Post here all the reasons you aren't supermom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find that the people who worry the most about being judged are also the most judgmental. They shudder at the prospect that they'll be criticized the way they secretly criticize others and assessed by the same measures they assign to others. I like the spirit of the thread, I really do. But most of the posts remind me that the supposedly carefree, "I'm not a supermom and proud of it" crowd, is the most snarky, insecure, and judgmental group around, much worse than the supermoms (who the non-supermoms judge too).

This completely captures how I feel about this thread. And I don't see the connection between not liking OP's post and taking yourself too seriously or not being a fun mom. I 100% agree with the spirit of 13:13's post - I also think it's important to be a fun mom and I totally find myself "cutting corners in certain aspects." Don't disagree with that at all. But still - I've known moms that sound like OP and in my experience they've been the most judgy and defensive - especially toward anyone who was even attempting to do anything that sounded like a characteristic of a super-mom.

I'm thinking of one mom in this mom's group I had when our kids were little in particular who took everything anyone said as an indication that they were trying to hard and used it as an opportunity to tell us all about how anti-super mom she was. It got old fast. It was interesting, because she was very smart and quick-witted, but obviously completely insecure. You couldn't ask for child book suggestions or breastfeeding help or anything that indicated you were trying to be the best parent you could be without her piping up about how her kid could watch hours of TV or how she didn't waste her time with breastfeeding or how she drank when she was breastfeeding. It was like "ok - we get it - you're proud that you're not wasting your time being a supermom." I guess because of that experience, I'm reading OP's post through the lense of thinking she's probably very insecure and judgy herself.

[Anonymous]

If Trader Joes is wrong, I don't wanna be right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love this... Half the things that people are confessing I never even thought of as shameful. DD is only 4 mos. so most aren't relevant yet, but it never occurred to me that: (1) a glass of wine is dangerous, (2) Trader Joes is bad for you, (3) a six-yr old watching a movie is even noteworthy, (4) a couple pots in the sink are a problem, (5) reading DCUM = neglect. And apparently these things are so shameful that there are other Mom's who will scold you for such actions - and then claim you are bragging about them b/c you admit them on an anonymous forum. Clearly I am new at this but WTF?

I think that's part of the problem with this thread actually - the things people are admitting would never even occur to me to think about. Particularly the ones that have to do with leaving laundry in the dryer or pots in the sink. If I had to admit to a reason I'm not a supermom, those wouldn't even occur to me because I assume they are 100% normal and indicate nothing at all. It's making me wonder if some of these posters are sort of in their own way bragging that those are their biggest reasons for not being supermoms? Ohhh I'm such a bad mom, my kid eats tons of fruit and Cheerios. And then we're supposed to say "no no, you must be an amazing mom if that's the worst you can come up with!" and then the poster feels good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love this... Half the things that people are confessing I never even thought of as shameful. DD is only 4 mos. so most aren't relevant yet, but it never occurred to me that: (1) a glass of wine is dangerous, (2) Trader Joes is bad for you, (3) a six-yr old watching a movie is even noteworthy, (4) a couple pots in the sink are a problem, (5) reading DCUM = neglect. And apparently these things are so shameful that there are other Mom's who will scold you for such actions - and then claim you are bragging about them b/c you admit them on an anonymous forum. Clearly I am new at this but WTF?

I know, right. Like the poster who confesses she *gasp* gets dressed straight from the dryer. OH MY GOD! The horror. And giving your baby fruit with Honey Nut Cheerios?!! What the hell is this world coming to? Call CPS! Next thing you know, someone's going to admit they don't wash and blow dry their hair everyday. Ack!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find that the people who worry the most about being judged are also the most judgmental. They shudder at the prospect that they'll be criticized the way they secretly criticize others and assessed by the same measures they assign to others. I like the spirit of the thread, I really do. But most of the posts remind me that the supposedly carefree, "I'm not a supermom and proud of it" crowd, is the most snarky, insecure, and judgmental group around, much worse than the supermoms (who the non-supermoms judge too).

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This post isn't liberating, it's depressing.

[Anonymous]

Girl in playgroup asked the other day do we already have our kids' Halloween costumes picked out. I won't have my kid's picked out until maybe October 25. So not a supermom.

[Anonymous]

I love this... Half the things that people are confessing I never even thought of as shameful. DD is only 4 mos. so most aren't relevant yet, but it never occurred to me that: (1) a glass of wine is dangerous, (2) Trader Joes is bad for you, (3) a six-yr old watching a movie is even noteworthy, (4) a couple pots in the sink are a problem, (5) reading DCUM = neglect. And apparently these things are so shameful that there are other Mom's who will scold you for such actions - and then claim you are bragging about them b/c you admit them on an anonymous forum. Clearly I am new at this but WTF?

I know, right. Like the poster who confesses she *gasp* gets dressed straight from the dryer. OH MY GOD! The horror. And giving your baby fruit with Honey Nut Cheerios?!! What the hell is this world coming to? Call CPS! Next thing you know, someone's going to admit they don't wash and blow dry their hair everyday. Ack!!!

