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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]wow - you people are in way too deep with these affairs.

I just meet my affair for fun sex and leave.  We have no problems at home - we're just horny.  [/quote]

This is me and I'm a woman. DH is attractive, funny, wonderful, perfect. My affair partner has something DH can never have and that is "difference". He is different, that is the attraction. I don't want to leave my marriage for him, I don't want to become his wife and have his babies. I rarely think about him when we're not together. We get together once in a while, talk, eat, fuck and go back to our lives.  [/quote]

How long have you been married?  Is it ok if your dh does this too?  If so, why not just agree to have an open marriage instead of doing it on the sly?[/quote]

I don't see how satisfying horniness and a craving for difference can be more important than honor. That's just messed up.[/quote]

I have found in working that there are very FEW people with ethics and integrity.  I don't think there are many people who have any comprehension of what honor is.[/quote]

+1,000 This thread is so depressing. Interestingly,[b] the people who have affairs either ignore the feelings of the innocent spouses - or they blame those spouses! [/b]

And THAT is the type of woman who has an affair with a married man. End of story.

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Your over generalization is stereotypical.  No one is completely perfect and therefore spouses are not completely innocent.  There are roles and culpability the spouses often play, whether that is ignoring their first intuition of the affair, ignoring past indiscretions, ignoring their partners needs, etc.

Your assumption that the other woman "ignores" the feelings of the innocent spouse is wrong.  She may choose her needs over the feelings of the spouse but that doesn't mean there is no conflict and thought of what the wife of the AP goes through.  You can label that action as selfish to choose ones needs over another, but that is not the same as ignoring.

Finally, it is convenient to have a third party to blame for everything that goes wrong with your marriage.  It's like you are saying you had no control over the events.  Fine if you want to be a martyr.  However, you can choose to take control, confront your husband, and either heal the marriage or leave and find something better.  People can only treat you as bad as you let them.  Get your head out of the sand and stand up for yourself.  Demand better for yourself and you will get better.  By blaming the other woman, you still haven't addressed the husband who cheated on you and who could just find another woman.[/quote]

No marriage is perfect.  But the only person responsible for cheating is the cheater.  Not the betrayed spouse.  If you are unhappy in your marriage, address your marriage.

I agree that the lack of honor and integrity demonstrated on this thread is astonishing.

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