thread is so depressing. Interestingly, the people who have affairs either ignore the feelings of the innocent spouses - or they blame those spouses!

And THAT is the type of woman who has an affair with a married man. End of story.

Your over generalization is stereotypical. No one is completely perfect and therefore spouses are not completely innocent. There are roles and culpability the spouses often play, whether that is ignoring their first intuition of the affair, ignoring past indiscretions, ignoring their partners needs, etc.

Your assumption that the other woman "ignores" the feelings of the innocent spouse is wrong. She may choose her needs over the feelings of the spouse but that doesn't mean there is no conflict and thought of what the wife of the AP goes through. You can label that action as selfish to choose ones needs over another, but that is not the same as ignoring.

Finally, it is convenient to have a third party to blame for everything that goes wrong with your marriage. It's like you are saying you had no control over the events. Fine if you want to be a martyr. However, you can choose to take control, confront your husband, and either heal the marriage or leave and find something better. People can only treat you as bad as you let them. Get your head out of the sand and stand up for yourself. Demand better for yourself and you will get better. By blaming the other woman, you still haven't addressed the husband who cheated on you and who could just find another woman.

No marriage is perfect. But the only person responsible for cheating is the cheater. Not the betrayed spouse. If you are unhappy in your marriage, address your marriage.

I agree that the lack of honor and integrity demonstrated on this thread is astonishing.

[Anonymous]

Finally, it is convenient to have a third party to blame for everything that goes wrong with your marriage. It's like you are saying you had no control over the events. Fine if you want to be a martyr. However, you can choose to take control, confront your husband, and either heal the marriage or leave and find something better. People can only treat you as bad as you let them. Get your head out of the sand and stand up for yourself. Demand better for yourself and you will get better. By blaming the other woman, you still haven't addressed the husband who cheated on you and who could just find another woman.

You can't take control if you don't know. As soon as wives find out they do "take control". But the husband's beg and the kids don't even know and the OW is texing up a storm. We demand better for ourselves and we either ditch the husband or suffer through, usually because there are kids involvoed.

But the OW is to blame. There is not just 1 person to blame, there are 2 - the cheater and the OW.

Betrayed spouses address the husband - just not here in a post that asks - what type of woman. We can start a thread on what type of man.

It is clear - the woman is very, very, very flawed - amoral, immoral, self-esteem issues, or just plain slutty. The question is what type of WOMAN and the question has been answered over and over and over. Many women admitted they did it when they were down, because they are horney, because they are immoral but don't care about others.

So it is not about blame the question is "whay type of woman" any you have your answer - you just don't like it.

[Anonymous]

There is no way a forum like this can explore the issues associated with having an affair.
Why even ask such a question on DCUM?
To provoke people?
Oh, I forgot, that's why most of these crap posts start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no way a forum like this can explore the issues associated with having an affair.
Why even ask such a question on DCUM?
To provoke people?
Oh, I forgot, that's why most of these crap posts start.

To get a poll/survey straight from the horse's mouth. There's only so much you can get from the cheating husband. Why would anybody ask for advice on where to buy an expensive investment like a house on an anonymous forum? Or advice on special needs children? Many will share their personal experiences!

[Anonymous]

Wow. If you are willing to listen to anonymous advice on house purchases and child-rearing, I feel sorry for you and your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. If you are willing to listen to anonymous advice on house purchases and child-rearing, I feel sorry for you and your family.

So you don't think people will share reliable information about neighborhoods? Somethings you take with a grain of salt, some thoughts give you new ideas. Open your decaying mind up a little.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:wow - you people are in way too deep with these affairs.

I just meet my affair for fun sex and leave. We have no problems at home - we're just horny.

This is me and I'm a woman. DH is attractive, funny, wonderful, perfect. My affair partner has something DH can never have and that is "difference". He is different, that is the attraction. I don't want to leave my marriage for him, I don't want to become his wife and have his babies. I rarely think about him when we're not together. We get together once in a while, talk, eat, fuck and go back to our lives.

How long have you been married? Is it ok if your dh does this too? If so, why not just agree to have an open marriage instead of doing it on the sly?

I don't see how satisfying horniness and a craving for difference can be more important than honor. That's just messed up.

I have found in working that there are very FEW people with ethics and integrity. I don't think there are many people who have any comprehension of what honor is.

+1,000 This thread is so depressing. Interestingly, the people who have affairs either ignore the feelings of the innocent spouses - or they blame those spouses!

And THAT is the type of woman who has an affair with a married man. End of story.

Your over generalization is stereotypical. No one is completely perfect and therefore spouses are not completely innocent. There are roles and culpability the spouses often play, whether that is ignoring their first intuition of the affair, ignoring past indiscretions, ignoring their partners needs, etc.

Your assumption that the other woman "ignores" the feelings of the innocent spouse is wrong. She may choose her needs over the feelings of the spouse but that doesn't mean there is no conflict and thought of what the wife of the AP goes through. You can label that action as selfish to choose ones needs over another, but that is not the same as ignoring.

Finally, it is convenient to have a third party to blame for everything that goes wrong with your marriage. It's like you are saying you had no control over the events. Fine if you want to be a martyr. However, you can choose to take control, confront your husband, and either heal the marriage or leave and find something better. People can only treat you as bad as you let them. Get your head out of the sand and stand up for yourself. Demand better for yourself and you will get better. By blaming the other woman, you still haven't addressed the husband who cheated on you and who could just find another woman.

No marriage is perfect. But the only person responsible for cheating is the cheater. Not the betrayed spouse. If you are unhappy in your marriage, address your marriage.

I agree that the lack of honor and integrity demonstrated on this thread is astonishing.

+ a million