When would it ever be appropriate to wear a 3-carat-diamond engagement ring at a job interview?

[Anonymous]

yawn. only in a very specific part of this society would this discussion ever occur.

wear your ring. don't wear your ring. who cares?

if you don't get hired because of a 3 carat ring consider yourself lucky. why would you want to work somewhere where the size of your ring influences hiring decisions?

the reality check is that most people who are normal, well adjusted souls trying to do a good job/live a decent life don't give a rat's a$$ what type of ring a person is wearing. unless they find it aesthetically pleasing to look at.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always assume big rings (over 2 carats) are fake. I wear a 1.9 ct high grade Tiffany's diamond that cost 23K set in platinum. I have medium sized fingers and anything bigger than 2 would look pretty garish.

Only morons would tout tiffanys rather than be embarassed for overpaying.

for realz. Do people still buy anything other than charm bracelets from Tiffany's?

It's just Tiffany people.

[Anonymous]

Wouldnt they (potential employers) be negotiating what you are worth, not what you "need"?
I agree with the pp that you wouldn't want to work for someone where they even take this ring into consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wouldnt they (potential employers) be negotiating what you are worth, not what you "need"?
I agree with the pp that you wouldn't want to work for someone where they even take this ring into consideration.

Employers are people, and they are subconsciously affected by an applicant's appearance, regardless of how objective they or others may think they are. Anyone who does not put a thought into every item she wears or brings into the interview is not making the most of an opportunity, especially in this employers' market.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are twentysomething, or early 30s and childless, I would not wear a big ring, if only because I think it subconsciously calls attention to your wedding and the possibility that you are imminently going to have a baby. I know that discrimination based on children is illegal, but I do think it puts it out there. I think somewhat older women can carry off more jewelry without it being as noticeable.

+ 1

And, it really depends on how much it has a "look at me!!!!" setting. I do think that honkin' jewels look much better on older women.

I would wear a little pin that says Menopause Over Phew! That way they won't worry about you being distracted by a pesky family. Sad but true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are twentysomething, or early 30s and childless, I would not wear a big ring, if only because I think it subconsciously calls attention to your wedding and the possibility that you are imminently going to have a baby. I know that discrimination based on children is illegal, but I do think it puts it out there. I think somewhat older women can carry off more jewelry without it being as noticeable.

+ 1

And, it really depends on how much it has a "look at me!!!!" setting. I do think that honkin' jewels look much better on older women.

I would wear a little pin that says Menopause Over Phew! That way they won't worry about you being distracted by a pesky family. Sad but true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wouldnt they (potential employers) be negotiating what you are worth, not what you "need"?
I agree with the pp that you wouldn't want to work for someone where they even take this ring into consideration.

Employers are people, and they are subconsciously affected by an applicant's appearance, regardless of how objective they or others may think they are. Anyone who does not put a thought into every item she wears or brings into the interview is not making the most of an opportunity, especially in this employers' market.

I couldn't agree with this more. If I was interviewing for a job I really want, I would not wear anything that I thought might disadvantage me in the process. I would even remove my wedding ring for most places to eliminate any conscious or subconscious discrimination against moms or future moms. Like it or not, interviewers are human and they don't have to verbalized a prejudice but can still use it against you. An interview takes a few minutes or a few hours. I have no problem taking wedding or engagement rings off for that duration if I had any doubts.

[Anonymous]

To verbalize

[Anonymous]

Agree. Rude response.

[Anonymous]

My "rude responses" comment referred to 00.3

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the tacky obsession with such large rings.

It screams insecurity and just attracts the fool who wants to steal it.

lose-lose situation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My engagement ring is 4.5 carats and I never wear it anymore unless it's a special occasion.

Seriously? Nobody cares. Only thing is that when a ring is that big, people will think it's CUBIC ZIRCONIA!

Maybe in your world, PP, but not in mine. I am not the 4.5 carat poster but would never suspect someone I know of wearing a "fake" diamond ring. Also, a large diamond it doesnt always mean any one spent a great deal of money. Lots of people I know (including myself) have family heirlooms for their engagement rings, some have family stones re-set, and some buy new or at estate sales. 4.5 carats may be on the larger size for an engagement ring (know lots of women with much larger diamond rings that are not engagement rings - MIL has a 10 carat heirloom ring) but it certainly doesnt say "fake" to some people. Silly thing to say and reflects only on you, not on other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always assume big rings (over 2 carats) are fake. I wear a 1.9 ct high grade Tiffany's diamond that cost 23K set in platinum. I have medium sized fingers and anything bigger than 2 would look pretty garish.

Only morons would tout tiffanys rather than be embarassed for overpaying.

for realz. Do people still buy anything other than charm bracelets from Tiffany's?

Yes, if one has the money.

Actually people with real money buy their jewelry from real jewelers, not box retail stores.....pretty much the difference between shopping at Pottery Barn or working with a interior designer and shopping custom built.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always assume big rings (over 2 carats) are fake. I wear a 1.9 ct high grade Tiffany's diamond that cost 23K set in platinum. I have medium sized fingers and anything bigger than 2 would look pretty garish.

Only morons would tout tiffanys rather than be embarassed for overpaying.

for realz. Do people still buy anything other than charm bracelets from Tiffany's?

Yes, if one has the money.

Actually people with real money buy their jewelry from real jewelers, not box retail stores.....pretty much the difference between shopping at Pottery Barn or working with a interior designer and shopping custom built.

Yep. And most people with a lot of money are too smart to spend a premium just for a blue box.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always assume big rings (over 2 carats) are fake. I wear a 1.9 ct high grade Tiffany's diamond that cost 23K set in platinum. I have medium sized fingers and anything bigger than 2 would look pretty garish.

Only morons would tout tiffanys rather than be embarassed for overpaying.

for realz. Do people still buy anything other than charm bracelets from Tiffany's?

Yes, if one has the money.

Actually people with real money buy their jewelry from real jewelers, not box retail stores.....pretty much the difference between shopping at Pottery Barn or working with a interior designer and shopping custom built.

Yep. And most people with a lot of money are too smart to spend a premium just for a blue box.

Sorry, the fact is that there are lots of people with money (old money and new) who do buy serious jewels from Tiffany. You just don't know any.