When would it ever be appropriate to wear a 3-carat-diamond engagement ring at a job interview?

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There are many ridiculous comments here, bringing several twists to this thread. If the OP is genuine, the real answer is to impress with your personality and answers not with your ring. Some may be impressed, some may not care, but it will never matter to the one interviewing you, even if you were applying to sell diamonds. Think about it and keep the ring at home.

[Anonymous]

Regarding watch and ring wearing: I work with the public and it sometimes is not good to wear something that can get caught on something or damaged by some of the magnetics we use. Sounds like you are not in my line of work, but if you were hired, I'd tell you to leave the nice stuff at home...

[Anonymous]

I'd say if you normally wear it, don't take it off for an interview. It's important to find a workplace culture in which you can be yourself, because eventually you will get tired of pretending to be something else. If it is a tasteful ring, most people won't notice. If they do, they may assume you (or at least your DH) are pretty well off, but so what? I can't imagine that undermining or making up for a deficit in your academic and professional history.

That said, I would be embarrassed to drive a new luxury car even though my earnings could support it at this point, in part because I personally feel like luxury cars are a silly thing to spend money on (being depreciating assets and all) and in part because the superiors I negotiate salary with drive modest cars. I don't want them to think they must be over paying me.

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Anonymous wrote:I always assume big rings (over 2 carats) are fake. I wear a 1.9 ct high grade Tiffany's diamond that cost 23K set in platinum. I have medium sized fingers and anything bigger than 2 would look pretty garish.

Only morons would tout tiffanys rather than be embarassed for overpaying.

for realz. Do people still buy anything other than charm bracelets from Tiffany's?

Yes, if one has the money.

Actually people with real money buy their jewelry from real jewelers, not box retail stores.....pretty much the difference between shopping at Pottery Barn or working with a interior designer and shopping custom built.

Yep. And most people with a lot of money are too smart to spend a premium just for a blue box.

Sorry, the fact is that there are lots of people with money (old money and new) who do buy serious jewels from Tiffany. You just don't know any.

You're right. I know tons of people with a lot of money: my family, all of my neighbors, many of my friends, fellow parents at our private school, and frankly, myself. None of the people I know would shop at Tiffany for serious jewelry. They shop at places like Boone & Sons, Pampillonia, Chas. Schwartz and with private jewelers here and in NY. I agree with the poster who equated Tiffany to Pottery Barn. Anyone who knows better would prefer a custom piece to something mass-produced and overpriced.

Back to the original question. I did not wear my 3 carat engagement ring when I was interviewing at law firms many moons ago. Mainly, I didn't want to draw attention to the fact that I was married and of child-bearing age. If I were to jump back in the law firm arena at this point in my life, post-kids, I wouldn't hesitate to wear it.

PP makes a very good point. If you are in your twenties with little work history and wearing a ring like that, it suggests that your DH is pretty established, that you are probably going to be ready to start a family soon, and that you can afford to quit and SAHM. It's unfair, but employers might be reluctant to invest in someone like that. Make sure your personal track record is impressive enough to indicate that you will go the extra mile and stay late when needed rather than rushing home to DH at dinner time each night.

[Anonymous]

Do you seriously think men sit around and fret about wearing an expensive watch to an interview?

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I would think a) you're a golddigger or b) come from family money and married into family money.

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Don't wear it. No matter what people say here- the person or people interviewing you will notice it. I have a nice very beautiful 2+ carat ring. Every time I wore it to an interview people kept looking at it. Maybe they were doing it unconsciously but i noticed it and it really bothered me that this was happening. So I stopped wearing it to interviews- that's when I finally got a job which is paying me a very high salary. Leave it at home and wear the band. Otherwise yes- people will make assumptions based on it.

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Anonymous wrote:My engagement ring is 4.5 carats and I never wear it anymore unless it's a special occasion.

Seriously? Nobody cares. Only thing is that when a ring is that big, people will think it's CUBIC ZIRCONIA!

you are such trash. Your comment is ridiculous. Anyone from the right background can tell the difference you idiot. My aunt and my MIL have rings with the center diamond over 8 carts. Neither look in the least like fake stones. God, go back to your trailer.

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Anonymous wrote:I always assume big rings (over 2 carats) are fake. I wear a 1.9 ct high grade Tiffany's diamond that cost 23K set in platinum. I have medium sized fingers and anything bigger than 2 would look pretty garish.

Only morons would tout tiffanys rather than be embarassed for overpaying.

Considering all diamonds are artificially inflated in price, we consciously decided that we would overpay at Tiffany for something we perceive to have value, rather than try to get the biggest rock for the cheapest price. So my wife loves her smaller 1.25 or so very high quality Tiffany engagement ring. If you're paying for the experience, the little blue box is with it rather than some crass giant probably flawed bought through some family hookup in NYC.

I have also heard that Tiffany diamonds are less likely to be "blood diamonds". Is that true? If so, that's worth the price.

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Anonymous wrote:My engagement ring is 4.5 carats and I never wear it anymore unless it's a special occasion.

Seriously? Nobody cares. Only thing is that when a ring is that big, people will think it's CUBIC ZIRCONIA!

you are such trash. Your comment is ridiculous. Anyone from the right background can tell the difference you idiot. My aunt and my MIL have rings with the center diamond over 8 carts. Neither look in the least like fake stones. God, go back to your trailer.

She's trash, but rings with 8 carats in the center diamond aren't?

[Anonymous]

Gigantic rings and LV bags always carry the suspicion of phonyness, and no, no one can tell the difference from a distance of 2 feet!

[Anonymous]

Well, I think we've beaten this one to death. I, for one, don't wear a big ring to the office (and yes mine are real). I don't want to be mugged in the parking lot, I don't want to damage it, I don't want to create envy with colleagues or subordinates, I don't want it to be noticed during meetings. I think it sends all the wrong messages to clients and to associates as do the name purse. When I started out in practice, a newly-married associate wore a high-mounted 2 kt round-cut diamond. I think it was a mistake because it just really stuck out in a 250 year old Boston Brahmin law firm. The women in that firm of serious money wore emerald cuts because you can wear more karats that way and still be discrete. But, still, no diamonds over 2 at all. It all comes down to taste and wisdom.

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This thread is old, guys. OP already had her interview almost two years ago!

[Anonymous]

Lol *checks how many figure I have in my bank account and doesn’t respond but keeps scrolling*

[Anonymous]

It can communicate “DH can provide so I’m out of here as soon as I have a baby or something annoys me.”