Ha, I'm the PP. Thanks for pointing out the cheerios and fruit. That didn't make my initial WTF list only because it seems so normal and healthy that I apparently read right over it. Brain couldn't. even. register. that it was perceived to be harmful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this... Half the things that people are confessing I never even thought of as shameful. DD is only 4 mos. so most aren't relevant yet, but it never occurred to me that: (1) a glass of wine is dangerous, (2) Trader Joes is bad for you, (3) a six-yr old watching a movie is even noteworthy, (4) a couple pots in the sink are a problem, (5) reading DCUM = neglect. And apparently these things are so shameful that there are other Mom's who will scold you for such actions - and then claim you are bragging about them b/c you admit them on an anonymous forum. Clearly I am new at this but WTF?

I know, right. Like the poster who confesses she *gasp* gets dressed straight from the dryer. OH MY GOD! The horror. And giving your baby fruit with Honey Nut Cheerios?!! What the hell is this world coming to? Call CPS! Next thing you know, someone's going to admit they don't wash and blow dry their hair everyday. Ack!!!

First, the dryer chick DOESNT EVEN HAVE KIDS. Think of the level of slack she might fall to when she actually has a child. She might....(wait for it)....wear jeans two days in a row!!!!!!

Second, I bet the fruit/honey nut cheerios poster doesn't admit it, but she probably gives her kids juice too!


AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP didn't say her kid was watching a movie. She said her 1yo was watching Narnia, which I assumed was one of the Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe movies, which are long and kind of scary. So I'm picturing her sitting there, drinking glasses of wine, her 3yo totally missing and her young kids watching hours of totally inappropriate TV, and I'm kind of shocked. The other one that got me was the "my kid eats Trader Joe's five nights a week.". Totally different than I left two pots in the sink or I'm on DCUM at 10 at night or I haven't taken the laundry out of the dryer yet.

Let me guess. You're the same poster who was trying to guilt-trip all the non-cookers on last week's thread, aren't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP didn't say her kid was watching a movie. She said her 1yo was watching Narnia, which I assumed was one of the Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe movies, which are long and kind of scary. So I'm picturing her sitting there, drinking glasses of wine, her 3yo totally missing and her young kids watching hours of totally inappropriate TV, and I'm kind of shocked. The other one that got me was the "my kid eats Trader Joe's five nights a week.". Totally different than I left two pots in the sink or I'm on DCUM at 10 at night or I haven't taken the laundry out of the dryer yet.

This post is so scary to me. Exactly how much time do you have on your hands? Your big sin is two pots? Wow. Good to know that even on an anonymous forum, ladies gotta lie about what they are doing behind their curtains. But if you are not, omg, live a little. Your poor spouse/significant other.

[Anonymous]

I like (need?) some down time and hate feeling over-scheduled. So I'm definitely not as efficient as the supermoms out there. But I'm happy!

[Anonymous]

I think the only reason PP mentionedthe honey nut cheering is that there have been numerous posts about how even plain cheering are too processed and even organic yogurt is a "treat" in some DCUM households.

[Anonymous]

Meant cheerios, not cheering!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:sanctimommy 35 up, 8 down

A parent who is overly devoted, micromanaging the lives of their children, from the food they ingest to the activities they participate in. Sanctimommies look down their noses at those who are more liberal in their parenting approach.
My mother is a sanctimommy because she won't let me eat any food with partially hydrogenated oil in it. She says it's like eating plastic.

from the urban dictionary.

I'll call your "Urban Dictionary" (whatever the fuck that is) and raise you "The New York Times."

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/12/24/weekinreview/24kantor.html

"...But the definition of sanctimony includes hypocrisy..."

You have zero reading comprehension if you didn't understand that "But the definition... no one is above the occasional tater tot" quote. The sanctimoniousness fits into the Urban Dictionary definition (which is correct) because no one is perfect. You are a sanctimommy because you aren't perfect, yet you judge another mom for drinking wine. When someone calls another mom a sanctimommy, they are saying "get over yourself."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP didn't say her kid was watching a movie. She said her 1yo was watching Narnia, which I assumed was one of the Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe movies, which are long and kind of scary. So I'm picturing her sitting there, drinking glasses of wine, her 3yo totally missing and her young kids watching hours of totally inappropriate TV, and I'm kind of shocked. The other one that got me was the "my kid eats Trader Joe's five nights a week.". Totally different than I left two pots in the sink or I'm on DCUM at 10 at night or I haven't taken the laundry out of the dryer yet.

This post is so scary to me. Exactly how much time do you have on your hands? Your big sin is two pots? Wow. Good to know that even on an anonymous forum, ladies gotta lie about what they are doing behind their curtains. But if you are not, omg, live a little. Your poor spouse/significant other.

Nope - someone mentioned leaving two pots in the sink before this post - that wasn't this poster's big confession. So no reason to be frightened.