Post here all the reasons you aren't supermom

[Anonymous]

I can't wait for my DS to get home so I can fill him with some "processed" noodles and pasta sauce, then cuddle on the couch and watch Shaun the Sheep together until bedtime. I'm having a pre-snuggle glass of wine because it's the thing to do when cooking Italian, right? No bath, he had a bath yesterday and is clean enough. I'll wipe off the pasta sauce by wastefully using a handful of wipes.

My DS feels very loved, so I think I am supermom.

[Anonymous]

Am I perfect all the time? No. But my kids are well loved and very well taken care of.

I am supermom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm thinking of one mom in this mom's group I had when our kids were little in particular who took everything anyone said as an indication that they were trying to hard and used it as an opportunity to tell us all about how anti-super mom she was. It got old fast. It was interesting, because she was very smart and quick-witted, but obviously completely insecure. You couldn't ask for child book suggestions or breastfeeding help or anything that indicated you were trying to be the best parent you could be without her piping up about how her kid could watch hours of TV or how she didn't waste her time with breastfeeding or how she drank when she was breastfeeding. It was like "ok - we get it - you're proud that you're not wasting your time being a supermom." I guess because of that experience, I'm reading OP's post through the lense of thinking she's probably very insecure and judgy herself.

I am more like the anti-supermom in your mom's group, and I promise it doesn't come from a place of insecurity. In my mom's group, there are a couple of overeducated SAHMs* who have transferred all of their career ambition to the competitive sport of child raising. I actually completely understand where they are coming from because I am super Type A and very driven myself. When I was on maternity leave, I read every baby-related book I could get my hands on and completely threw myself into researching every aspect of parenting within an inch of its life. Then I went back to work, and I just don't have time to fret over whether every morsel of food that passes my son's lips is organic or whether we read at least 5 books to him every single day. And he is fine! Better than fine, he's happy and healthy and developing and learning just as fast as the kids of the mothers who spend hours making homemade toys and taking their kid to a Reggio Emilia based playgroup.

So when we all get together and one of the supermoms is angsting over how she's so terrible because her daughter had a bite of her Chipotle rice bowl yesterday, yes, I roll my eyes, and yes, I will probably offer that my son had his own Chipotle rice bowl twice last week. I promise it's not because I'm insecure. It's because I have developed some perspective on what things actually matter when it comes to raising a happy, healthy child.

*This is not meant as a generalization that all SAHMs are like the ones in my mom's group or that all the working moms are like me. To the contrary, some of the coolest, most laidback moms I know are SAHMs, and some of the worst parenting micromanagers are WOHMs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'm thinking of one mom in this mom's group I had when our kids were little in particular who took everything anyone said as an indication that they were trying to hard and used it as an opportunity to tell us all about how anti-super mom she was. It got old fast. It was interesting, because she was very smart and quick-witted, but obviously completely insecure. You couldn't ask for child book suggestions or breastfeeding help or anything that indicated you were trying to be the best parent you could be without her piping up about how her kid could watch hours of TV or how she didn't waste her time with breastfeeding or how she drank when she was breastfeeding. It was like "ok - we get it - you're proud that you're not wasting your time being a supermom." I guess because of that experience, I'm reading OP's post through the lense of thinking she's probably very insecure and judgy herself.

I am more like the anti-supermom in your mom's group, and I promise it doesn't come from a place of insecurity. In my mom's group, there are a couple of overeducated SAHMs* who have transferred all of their career ambition to the competitive sport of child raising. I actually completely understand where they are coming from because I am super Type A and very driven myself. When I was on maternity leave, I read every baby-related book I could get my hands on and completely threw myself into researching every aspect of parenting within an inch of its life. Then I went back to work, and I just don't have time to fret over whether every morsel of food that passes my son's lips is organic or whether we read at least 5 books to him every single day. And he is fine! Better than fine, he's happy and healthy and developing and learning just as fast as the kids of the mothers who spend hours making homemade toys and taking their kid to a Reggio Emilia based playgroup.

So when we all get together and one of the supermoms is angsting over how she's so terrible because her daughter had a bite of her Chipotle rice bowl yesterday, yes, I roll my eyes, and yes, I will probably offer that my son had his own Chipotle rice bowl twice last week. I promise it's not because I'm insecure. It's because I have developed some perspective on what things actually matter when it comes to raising a happy, healthy child.

