When would it ever be appropriate to wear a 3-carat-diamond engagement ring at a job interview?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am an HR Specialist. I have never, not once, taken more than a passing interest in the size of an applicant's ring. When decision time comes, I assure you that I am not even remotely interested in your ring.

FWIW I work in non-profit HR -- both for large organizations (100+) and tiny (under 10).

This. Only someone who is completely either unqualified or a recent SAHM would think anyone cares about her ring.

Not true if you are interviewing at a very high level with a partner or senior executive and so will never deal personally with the staff in HR.

[Anonymous]

If you are twentysomething, or early 30s and childless, I would not wear a big ring, if only because I think it subconsciously calls attention to your wedding and the possibility that you are imminently going to have a baby. I know that discrimination based on children is illegal, but I do think it puts it out there. I think somewhat older women can carry off more jewelry without it being as noticeable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are twentysomething, or early 30s and childless, I would not wear a big ring, if only because I think it subconsciously calls attention to your wedding and the possibility that you are imminently going to have a baby. I know that discrimination based on children is illegal, but I do think it puts it out there. I think somewhat older women can carry off more jewelry without it being as noticeable.

+ 1

And, it really depends on how much it has a "look at me!!!!" setting. I do think that honkin' jewels look much better on older women.

[Anonymous]

Hello. I'm OP and I appreciate all the responses, after reading which I have decide that I will not remove my ring just for the interview. The job is in finance, in an office where others are of similar net worth and wear similar jewelry and clothes. I will be interviewing with a senior executive, not HR. I am older and have already had my children, so the very good point against younger women's wearing big rings because it hints at an imminent maternity leave does not apply to me. Lastly, my ring is in an understated setting, as some have pointed out would be a factor. Thank you for all your helpful advice, and even for the unhelpful replies that were entertaining.

[Anonymous]

I never take mine off so it wouldn't be an issue. If anyone asks about it, it's gorgeous, etc. I tell them it's a family heirloom. My DH's grandma's ring and leave it at that.

It's pretty amazing since she got it at the height of the great depression. Worth more than both our cars combined and we drive luxury cars. It'll go to DS and his future wife. Lucky girl.

[Anonymous]

I'm giving my engagement ring to my DD, not my DS's future wife, and both my children understand why. In the event of a divorce, a daughter-in-law could try to keep the ring -- unless you have a trust set up or some agreement.

[Anonymous]

No DD, unfortunately. The reason I got the ring is b/c DH doesn't have a sister only a confirmed bachelor brother. I will not mind if DS's wife gets to keep the ring in case of divorce as long as I know it'll go to their children eventually.

I know I will be getting all of mother-in-law's heirloom jewelry, since no one else in the family can wear it. She knows I'll be passing it on to our kids' wives.

[Anonymous]

I am a 3 carat girl. My son will be getting engaged and I am toying with giving the stone to his future wife (we inherited it from my husbands family)' in all honesty, it does not fit my lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hard to effectively negotiate salary with a ring of that size, IMO.

This could work in a different direction, putting upward pressure on the salary offer if the company wants to make their offer attractive enough that you take the job. An applicant of some wealth will not be enticed by a small salary.

This was exactly what I was thinking (and I've done quite a bit of hiring).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always assume big rings (over 2 carats) are fake. I wear a 1.9 ct high grade Tiffany's diamond that cost 23K set in platinum. I have medium sized fingers and anything bigger than 2 would look pretty garish.

Only morons would tout tiffanys rather than be embarassed for overpaying.

for realz. Do people still buy anything other than charm bracelets from Tiffany's?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 3 carat girl. My son will be getting engaged and I am toying with giving the stone to his future wife (we inherited it from my husbands family)' in all honesty, it does not fit my lifestyle.

If ur old enough to have a son that is getting engaged, get over yourself, you're not a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always assume big rings (over 2 carats) are fake. I wear a 1.9 ct high grade Tiffany's diamond that cost 23K set in platinum. I have medium sized fingers and anything bigger than 2 would look pretty garish.

Only morons would tout tiffanys rather than be embarassed for overpaying.

for realz. Do people still buy anything other than charm bracelets from Tiffany's?

Yes, if one has the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never take mine off so it wouldn't be an issue. If anyone asks about it, it's gorgeous, etc. I tell them it's a family heirloom. My DH's grandma's ring and leave it at that.

It's pretty amazing since she got it at the height of the great depression. Worth more than both our cars combined and we drive luxury cars. It'll go to DS and his future wife. Lucky girl.

Wow, that is amazing. So the ring is worth $80,000 or so? Are you ever afraid you'll loose it or it will be stolen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a 3 carat girl. My son will be getting engaged and I am toying with giving the stone to his future wife (we inherited it from my husbands family)' in all honesty, it does not fit my lifestyle.

If ur old enough to have a son that is getting engaged, get over yourself, you're not a girl.

What a nasty response!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a 3 carat girl. My son will be getting engaged and I am toying with giving the stone to his future wife (we inherited it from my husbands family)' in all honesty, it does not fit my lifestyle.

If ur old enough to have a son that is getting engaged, get over yourself, you're not a girl.

What a nasty response!

Agree. Completely unnecessary.