How much sex do you think you averaged per week in 2025

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:O times.

Both 65.

Not really a choice. Health issues on both sides.

Sex doesn't last forever in many cases.

It’s perfectly fine as long as both spouses are okay. Problem comes when one spouse unilaterally declares the marriage sexless and expects the other spouse to be okay with it.

The reverse is more problematic.

How so?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:O times.

Both 65.

Not really a choice. Health issues on both sides.

Sex doesn't last forever in many cases.

It’s perfectly fine as long as both spouses are okay. Problem comes when one spouse unilaterally declares the marriage sexless and expects the other spouse to be okay with it.

The reverse is more problematic.

How so?

NP but if the scenario is one spouse deciding a couple is not going to have sex "unilaterally" and expecting the other to be okay with it, then the reverse of that scenario is one spouse deciding that a couple is going to have sex unilaterally and expecting the other to be okay with it. The word we have to describe that action is rape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Less than once a week. Almost zero. The high point was a vacation where we had sex every morning. That was about all the sex for the year. That, plus maybe 2 other days. So if I think about it, I think we had sex 7 times this year. I'm 50, she's late 40s

Are you okay with this? Why not make time for more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you both?

Why everything has to be a competition?

No, because age tells a lot about people's drive, sexual capacity etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Less than once a week. Almost zero. The high point was a vacation where we had sex every morning. That was about all the sex for the year. That, plus maybe 2 other days. So if I think about it, I think we had sex 7 times this year. I'm 50, she's late 40s

Are you okay with this? Why not make time for more.

Not really. I can admit that I'm not good at initiating. We have kids in the 6 to 13 range. She keeps busy with lots of things. I also have things that keep me busy, too. She hasn't seemed bothered by our lack of sex. I was surprised when she brought it up on vacation

[Anonymous]

Consistent 1 to 2X per week; 61 and 59.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:O times.

Both 65.

Not really a choice. Health issues on both sides.

Sex doesn't last forever in many cases.

It’s perfectly fine as long as both spouses are okay. Problem comes when one spouse unilaterally declares the marriage sexless and expects the other spouse to be okay with it.

The reverse is more problematic.

How so?

NP but if the scenario is one spouse deciding a couple is not going to have sex "unilaterally" and expecting the other to be okay with it, then the reverse of that scenario is one spouse deciding that a couple is going to have sex unilaterally and expecting the other to be okay with it. The word we have to describe that action is rape.

Not even close. When two people decide to get married, they are both agreeing to have a sexual relationship.

[Anonymous]

0.173 per week.

[Anonymous]

Why do so many people know this? Do they keep a calendar?
I can see how you know if it’s zero or literally every single night, but I couldn’t tell you if the average was once a week or three times a week.

This kind of reminds me of discussions with women where they can tell you the exact number of calories they eat every day and expect that everyone else keeps track of this information too. I don’t know. I eat when I’m hungry and then I stop when I’m full. I usually eat at mealtimes, but if I’m not hungry or I’m busy with something else at that time, then I don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do so many people know this? Do they keep a calendar?
I can see how you know if it’s zero or literally every single night, but I couldn’t tell you if the average was once a week or three times a week.

This kind of reminds me of discussions with women where they can tell you the exact number of calories they eat every day and expect that everyone else keeps track of this information too. I don’t know. I eat when I’m hungry and then I stop when I’m full. I usually eat at mealtimes, but if I’m not hungry or I’m busy with something else at that time, then I don’t.

There's a difference between keeping track of how much you eat and keeping track of when you ate last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:O times.

Both 65.

Not really a choice. Health issues on both sides.

Sex doesn't last forever in many cases.

It’s perfectly fine as long as both spouses are okay. Problem comes when one spouse unilaterally declares the marriage sexless and expects the other spouse to be okay with it.

The reverse is more problematic.

How so?

NP but if the scenario is one spouse deciding a couple is not going to have sex "unilaterally" and expecting the other to be okay with it, then the reverse of that scenario is one spouse deciding that a couple is going to have sex unilaterally and expecting the other to be okay with it. The word we have to describe that action is rape.

Not even close. When two people decide to get married, they are both agreeing to have a sexual relationship.

100% I didn't agree to this with DH. I was misled into thinking I might have physical intimacy in my marriage.

[Anonymous]

Married, age 50. 1x per month. Actually a slight improvement, which is sad.

[Anonymous]

why do avoidant partners do that? To gain power, sympathy, control or they like the chase? Not good for the relationship if they want to be with a partner long term, then why do it to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do so many people know this? Do they keep a calendar?
I can see how you know if it’s zero or literally every single night, but I couldn’t tell you if the average was once a week or three times a week.

Most people gave ranges, which really isn’t that difficult to estimate. I’d argue the opposite to your point—you not being able to tell the difference between once or three times a week is really odd. That’s a huge difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do so many people know this? Do they keep a calendar?
I can see how you know if it’s zero or literally every single night, but I couldn’t tell you if the average was once a week or three times a week.

This kind of reminds me of discussions with women where they can tell you the exact number of calories they eat every day and expect that everyone else keeps track of this information too. I don’t know. I eat when I’m hungry and then I stop when I’m full. I usually eat at mealtimes, but if I’m not hungry or I’m busy with something else at that time, then I don’t.

You have low neuroticism.