*This is not meant as a generalization that all SAHMs are like the ones in my mom's group or that all the working moms are like me. To the contrary, some of the coolest, most laidback moms I know are SAHMs, and some of the worst parenting micromanagers are WOHMs.

Ok so maybe not insecure, but definitely snarky and judgy.

[Anonymous]

Trrrraaader joes, beyatches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trrrraaader joes, beyatches.

Fed my 16-month-old TJ's chimmichurri rice tonight. He ate it like it was his job.

[Anonymous]

I bought my kids corn dogs and lemonade for lunch at a festival in my hometown this weekend. It was not the first time so they knew to ask for them. When my 2 YO dropped hers in the grass, I picked it up and handed it right back to her.

[Anonymous]

We drink Slurpees daily now. Small ones with no caffeine. We watch tv for hours. My daughter seems really happy.

[Anonymous]

My 2 yo goes to the babysitting room at my gym with me on weekends, and I leave her in there for an extra little bit while I read the paper in the locker room.

[Anonymous]

I have an underweight toddler who is a super picky eater and was given instructions by the GI doctor to give him high calorie fatty foods.

I have been putting him in front of cartoons in the attempt to distract him to shove as much food in his mouth as he can handle.
I still don't succeed often to shove enough calories into him, so I resort to ice-cream. Every failed attempt to clear his place, an icecream container is out. At least he willingly opens his mouth for that.

I let my 2 year old watch youtube, he knows how to navigate from one cartoon or music clip to another and knows what they are. I just do the initial search, like alphabet song, or a mickey mouse clubhouse and he does the rest. I sometimes let him do this just so that I can prepare a meal in peace without having him tug at my leg or making a mess in the kitchen.


I am NOT a supermom. confessed.

[Anonymous]

I don't belong to a moms group, I'm old enough to remember the 70's and if I ask some of my older friends for mom advice I hear stuff that would really make you cringe (but i find hilarious) I'm not politically correct and I am pretty sure you would never try to play mommy one-ups w me because you know I would either deck you or just think you were stupid.

Seriously, if your kids are happy and well adjusted that's all that matters. It doesn't matter how they got that way so long as they are happy. some kids don't have food to eat or are homeless. Stop all this bullshit judging you contribute nothing to society.

[Anonymous]

i cried at 6pm infront of my 3yr old b/c (my only child btw) today b/c she hadn't napped and I was soooooooooo tired!
My only defence is it's day 1 of my cycle and I could be hormonal....

[Anonymous]

My teenagers and tween sometimes spend most of the day on the computer and watching tv. My house is always messy. I spend too much time on DCUM. I have a cocktail almost every night after work.

I think it's healthy to admit our flaws. Love this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an underweight toddler who is a super picky eater and was given instructions by the GI doctor to give him high calorie fatty foods.

I have been putting him in front of cartoons in the attempt to distract him to shove as much food in his mouth as he can handle.
I still don't succeed often to shove enough calories into him, so I resort to ice-cream. Every failed attempt to clear his place, an icecream container is out. At least he willingly opens his mouth for that.

I let my 2 year old watch youtube, he knows how to navigate from one cartoon or music clip to another and knows what they are. I just do the initial search, like alphabet song, or a mickey mouse clubhouse and he does the rest. I sometimes let him do this just so that I can prepare a meal in peace without having him tug at my leg or making a mess in the kitchen.


I am NOT a supermom. confessed.

Not to side track but - I am currently working on getting more high calories and fat in my son's diet and the most healthy way to do it is ice-cream (fat/calories/calcium). Also, after year of trying to get him to drink milk without chocolate - I put chocolate in his whole milk at the advice of a nurtitionist. (So funny to me - that in an attempt to be a super mom (drinking 2 percent milk with no chocolate) I was actually doing what was not best for him.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teenagers and tween sometimes spend most of the day on the computer and watching tv. My house is always messy. I spend too much time on DCUM. I have a cocktail almost every night after work.

I think it's healthy to admit our flaws. Love this thread.

I think it is healthy to be flawed. I say it is a gift to my future daughter in law - expectations are set low.